tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-82977325270030356492024-02-18T17:39:36.131-08:00SassY LadYNithzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15697318027346506274noreply@blogger.comBlogger50125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8297732527003035649.post-33590610653753913822011-05-16T07:28:00.000-07:002011-05-16T08:00:01.025-07:00Married..<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEikjLF_bD9pg-do3fvahnOuhw6kdneU5IPdgEWwWLSHskJMte5FLegjc9YbspMNCXNtbQh2GfH6zaLYDNwqlZ5HAmghM4yVFmYfS3GtMOPbd8rH-rCBLoL3Ek5aiWvReJkItqq4XgSBUq8T/s1600/11_70_36_100.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5607327131794735074" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 224px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 320px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEikjLF_bD9pg-do3fvahnOuhw6kdneU5IPdgEWwWLSHskJMte5FLegjc9YbspMNCXNtbQh2GfH6zaLYDNwqlZ5HAmghM4yVFmYfS3GtMOPbd8rH-rCBLoL3Ek5aiWvReJkItqq4XgSBUq8T/s320/11_70_36_100.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><br /><br /><div><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong><span style="font-size:180%;">In </span></strong>your married life there comes a stage when couples hardly feel romantic and convey their inner feelings to one another. They start taking one another for granted and whatever they say or do they think that the idea behind it is implied and need not be conveyed in words to make out that they love one another. By this I mean that couples don't say words like <strong>'I Love You'</strong> and <strong>'I am Sorry'</strong> anymore and thus in a way the excitement in the relationship dies out with frustration creeping in. No matter how strong your relationship is it is very important to keep the marriage alive and exciting, that you have to feel more caring and loving towards your partner and express yourself through words. It's a fact that at the beginning of our relationships, we send cards describing our love and send flowers when we are sorry. Over time, not only do we forget to give our partners small gifts of affection, but sometimes, we forget to say how we feel. There are a few magic words that we must try to say to our loved ones every day or whenever appropriate. </span></div><br /><br /><br /><div><br /><br /><br /></div><br /><br /><br /><div><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong>I Love You</strong></span></div><br /><br /><br /><div><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Saying these words will not only make you feel good but will give your partner a sense of security and happiness. Say these words before leaving for work and when you come home. Say, "I love you" before hanging up the phone or after a particularly inspiring conversation. Every marriage needs a daily dose of these three important words. Even if you are angry with your partner but saying these magic words will make you forget everything and make both of you happy. </span></div><br /><br /><br /><div><br /><br /><br /></div><br /><br /><br /><div><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong>You are beautiful/cute</strong> </span></div><br /><br /><br /><div><span style="font-family:Arial;"></span><br /></div><br /><br /><br /><div><span style="font-family:arial;">You are beautiful/cute Or sweet, handsome, sexy - whichever words are appropriate. When we first start dating, we compliment our partner daily but after marriage we think that it is not required. But you are very much mistaken. It is always good to tell your partner how beautiful/handsome you think they are and how lucky you are that they are in your life. Women in particular need to be reminded, especially during pregnancy, after giving birth and on birthdays! Men also need to be told they are attractive, though they may not admit it! A compliment a day improves our intimate lives in ways we cannot even imagine.</span></div><br /><br /><br /><div><br /><br /><br /></div><br /><br /><br /><div><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong>I am sorry</strong> </span></div><br /><br /><br /><div><br /></div><br /><br /><br /><div><span style="font-family:arial;">Never feel ashamed or egoistic to say these words for just these three words can make a world of difference. But when you say it, mean it. Don't say it if you just want to make the other person keep quite. And avoid the word "but"! This can kill our apology. To our lover's ears, "I'm sorry but…" translates to "I'm not really sorry, and I am just saying I'm sorry to allow myself to give an excuse." </span></div><br /><br /><br /><div><br /><br /></div><br /><br /><br /><div><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong>I need you</strong> </span></div><br /><br /><br /><div><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">You need to tell your partner how important he/she is for you. We need to let our spouse know that we not only appreciate them, but we need them to be with us in our life and life without them is incomplete. Make it more romantic by sending them an e-mail describing how impossible it is to live without them or write them a note and slip it into their briefcase, lunch box or purse. Just like women need to hear they are still attractive, men particularly need to know their wives depend on them..</span></div><br /><br /><br /><div><br /><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong>Thank You</strong></span></div><br /><br /><br /><div><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Make it a point to thank your spouse for every nice thing that he does. Why do we thank the cashier at the super-market or the librarian or the liftman or our friends and never thank our partner. Thank your spouse for making dinner, washing dishes, helping the kids with studies and preparing the kids for school in the morning. Thank your partner for bringing home a paycheck, buying your favourite desert and coming home early. Be romantic and send your spouse an e-card or put a sticky note on the bathroom mirror thanking him for everything and for coming into your life. </span></div><br /><br /><br /><div><br /><br /></div><br /><br /><br /><div><span style="font-family:Arial;font-size:85%;"></span></div>Nithzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15697318027346506274noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8297732527003035649.post-18688010134388275302010-09-05T07:45:00.001-07:002010-09-05T07:56:45.712-07:00YoU ..<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjN1KmtgULfEVMybn9jalfrEm5BNyla74BHqYtokexQ9BN4T4QV1DjZ5fOgW2mf1-Hikv3BmzZf1g1dFBVmSHZX3e1N28T8gVN4Iw0_tutt4XeHymL6hPR3uIkpAoW3p5kOTqApDNeQUgxu/s1600/love-you-.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5513440870709208162" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 257px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjN1KmtgULfEVMybn9jalfrEm5BNyla74BHqYtokexQ9BN4T4QV1DjZ5fOgW2mf1-Hikv3BmzZf1g1dFBVmSHZX3e1N28T8gVN4Iw0_tutt4XeHymL6hPR3uIkpAoW3p5kOTqApDNeQUgxu/s320/love-you-.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div><span style="font-family:arial;color:#cc33cc;"><strong>YOU..</strong></span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;"></span> </div><div><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Whisper sounds</span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;">that comfort,</span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;">that soothe the soul </span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;">and float softly into my mind.</span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;"></span> </div><div><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Your words</span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;">wrap around my heart</span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;">and sizzle into my nerves</span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;">warming my body.</span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;">It’s delicious.</span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;"></span> </div><div><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Arms</span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;">contain my feelings</span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;">and slide them into their</span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;">own hearts.</span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;">We fly.</span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;"></span> </div><div><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">You hold me,</span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;">make your little humming noises</span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;">you tuck your face</span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;">between my neck and shoulder.</span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;">It’s warm.</span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;"></span> </div><div><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">You rock us,</span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;">back and forth,</span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;">back and forth…</span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;">Like dancing.</span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;"></span> </div><div><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">My heart reaches out,</span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;">to touch yours.</span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;">A hushed love</span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;">flows briefly.</span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;">Then you let go, to join the game.</span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;">I’m alone.</span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;"></span> </div><div><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Before you leave,</span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;">you look at me.</span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;">Your eyes are crystals,</span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;">they sparkle as they</span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;">hold my gaze.</span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;">They’re beautiful.</span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;"></span> </div><div><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">You smile,</span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;">lifting my spirits and</span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;">warming me again.</span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;">My heart flips,</span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;">I love it.</span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;"></span> </div><div><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">And as you stand</span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;">a few feet away,</span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;">I watch your movements.</span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;">I’m waiting for you to get out,</span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;">so you can</span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;color:#cc33cc;"><strong>Hug Me Again!</strong></span></div><div><strong><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#cc33cc;"></span></strong> </div><div> </div><div><span style="font-family:arial;"></span> </div><div> </div>Nithzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15697318027346506274noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8297732527003035649.post-17236960244520215982010-08-24T07:12:00.000-07:002010-08-30T07:09:22.042-07:00Rules in Office..<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiEGaTsxU-VztTr4nAyvpS2pl0fcJK-cyYweEDHWaTn9guH2we48I75lFbDF1cYRoNwTqnMmmegJkuc2m7dUZHZxDqaf08sQp113Qds4IQ0WLJD0mBasA9NsKrjpmUd9lsehXdI2m8hOw0G/s1600/get_a_dog.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5511204176547430274" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 225px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiEGaTsxU-VztTr4nAyvpS2pl0fcJK-cyYweEDHWaTn9guH2we48I75lFbDF1cYRoNwTqnMmmegJkuc2m7dUZHZxDqaf08sQp113Qds4IQ0WLJD0mBasA9NsKrjpmUd9lsehXdI2m8hOw0G/s320/get_a_dog.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div></div><ol><br /><li><span style="font-family:arial;">Rule 1. - The Boss is always right. </span></li><br /><br /><li><span style="font-family:arial;">Rule 2. - If the Boss is wrong, see rule 1</span></li><br /><br /><li><span style="font-family:arial;">Those who work get more work. Others get pay, perks, and promotions. </span></li><br /><br /><li><span style="font-family:arial;">Ph.D. stands for "Pull Him Down". The more intelligent a person, the more hardworking a person, the more committed a person; the more number of persons are engaged in pulling that person down. If you are good, you will get all the work. </span></li><br /><br /><li><span style="font-family:arial;">If you are really good, you will get out of it. </span></li><br /><br /><li><span style="font-family:arial;">When the Bosses talk about improving productivity, they are never talking about themselves. </span></li><br /><br /><li><span style="font-family:arial;">It doesn't matter what you do, it only matters what you say you've done and what you are going to do. </span></li><br /><br /><li><span style="font-family:arial;">A pat on the back is only a few centimeters from a kick in the butt. </span></li><br /><br /><li><span style="font-family:arial;">Don't be irreplaceable. If you can't be replaced, you can't be promoted.</span></li><br /><br /><li><span style="font-family:arial;">The more crap you put up with, the more crap you are going to get. </span></li><br /><br /><li><span style="font-family:arial;">If at first you don't succeed, try again. Then quit. No use being a damn fool about it. </span></li><br /><br /><li><span style="font-family:arial;">When you don't know what to do, walk fast and look worried. </span></li><br /><br /><li><span style="font-family:arial;">Following the rules will not get the job done. </span></li><br /><br /><li><span style="font-family:arial;">If it weren't for the last minute, nothing would get done. </span></li><br /><br /><li><span style="font-family:arial;">Everything can be filed under "Miscellaneous". </span></li><br /><br /><li><span style="font-family:arial;">No matter how much you do, you never do enough. </span></li><br /><br /><li><span style="font-family:arial;">You can do any amount of work provided it isn't the work you are supposed to be doing.</span></li><br /><br /><li><span style="font-family:arial;">In order to get a promotion, you need not necessarily know your job. </span></li><br /><br /><li><span style="font-family:arial;">In order to get a promotion, you only need to pretend that you know your job. </span></li><br /><br /><li><span style="font-family:arial;">The last person that quit or was fired will be held responsible for everything that goes wrong.</span></li></ol><p> </p>Nithzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15697318027346506274noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8297732527003035649.post-10482202285330072582010-07-09T22:05:00.000-07:002010-07-09T22:28:09.158-07:008 Things Women Wish Men Knew..<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhYFwmh9-qes349NdMAweOPmbyJOPFG64GdciKYE0IDVT9uL3lqoTdKO2L4NJkWqmNf5v0RF_Jq6KooP0AfxmPCDb7tSb9qF3Hr9iIAHYIDWgxKEeUTdd7mV7_9h3cD_pAOUJoYxkTGbyFk/s1600/images.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5492143373851782690" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 291px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 356px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhYFwmh9-qes349NdMAweOPmbyJOPFG64GdciKYE0IDVT9uL3lqoTdKO2L4NJkWqmNf5v0RF_Jq6KooP0AfxmPCDb7tSb9qF3Hr9iIAHYIDWgxKEeUTdd7mV7_9h3cD_pAOUJoYxkTGbyFk/s320/images.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Let's face it, men and women are different. Men and women are different physically as well as psychologically. Men and women are different but there is one thing, however, that they have in common and that is, that both are at a loss when it comes to understanding their opposite. </span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">Sometimes our differences can cause problems in our relationships. Below are eight possible wishes that women wish men knew about which can help men relate to women. Because I cannot speak for all women, the wishes below are from my perspective as a woman.<br /></div></span><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">1. Wish men knew how we operateMen, it would be great if you could relate to us on an emotional level because that's how we express ourselves. Feeling is at the core of our being. Everything affects us in a feeling kind of way, such as, people, places, things and experiences. Since we are moved by feelings, we will react and express ourselves based on our feelings. We feel all kinds of feelings throughout our day, such as, happiness, sadness, worry, fear and anger. One minute, you may see us cry and the next minute, you may see us laughing. A dreary environment can also affect our feeling, that’s why we go out of our way to beautify our homes. Since our environment affects our feelings, it would be wise for you to take us out to beautiful places.</span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:Arial;"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">2. Communication is important to us. We love to talk because it makes us feel connected. We need emotional connection and talking is how we get it. Talking also helps us to release our feelings. If we do not talk, we will become overwhelmed by feeling too many feelings. To connect with us, you need to communicate because silence to women, is a sign that something is wrong.</span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:Arial;"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">3. We love to feel cared for. We know how good it feels to be cared for from those we have cared for. Women love to be cared for. If a woman is sick, nurture her back to health, bring her some soup and help her with the chores that have been neglected. If a woman is upset, hold her and talk out her feelings with her, this will help her move on to happier feelings. Women also love to be touched in a non sexual way. They love holding hands and to be held and cuddled too. </span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:Arial;"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">4. We love appreciation. We show love for a man through our dedication. Women will do whatever it takes to give men all the comforts of home, such as, cooked meals, clean clothes, companionship, support, and keep the house clean. We work hard to provide you with the comforts of home and would love your appreciation. Please do not take our dedication for granted, please pick up after yourselves and put your dirty clothes in the hamper, otherwise we will feel like your mother instead of your wife, which will cause us act like your mother instead of your wife!</span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:Arial;"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">5. Loyalty and respect are important to us. We work so hard to get your loyalty and respect by providing you with intimacy, companionship, emotional support, clean clothes, cooked meals and a clean bed. In order to have a successful relationship, both partners must be loyal and dedicated to each other. Please do not give your loyalty and dedication to another woman while we are loyal and dedicated to you, as this would be the ultimate betrayal for the years we have spent caring for you..</span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:Arial;"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">6. We don't like being controlled. Some men think that the only way they can feel powerful is by taking away the power of another. The problem with controlling men is that they use their power to benefit themselves at the expense of women. What good is the power of men if they are the only ones who benefit from it? Men, if you want to feel powerful, why not share your power with us so that we can benefit from it. You will feel more empowered by our appreciation!</span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:Arial;"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">7. Why we love to shop. Women are gatherers. We shop to get things that are necessary to maintain the household, such as food, bath items, linens, cleaning supplies and clothing. Sometimes we go shopping with our friends just to socialize and keep up with the latest trends. If we spend money on ourselves, it is most likely because we want to beautify ourselves for you.</span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:Arial;"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">8. We need men. We may not say it as often as we should but we really do need you. You possess gifts that we do not have. Because of your physical power, you have built us a home and a car to drive. Because of your physical power, you can move furniture to places we cannot and carry in more grocery bags from the car than we can. Because we lack physical power, we look to you for protection. Your physical power makes us feel safe. </span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">We not only witnessed your physical power by watching you build houses and lift heavy equipment, but we also experienced it, when you picked us up and carried us off to bed on our wedding night. The gifts that you possess are truly a gift to us.</span></div>Nithzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15697318027346506274noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8297732527003035649.post-21819609857495938352010-05-20T07:14:00.000-07:002010-05-20T07:41:08.169-07:00Cell phones..<div align="justify"><br /><br /></div><div align="justify"><br /><br /><br /></div><div align="justify"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhEompr1eKWMXIe-AIrMbP3uyMtcF7C1jZoTRzezc4PWXMV7wp1T_rg7b5f_C7XnNvxMhr_K9XA7apEh6lHeLSXetVAmXxSsgNl9E1FhfjIYnseB60d7O7N8vKVmrR6fX2Vx3e_UEcEfMgG/s1600/no-cell-phones.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5473356087952433426" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 233px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 230px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhEompr1eKWMXIe-AIrMbP3uyMtcF7C1jZoTRzezc4PWXMV7wp1T_rg7b5f_C7XnNvxMhr_K9XA7apEh6lHeLSXetVAmXxSsgNl9E1FhfjIYnseB60d7O7N8vKVmrR6fX2Vx3e_UEcEfMgG/s320/no-cell-phones.jpg" border="0" /></a> <span style="font-family:arial;font-size:100%;"><span style="color:#000000;"><span style="font-size:180%;">Call</span> me jealous. I don't have a job that keeps me in demand 24 hours a day. I don't know how to look terribly important with a lap top in the airport lounge. I am too self conscious to want my phone ringing on the train. I don't have a huge circle of friends who loves to be on phone all the while. So I apologize in advance if one detects in the following rant a hint of sarcasm and bitterness. It's just: people who cannot leave their phone switched off or their lap tops closed in any situation and prefer to get on their fellow shoppers/ travellers/ workers nerves get on my nerves! I know, I know...you wear a trendy suit and tie, your shoes are polished to a perfect shine and you need to be in touch because you are such a VIP in your company. Deadlines to meet. New designs to forward. Ideas to share. If you want to be promoted, you need to be available, reachable, in touch. Be ready to jump at any time. I get it.And then you, Sir. I overheard this very important conversation between you and supposedly your wife. You were standing - if I recall correctly- at the mutton counter in the supermarket. Actually, this is precisely what you said: 'I am standing at the mutton counter. Which mutton shall I get? How many kg? And here is a special offer - lamb shoulder. Shall I get some?'</span></span><br /><br /><br /><br /></div><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:Arial;font-size:100%;"></span></div><div align="justify"><br /></div><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5473360715566014306" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 214px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjIMvniL_9qIp3FJV4OnyFDFyQLeyQFSdKKZJpNuCtbdB7hciA44K3lVewI7ssjff-o3G3V50LDrU6skmLzSbGEJ6A453p2i3eXbQIBM_QwGTwEIjzE6SdviLZyNUsfpF4ovGhuHcW3yhxW/s320/india_phone.jpg" border="0" /> <p align="justify"><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:100%;color:#000000;">What happened to good old fashioned shopping lists and a little initiative and on-the-spot decision making ability? Do you ring your husband from the toilet upstairs and tell him you've run out of paper?And then you, young man! You sat opposite of me on the train . Your phone rang and at first you spoke in hushed tones. But very soon you forgot you were on a train with people around you who could hear every bit of cringe worthy schmaltz that came out of your mouth. Your girlfriend is such a lucky woman, by the sound of it! I feel I know you and her quite intimately already!There are few places one is safe from people in constant need of making themselves known.</span><br /><br /><br /></p><p align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:100%;color:#000000;">Until very recently planes offered some respite, but now a few airlines have allowed the use of mobile phones during flights, apart from takeoff and landing. Can't wait for my next long haul flight. Not sure my nerves could stretch for 13 hours cross Atlantic if I had to sit next to TomCruise. The only forgivable situation in which I would personally allow phone use on a plane is if it was on heading down; nose first, at high speed. And that really would be the exception! How about a quiet crossword to occupy your time? A book? A magazine? Or just be with yourself for a while. That seems scary, I understand. The phone is off, you are out of touch. There are people who may have been trying to ring and you don't even know. There could be the most important message ever sitting in your inbox. The one that could have changed your life...</span></p><p align="justify"><br /><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:100%;color:#000000;">But sarcasm and humor aside, I am truly concerned that <strong>'we'</strong>, as people growing up with technology, have forgotten to just be by ourselves. To rest, to inhale, to feel the need to be alone, to revel in our own company at times. To see peace and quiet as a chance to replenish our energies just like sleep would. A constant need to be in touch and feeling lost without a constant technological connection is not healthy. Not for the person in constant, uninterrupted communication, nor for those who have no choice but listen. Just turn the damn thing off for a while!!</span></p><p align="justify"><span style="font-family:Arial;font-size:100%;color:#000000;"></span> </p><p align="justify"><span style="font-family:Arial;font-size:100%;color:#000000;">Btw, I am given a new phone for myself - a gift from my Love...Lots of features tapi tak tahu guna :p</span></p><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5473359990526631970" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 263px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjIwdPU-VEfHE6QhdMyCa03Mi6pxcKoUK03qM3Sgo8XgexW7r5P6re8ZEAZ0HNMVSDlk-JpIS47_HA_dT5c2bgcsn6ybtuecqV363a7KntpG7qp8fkCqOKHbUssmCXS51qAYakr-mxAx-pA/s320/iphone.jpg" border="0" /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><p align="justify"><span style="font-family:Arial;font-size:100%;"></span></p>Nithzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15697318027346506274noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8297732527003035649.post-40437020541659370662010-05-09T04:41:00.000-07:002010-05-09T04:48:51.763-07:00Because I'm waiting..<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgplL6gk8seP0VedtZNdCAQwqeaxPJBhzWr0gy_E5YXFeLGPvS5ghLdyce745SHpS1mD-ieOZq2vrENP4JvmpI-MVfFZko71G7H1wgJAjP_ywP8XKbw9hxkwGBmiL3CLeehUw2NYm5-GbdS/s1600/phobia.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5469234622308204418" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 264px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgplL6gk8seP0VedtZNdCAQwqeaxPJBhzWr0gy_E5YXFeLGPvS5ghLdyce745SHpS1mD-ieOZq2vrENP4JvmpI-MVfFZko71G7H1wgJAjP_ywP8XKbw9hxkwGBmiL3CLeehUw2NYm5-GbdS/s320/phobia.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Between me and the crowded room</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">is a path paved with fear.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">My foot sinks in soft concrete as I make my way</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">towards that ball of fire which is the room.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">heat hits my face</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">I'm choking I'm hot I'm cold I'm dizzy</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">I'm spinning I'm not there I'm outside myself.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Mind's blank. </span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Not a thought in sight. I am pure emotion</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">which hurtles me along that path.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"></span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"></span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">The room full of people is near.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">I feel naked and exposed in my fear, visible on my face.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Can't pretend, can't fake. </span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">A shaky voice and crimson cheeks give me away. </span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">I have no name butanxiety.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Want to cry with frustration. Why me? Why not?</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">And then the wave has washed over me and my mind settles back into my body. </span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">I mingle , already armed for the next wave rising in the distance and building like a tsunami.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">It'll come. </span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong>Because I'm waiting.</strong><br /></span>Nithzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15697318027346506274noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8297732527003035649.post-4540264779249906742010-01-29T22:33:00.000-08:002010-01-29T22:44:17.554-08:00The art of waiting<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgwP6tzJ2BJNiN6ZXeVJlIp-zhwIee99wQi71nslAAKk1tTVBGFQ7Ej-oOD0DVe4_cPnGYWpGxZqsuTOHlnNpzHYwwkacCeQH_P9v524I1GHF1wV-CP2hV0Iw3lV07nDDs1KAPt98E3QlKD/s1600-h/CallWaiting2.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 222px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgwP6tzJ2BJNiN6ZXeVJlIp-zhwIee99wQi71nslAAKk1tTVBGFQ7Ej-oOD0DVe4_cPnGYWpGxZqsuTOHlnNpzHYwwkacCeQH_P9v524I1GHF1wV-CP2hV0Iw3lV07nDDs1KAPt98E3QlKD/s320/CallWaiting2.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5432418368209859986" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><br /><div style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family:georgia;"><span style="font-size:180%;">E</span><span style="font-family: georgia;font-size:100%;" >very day there is evidence that waiting has truly become an art form very few people can claim to practice. Waiting, once viewed as something you simply had to do without further discussion, is now on par with an offensive remark being made . ' What do you mean? Why does it take three days for a letter to get here in this day and age?' Stuck in a traffic jam and getting very annoyed indeed? Late for an important meeting or just inconvenienced?</span></span><br /><br /><span style="font-family: georgia;font-size:100%;" >Being told to have to wait can bring our the worst in people. Anger, annoyance, resentment, a feeling of restlessness...hang on...maybe there's a clue. Could it be that people who will not wait and cannot wait are really feeling uncomfortably restless? Like a smoker who has to wait for a cigarette until he gets off the plane? A little fidgety, a little anxious....after all, waiting means postponing that which we desire. And we are so terribly spoiled by modern technological advances above all that waiting has become a thing of the past. It begins with instant meals because there is no time to cook. Next, we download a whole music album in the space of time it takes to take the dog for a walk. Even books can be read online while scrolling down the pages.</span><br /></div><br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj-zpaUUTtKQdhiMQzWKuNRoXIy6fKJWQtOtDU85Q1rlrXN-IawORonVa5c8UPTS2GUoRTxX9w6OlRgtK7BbL0YhOkqyA3i8WdC_xfKB26HBvASsI2_a4rL_AfCaMIeaUlEspjLdRTw3mU0/s1600-h/waiting-godot.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj-zpaUUTtKQdhiMQzWKuNRoXIy6fKJWQtOtDU85Q1rlrXN-IawORonVa5c8UPTS2GUoRTxX9w6OlRgtK7BbL0YhOkqyA3i8WdC_xfKB26HBvASsI2_a4rL_AfCaMIeaUlEspjLdRTw3mU0/s320/waiting-godot.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5432417845261771538" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><br /><div style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size:100%;">I<span style="font-family:georgia;">nstant gratification. A growing belief that one must not be made to wait. Fast service, fast delivery, wife is out of the house, well, there is always instant adult entertainment. Personally, I don't mind waiting too much and I feel slightly irritated when people complain about being stuck in traffic jams or a bus which is 5 minutes late or about the supermarket checkouts and their bad management. Being stuck in a traffic jam is frustrating at times, but if you have enough petrol and your car is not overheating and nobody will die if you are late...what’s the big deal? Why has not having to wait become a right rather than just luck?</span></span> <span style="font-size:100%;"><span style="font-family:georgia;"><br /><br /><br />Waiting is a dying art form. Not only does it mean having to delay something, it also means having to fill the waiting time meaningfully. Which, seemingly, is the problem? What do we do with ourselves? We are always in the process of getting, becoming, going places, wanting the next thing before receiving the first that without any of these we are lost. What do we do with just ourselves and time to kill?</span></span><br /><br /><br /><span style="font-size:100%;"><span style="font-family:georgia;">Why not view waiting as an opportunity to have time to spend instead of not letting go of that which we can't have right now. Previous generations were good at waiting. My grandparents and parents saved for years to be able to afford a good holiday or a new refrigerator. Imagine the difference between going on a long awaited holiday or one of many trips you take each year? There is a much bigger, more satisfying sense of occasion if one can say ' finally, the wait was well worth it yeh!</span></span> <span style="font-size:100%;"><span style="font-family:georgia;">Not being able to wait means missing out on opportunities because instead of working towards what we really want, we often take short cuts and second choice route just because we cannot and will not wait. Young people are especially affected by this form of thinking. The notion of having to study for a number of years at college or university ( 'I really want to be a doctor!') seems foreign and is often replaced with a short cut version. ('well, I suppose I could just work for one).<br /><br /><br />The art of waiting means being able to work towards a goal and realize that the reward at the end will be worth the wait.</span></span> <span style="font-size:100%;"><span style="font-family:georgia;">Being able to wait means being able to be patient and less demanding. There is certain arrogance in complaining about things like slow services or inefficient management...as if it were a basic human right to not have to wait for anything. When put on the spot, what is the worst thing that can happen if one has to wait?</span></span> <span style="color: rgb(255, 0, 0);font-size:100%;" ><span style="font-family:georgia;"><span style="font-weight: bold;"><br /><br /><br />Most used line by indians</span>;</span></span><br /></div><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(102, 0, 0);font-size:130%;" ><span style="font-style: italic;">Kunjom neram wait panah settah poireveh? – Will you die if you wait for awhile</span>?</span>Nithzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15697318027346506274noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8297732527003035649.post-47347070677579750002009-10-19T20:23:00.000-07:002009-10-19T20:46:54.480-07:00At The Moment..<div><br /><br /><br /><div><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5394521412919248434" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 357px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 350px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjaKsPaM0ntCOuCmZk6qeCRZwEXvQ4LHP2iL7UevOBk52yEVT3tFBERx-AkSsV2hjGyYD0w3CU78of-7NFt1cxzoy4OPUYtP8QCuMGuM3pKxXKDNr_L5nAp5tCPxGLiCg2A49MPhUnNvTvD/s320/2.jpg" border="0" /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"><span style="color:#cc33cc;"><em>I have not posted for quite sometime due to my heavy workload. My job is a disaster & I am seriously into looking for another job. Reporting, SOP, KPI, Service Quality to name a few was the things I had been doing all the time. I feel that I gained valuable knowledge working on my own with minimum guidance, although some theoretical background knowledge (what I learned back in Univ) didn’t help me much. But the atmosphere is depressing. The people around me are sick & dumb. The system matches the brains of <span style="color:#003333;">nattan’s</span> in terms of the productivity & quality. Many times I have missed my breaks and eaten into my lunch time. But I get it done. That however is very seldom recognized nor appreciated by management.<br /></em></span><br /><br />Ever encountered someone who frustrates you so much that you feel like you want to pull your hair, jump around the room and just scream out loud? You're not alone. It seems like we never have enough time to do what we want, or need to get done. It seems like we are always getting sidetracked with something else coming up, and the to-do list at the end of the day is as long as it was at the start of the day. It isn't that we can't get anything done; it just seems as if the to-do list keeps growing during the day. As one thing gets done, a new task seems to pop up. </span><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5394521888642707074" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 381px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 255px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgdXtaij3gBO9sSQCNLET__53RwmD3DyP0UQiNFolFbl8kF3zHp01A2tI4vSh_ALhCe6utyUD6x_c7CkpjnWbdl9hA-x1ltcG66tvVFo7mpFoh24jy-f9Q7UQ8z3AcGciJ2TPBPO-aLitbI/s320/3.jpg" border="0" /><br /><br /><p align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"><br /></p><br /><br />Over the years, I've encountered my fair share of difficult people. People who don't turn their work in as promised, people who don't show up for meetings, people who stick vehemently to their views and refuse to collaborate, people who push back on work that they're responsible for - and more.<br /></span><br /><br />Having said that, years ago, I used to get bothered and worked up over such situations. I'd think,<br /><br /><br /><ul><br /><li>"Why are these people being so difficult?" </li><br /><br /><br /><li>"These people are so irresponsible!" </li><br /><br /><br /><li>"Just my luck to work with them!" </li><br /><br /><br /><li>"I don't ever want to work with these people again!"<br /><br /></li></ul><br /><p align="justify"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5394520989737304306" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 281px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 157px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhNRxiE6sSCZ9rgmDXejr4j1i2X5yMJsdTjC9Ql1_QGh-hhg-DZgThVT5oS1cgoWE4yrUEuHo2Mlz3y2vD-Po9PhD-PpGuxG9_GjJ-jLGy6uNclWno0chEmt4sOkOp5bzmMWhfdbZnxev-5/s320/1ed0600b91af03c2.jpg" border="0" /><br /><br />After a while, I learned that these people are everywhere. No matter where you go, you can never hide from them. Sure, it might be possible to avoid the 1st one or two difficult people, but how about the 3rd, 5th, 10th person you encounter? Hiding isn't a permanent solution. What's more, in the context of work, it's usually difficult to avoid or hide from someone, unless you quit from a job totally. Well - I don't know about you, but it doesn't seem feasible to quit every time someone has an opposing view or is being difficult.<br /></p><br /><div><br />So rather than turn to some drastic decisions each time, I have tried to equip myself with the skills to deal with them including planning my day (time management), think realistic, take deep breaths & whatever not in which end of the day, nothing seems to work out!!<br /></div><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5394522235114098818" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 255px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgU8paOMmWWAR2v2q9bhEZniAplgooklKi2mQpN50_KBMja2v0skWCtiPaRd6tvIEF-kUm2f01GT_bfzmoUs6MAfryIoyfCS-DrIL4JaFIwVTXdoPbe6ZX3pK033JUQa09sEr_fgCSFFRLa/s320/4.jpg" border="0" /><br /><br /><br /><div><br /></div><br /><div><br />Here's Nithz 9 tips which I've found to work in dealing with such people: </div><br /><br /><br /><div><br />1.Never be calm?<br />Losing my temper and flaring out at the other person typically is the best way to get him/her to collaborate with myself in which I will start getting their attention. </div><br /><br /><div><br />2.Understand the person's intentions?<br />I'd like to believe that everyone is difficult for the sake of being difficult. </div><br /><br /><div><br />3.Let the person know where you are coming from.<br />One thing that has worked for me is to let the person know my intentions behind what I am doing. </div><br /><br /><div><br />4.Building a rapport?<br />Never in my life I want to build a so called ‘rapport’ with this borned to be dumb species. </div><br /><br /><div><br />5.Treat the person with respect?<br />Even if I treat them with respect or not, the outcome will still be the same. So, I rather treat them not fairly. As the golden rule says, "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." Nahhhhhhh.. </div><br /><div><br /><br />6.Ignore!!<br />I have already tried everything above and the person is still not being receptive, the best way might be to just ignore. After all, i have already done all that I can within my means. </div><br /><br /><div><br />Try out these 9 tips for the difficult people you face at your workplace and see how they work out for you :) </div><br /><br /><div><br />Something that I would like to share with you on how I used to be & how I am now..<br />1) PAST : She's an aggressive go-getter.<br />PRESENT: She's a ball-busting b_tch. </div><br /><div></div><br /><div><br />2) PAST : Perhaps I can work late.<br />PRESENT : And when the f___ do you expect me to do this? </div><br /><br /><div><br />3) PAST : I'm certain that isn't feasible.<br />PRESENT: No f______ way. </div><br /><br /><div><br />4) PAST : Perhaps you should check with...<br />PRESENT : Tell someone who gives a sh__. </div><br /><br /><div><br />5) PAST : I wasn't involved in the project.<br />PRESENT : It's not my f______ problem. </div><br /><br /><div><br />6) PAST : I'm not sure this can be implemented.<br />PRESENT : This sh__ won't work. </div><br /><br /><div><br />7) PAST : I'll try to schedule that.<br />PRESENT: Why the f____ didn't you tell me sooner? </div><br /><br /><div><br />8) PAST : Excuse me, sir?<br />PRESENT : Eat sh__ and die. </div><br /><br /><div><br />9) PAST : So you weren't happy with it?<br />PRESENT: Kiss my a__. </div><br /><br /><div><br />10) PAST : I love a challenge.<br />PRESENT : This job s_cks. </div><br /><br /><div><br /><strong><span style="color:#333399;">Bonus </span><br /></strong>11) PAST : You want me to take care of that?<br />PRESENT : Who the h_ck died and made you boss? </div><br /><br /><div><br /><strong>My humble advice for under graduates:-</strong> </div><br /><br /><div><br />For those who are dreaming to be on of the successful bankers in the future, kindly think twice. Life will then be a battle for you. Thank you for reading. </div></div></div>Nithzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15697318027346506274noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8297732527003035649.post-54102637472576252842009-08-06T18:14:00.000-07:002009-08-21T07:04:01.375-07:00How to choose a bride, Malaysian style<div align="justify"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhcQU9w2ZfJa7-n-UhFHO1LLqVw31zTupPxqoKPZHp58BFV3BsnU6VIGHBWQ_zZE-wnLhvColqg6r4soDvR7RkNGNKdkO2ckQNTdTz11pBrF8u-e2BLuvkD387eGeJgyEjyHJMcQv3LuTRT/s1600-h/bride-makeup_s600x600.jpg"><font face="arial"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5367025051336606114" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 214px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 320px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhcQU9w2ZfJa7-n-UhFHO1LLqVw31zTupPxqoKPZHp58BFV3BsnU6VIGHBWQ_zZE-wnLhvColqg6r4soDvR7RkNGNKdkO2ckQNTdTz11pBrF8u-e2BLuvkD387eGeJgyEjyHJMcQv3LuTRT/s320/bride-makeup_s600x600.jpg" border="0" /></font></a><font face="arial"><br /></font>
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<br /><div><font face="arial">A Mother was very concerned that her middle-aged son has not shownthe slightest indication of getting married. So one day she called himover to her house.The Son came home from work, grudgingly. </font></div><br />
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<br /><div><font face="arial">The FIRST one was a well-endowed Telephonist-cum-Receptionist. He immediately commented: 'Aiyaa..... Mother, they always say..... PLEASE HOLD ON, HOLD ON.........'</font></div><br />
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<br /><div><font face="arial">By this time, the mother is nearing frustration. She called a sweet but plain-looking Teacher. The Son suddenly agreed!!The Mother was surprised and asked: 'Why this one? The earlier two were a lot better looking!'He replied: 'Teachers aaa..... Teachers very good, very good, always say: PLEASE REPEAT, DO IT AGAIN, I want it done 10 times.... SOME MORE, SOME MORE.....!'</font></div><br />
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<br /><div><font face="arial">Her youngest son (10 years old), was listening quietly all this while at the other end of the room. Suddenly, he shouted: 'Brother..... Female mini bus Conductor much better laa.... they always say: 'NAIK CEPAT, NAIK CEPAT..... MASUK, MASUK...... MASUK LAGI, DALAM LAGI..... DALAM LAGI LAAAAH, MASUK BELAKANG..... BELAKANG LAGI, BELAKANG BANYAK KOSONG.....'</font></div><br />
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<br /><div><font face="arial">The mother fainted....</font></div></div>Nithzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15697318027346506274noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8297732527003035649.post-28988949297513739422009-08-06T17:49:00.000-07:002009-08-21T07:06:22.173-07:00Terrorism Quiz<img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5367019089065024994" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 238px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhfjRl-iOUhKwm8KyaiEKi8sQq_hTjjTPLoJYeUfFoX008eIiomrTsEmcBYVMwJdbaDX5BNTWjSpQIEgft-ToC2YXfKTZqHrylbbD4a1K_-82m4cv5R5gqr2jXPDng-nW70mtS94NWVocxL/s320/t.jpg" border="0" /><br /><br /><div><br /><div></div><br /><br /><div><strong><span style="font-family:arial;">TERRORISM QUIZ :</span></strong><br /><br /></div><br /><ol><br /><li><span style="font-family:arial;">Which is the only country in the world to have dropped bombs on over twenty different countries since 1945? </span></li><br /><br /><br /><li><span style="font-family:arial;">Which is the only country to have used nuclear weapons? </span></li><br /><br /><br /><li><span style="font-family:arial;">Which country was responsible for a car bomb which killed 80 civilians in Beirut in 1985, in a botched assassination attempt, thereby making it the most lethal terrorist bombing in modern Middle East history?</span></li><br /><br /><br /><li><span style="font-family:arial;">Which country's illegal bombing of Libya in 1986 was described by the UN Legal Committee as a "classic case" of terrorism? </span></li><br /><br /><br /><li><span style="font-family:arial;">Which country rejected the order of the International Court of Justice (ICJ) to terminate its "unlawful use of force" against Nicaragua in 1986, and then vetoed a UN Security Council resolution calling on all states to observe international law? </span></li><br /><br /><br /><li><span style="font-family:arial;">Which country was accused by a UN-sponsored truth commission of providing "direct and indirect support" for "acts of genocide" against the Mayan Indians in Guatemala during the 1980s? </span></li><br /><br /><br /><li><span style="font-family:arial;">Which country unilaterally withdrew from the Anti-Ballistic Missile (ABM) Treaty in December 2001? </span></li><br /><br /><br /><li><span style="font-family:arial;">Which country renounced the efforts to negotiate a verification process for the Biological Weapons Convention and brought an international conference on the matter to a halt in July 2001? </span></li><br /><br /><br /><li><span style="font-family:arial;">Which country prevented the United Nations from curbing the gun trade at a small arms conference in July 2001? </span></li><br /><br /><br /><li><span style="font-family:arial;">Aside from Somalia, which is the only other country in the world to have refused to ratify the UN Convention on the Rights of the Child? </span></li><br /><br /><br /><li><span style="font-family:arial;">Which is the only Western country which allows the death penalty to be applied to children? </span></li><br /><br /><br /><li><span style="font-family:arial;">Which is the only G7 country to have refused to sign the 1997 Mine Ban Treaty, forbidding the use of landmines? </span></li><br /><br /><br /><li><span style="font-family:arial;">Which is the only G7 country to have voted against the creation of the International Criminal Court (ICC) in 1998? </span></li><br /><br /><br /><li><span style="font-family:arial;">Which was the only other country to join with Israel in opposing a 1987 General Assembly resolution condemning international terrorism? </span></li><br /><br /><br /><li><span style="font-family:arial;">Which country refuses to fully pay its debts to the United Nations yet reserves its right to veto United Nations resolutions?<br /></span></li></ol></div><br /><br /><div></div><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5367020011354153746" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 238px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEilJNuV9QjhBcK2G9JRz3GDQS9vmh5Mfafjc1DeSnVAzVLDsFZKiK4o7h1y5gr1Yz601_qMpg0s6jV9hL98qlFjLdyw_UWYY8-cxOSEESf1nxeqzJkb7CjzCNRtDouVNX3DZzf45mZfJOkC/s320/abortion-cartoon.jpg" border="0" /><br /><br /><div></div><br /><br /><div><br /><br /><br /><p><span style="font-family:arial;">Answer :<br /></span></p><br /><br /><br /><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;color:#cc0000;"><strong>United States of America</strong></span></p></div>Nithzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15697318027346506274noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8297732527003035649.post-62723701577681720032009-07-24T22:36:00.000-07:002009-07-24T23:21:37.347-07:00My true friends are Back In Action!!<div align="justify"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5362269696889713554" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 288px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 407px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiWuuJhIfCXjdZpd7gsSJsa7I8f9c3oMcUk99qvoDCBhueTX2O_g3qxK0ZPHoWiixTG_ikPtHR0M2tOzhMq6UjHrh4i808yq4WyoFDFdC-4vUneKRqH1I6IYyI6cCbYaRWEmPMXPRr5LXmL/s320/f1.bmp" border="0" /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"><span style="font-size:180%;">The</span> one relationship considered as most chaste, true & fulfilling is that of friendship. It adds meaning & fun in life as sharing of feelings with friends helps in multiplying of laughter & sharing of sorrows. There are so many things that one can share with friends which we generally hesitates to share with anyone. Thus, having two friends adds value & meaning to life.</span></div><br /><br /><br /><br /><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5362269886721693186" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 191px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEho3v4mXc9ZiLTUiqm7PA4hL-UJhQ7l8TNbTc1vKssQkan-uuGzo8elOSf_v9q0b5BG7bgBDeRPl0I_UZmNZgd868N8C1fvg0_8os5l5cjKe9NQwftrXlOOJel4oxpDvkVnE7rBJkxdMx31/s320/f2.jpg" border="0" /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />Living or non-living, they become our constant companions, who touch our life in a special way and get the right to peep into our secrets. But of course, when we talk about friends we generally picture a person. No matter how much we try to explain the value of a friend in our life, it’s always less. We may exaggerate at times that we can face life unaided but then we are not aware of the extent of torture we will go through while trekking our way through the rocks of life all alone. A friend makes the task a lot easier even if not smoother. Many a times we fail to live up to the expectations of our well wishers because they want us to act in a certain manner but friends are the only well wishers who don’t ridicule or question our actions but understands us and give us scope to be ourselves. Friends play a crucial role when we are going through the process of finding our own identity. As humans we seek an emotional support. Even a vindictive criminal needs a friend to make sure he’s not alone.<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><span style="font-size:180%;">Today</span>, I am not going to talk about the importance of friendship, etc. Without much dragging, I would like to touch some people who made a big impact in my life (who had returned back here & with me now); someone who played a huge role in molding what I am now. I am not saying that my parents weren’t supportive or helpful in my life. But when you are getting older, there’s some issues which you prefer to discuss with your friends rather than with your family members. As such, I am grateful to God for bringing me such a wonderful people to share during the process of finding our own identity. Below I would like to list a few people that I wish I can spend more time like how we used to be earlier.<br /><br /><br /><br /><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5362270490434432914" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 213px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEid_dCVSPaokaXazb8k0BuFvxRARKMuGGdwKUDQyrQLuxn-J8swXTqZYd3AxLNvTqpkOovrWn_teFVV3G7VF3lKT6NJ-5DnRqz_z4GQayfdlmLgFUk7H6x-kPxl6r1Ux2gBUvD7tBL3jVr3/s320/f3.jpg" border="0" /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><strong><span style="font-family:arial;">Nirmala & Vani</span></strong><br /><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">I got to know these girls since Form 1 however we were in a different class. To tell you the truth, these 2 girls were among the only Indian girls that I used to talk & mix around. I was at some time categorized as ‘Anti Indian’ by some Indian community in the school when I tend to talk/mix with Chinese students more. I wasn’t a favorite among Indians although I happened to be the best Indian girl student. Egoistic, stubborn, eksyen, perasan, nenapu were among the words that they used to label me in school. I can’t blame them as I was too much mixing around with Chinese students (I could speak good Cantonese at that time & I was the only Indian girl in the class), be it from eating with them during recess time till going out for an outing. Now, come back to the topic. Nirmala being my ‘periya akka’ & Vani is being called as ‘loose’. I will never forget my first outing with Indian friends (which was surprisingly with them) to watch Alaipayudhey movie in GSC Mid Valley back in year 2000 when I was 17 years old!!! </span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"></span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"></span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Nirmala was closer to me as her home is only 300m away from my home & we both used to go to each other’s house more often. Meanwhile, Vani was staying about 1-2km from us. I had a good time with both of them even after school days. I even can’t forget Nirmala as she will do everything from organizing outing till buying food for me while I was studying in University (she was working that time & used to tell me that I can always treat her when I have got a job after completing my studies). Things went well & Vani flied to Australia meanwhile Nirmala flied to United Kingdom to continue her studies. And I was studying in a local University (sad oh sad). I managed to complete my studies with flying colors in 3 years & got a good job.<br /></span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"></span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">After 5 years, Nirmala just came back (Vani still in Australia, no idea when is she returning) & we had a good time going out together with my family members & not to forget with Y. Hope things will be back on track as she was having some difficulties after returning here (allergies, skin rashes, vomiting, unable to take the hot weather, bla bla). Looking forward for more outings with her!!<br /><br /></span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"><br /><strong>Edmund</strong></span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">My advisor, friend, counselor, godfather & any relationship that can be best described when it comes to friendship. He was 5-6 years elderer to me but still he never failed to place himself as someone at my age. He is the first guy that I met who asked me to change my appearance from a conventional look Indian girl to a modern look girl(not bitchy type of look lah of coz). He often advice me the types of shirt, shoes, skirt, make up’s which best suits me. You won’t believe that I changed my hairstyle, my clothing’s & even started to apply make up whenever I go out after listening to his advices. One of the best people that I have met in my life & he will never fail to listen to my problems that I was going through. A person that I can never WIN by talking to him.</p></span><br /><div align="justify"><br />Logic, rational & amazing thinker. He used to pick me up from the house I was staying with my friend’s while studying in Univ early in the morning, go for breakfast, chit chat & will drop me off before he goes to work. I love spending my time with him as his maturity shows a person who knows everything. Just give him any topic & he will answer the questions well. He’s married now & his wife had just delivered to a baby girl (She is 73 days old TODAY). Not to forget, he has 2 beautiful babies, Xena (Rootweller) & Kiara (German Shepherd). </div><br /><div align="justify"></div><br /><div align="justify"></div><br /><div align="justify"><br />I did a mistake(I must blame on my ego) a year ago in which we had stopped talking with each other until 1 day I decided to text him through MSN. He was as humble as he is & never scold/blamed me for any reason. I was touched when he mentioned “You will always be my friend & I will never forget the days we used to hang out. No matter what, you can always trust me”. </div><br /><div align="justify"></div><br /><div align="justify"><br /><strong>Vicky</strong> </div><br /><div align="justify"></div><br /><div align="justify"><br />Better known as my best buddy. The first thing people will ask us when they see both of us are:-<br /></div><br /><ul><br /><li><div align="justify">Are you guys lovers?</div></li><br /><li><div align="justify">Jovial & happy go lucky all the time. Don’t you guys have problems in life? (duh’</div></li><br /><li><div align="justify">Hardworking, punctual & are great jokers</div></li><br /><li><div align="justify">Tall & well dressed</div></li><br /><li><div align="justify">Doesn’t ask question much in class but scores well in exam</div></li></ul><br /><p align="justify"><br />I would say he’s another gift from God for bringing him in to my life. A guy with no bad habits – NO alcohols, NO smoking, NO clubbing & NO flirting with girls. We knew each other since Form 6 (different class) & we bumped into each other when we got the same course in one of the University. We were together with our group of friends for the first 2 semesters until he found his lady love while studying. Then, we only talk whenever time permits or whenever we met in class. Things changed after a year plus when his lady love dumped him for another rich guy. I came into to his life again when his studies were badly affected due his love life. So called an angel to rescue a guy from falling, I was there for him whenever he needs a friend to share his feelings, to help him with studies, assignments & even to share the pain and tears he was going through. It was his first love, a pure & sincere one which was not appreciated by the girl that he has loved so much in his life. </p><br /><p align="justify"><br />We used to hang out a lot after that & became very close. We graduated together & his aspiration to become an ASP was turned down by some doink Malay officer’s during his interview. Currently he’s working in an oil & petroleum company in Miri wearing those yellow color Digi costumes with safety helmet. He’s scheduled to join another company in Brunei under the same industry in Nov09. Not interested with any relationship for the time being as he is too busy saving money for his future. Wakakaakaka. Miss him a lot & he promised to give me a BIG treat in one of the 5 star hotel in KL once he’s back to hometown for leave. </p><br /><p align="justify"><br />And guess what? He’s back for leave & I am eagerly waiting to see him!!</p><br /><p align="justify"><br />Friends are like an escape or a diversion from the stress that the superficial life of today imposes upon us. Nowadays we would hardly notice two people sitting together and enjoying nature or crying their hearts off but we would find a group of people enjoying together by a river shore or in a cafe. </p><br /><p align="justify"><br />May be ‘friend’ and ‘friendship’ are the same terms they were three to four decades ago, may be they haven’t still changed their meaning but the people’s approach to these two terms have really tainted in the course of time. Individuality is at its peak and in this epoch we can’t expect people to revere and love these two words as they did earlier. Of course, there are rare cases of good friendships even today but I think people have really lost track of the word ‘friend’. Now and then an associate is termed as a ‘friend’ and a ‘friend’ as an associate. So, we can deduce in general sense that the word ’friend’ has lost its specialty. </p><br /><p align="justify">And i am lucky to have such wonderful people around me.. <strong>(to be continued..)</strong><br /></p>Nithzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15697318027346506274noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8297732527003035649.post-25036570535150721372009-06-26T19:10:00.000-07:002009-06-26T19:44:20.272-07:00Something About Telemarketers...<img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5351825520194172882" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 204px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhTK_WOX6wmsKzQ_6PlWPOKYqwX10nGJUH3SmK-eQSbajRqR0mI1Ujefn_LWYPaJ2ymJZhSF6kf4fPpayJF7wEqwJSY_-wkAFLBT2V3ybM0u8w6krJKIJFCB5CVigzzH4sRQ3VCT9MtbZ8k/s320/tm4.jpg" border="0" /><br /><div align="justify"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjBKGm3ln_xZ9RGw6pdKr8moNfpTfGkBIJ4bICHt56rFRy74xi3qVtW0b2wchGXvhxqoi-uiSHoquv4JPG4bLRhiFoAuVaX0HlZvbkmIUVjWbK9b-d80bosrZWttZaN98l1YaH64XEEKr4z/s1600-h/tm3.jpg"></a> <span style="font-size:130%;">A </span><span style="font-family:arial;">telemarketer is usually a person (though sometimes an automated voice called a robocaller), who calls your home or place of business in order to accomplish one or more of the following tasks:<br /></span></div><div align="justify"><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">1. Gather information for survey purposes</span></div><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"><br /><br /></span></div><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">2. Sell you a product or service</span></div><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"><br /><br /></span></div><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">3. Have you make an appointment with a salesperson, in person, on the telephone, or sometimes through Internet conferencing. </span></div><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"><br /><br /></span></div><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">4. Get you to donate to a charity</span></div><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"><br /><br /></span></div><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">5. Get you to vote a specific way, or in a specific election</span></div><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"><br /><br /></span></div><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">6. Get you as a preexisting customer to purchase new products or services.<br /></span></div><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"><br /></span></div><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">Telemarketers may also take calls that are generated via advertising or promotions and then attempts any of the above. The telemarketer may work at a call center, an office, or from home, and some are particularly relentless in calling during family time or the dinner hour, or calling much later in the evening than you would wish. You certainly do not have to wait to listen to the whole pitch of telemarketers, and with caller id, you also have the choice of not answering phone calls from unknown sources. Alternately, you can let your voicemail pick up calls from telemarketers, so you can avoid calls you simply don’t want to answer.<br /></span></div><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"><br /><br /></span></div><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">It’s important to understand the function of the telemarketer, and also a little bit about their jobs, so you can meet these people with polite refusal when you are not interested in their services. First, telemarketers in the main tend to be working on either a commission basis, or at minimum wage. Some people really enjoy the work, while others do it because they have to. Most are employing the practice of cold calling, which means they are going to get a rude response from many. There is no need to be rude with these folks; just be direct.</span></div><div><br /><br /><br /></div><div></div><div><br /></div><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5351824337604157506" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 240px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 320px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhJ7Ygng502ZLJGt_QVn4F27Y2DYdeHP9s-m6SVmb_buQZX4vtbs751woQsvyZCyfF7G6twqDUNxC9U97Ba07_u22u1AgQuGLsA9Roc4xPp913ViCu_ratIo6xlgmD1Diq6ekVZ6paHtBGX/s320/tm3.jpg" border="0" /><br /><br /><div align="justify">Well, i do understand that they are calling people, selling this & that as a part of their job in earning salary end of the month. I also do understand that its part to meet their monthly target to meet their performance standard. However, lately i have been receiving lotsssss of calls from some unknown telemarketing companies. I did wonder/ponder to myself how the hell they got my details & so on. At one time, i got so fed up with one repeated incoming call from some unknown insurance company. So, that night i kept thinking on ways to avoid such calls (please take note they can be soo irritating at one stage trying to persuade you with the products/services offered by them)...And i came up with a list of funniest ways to stop these "calls"!!!</div><br /><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5351828511256156018" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 320px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgv19t7iBXUazOgtcU0IuG59kL2IteVYSKBXXRWtB7ng4WYeHgYLVH4c4g7QO-GiXKLsUhwT5sG5AyC5IXz-nuUut2tAoHf-VfQij7dPXHxgL1m6DuKIrEiL-5tmSSHTPZoWJ4CQ-eaGKGw/s320/tm2.jpg" border="0" /><br /><div align="justify"><strong>Nithz funniest ways to stop telemarketers/junk calls :</strong><br /><br /></div><ul><li><div align="justify"><strong></strong>After the telemarketer finishes speaking, ask him/her to marry you. </div></li></ul><ul><li><div align="justify">Ask them to repeat everything they say, several times.</div></li></ul><ul><li><div align="justify">Tell them it is dinner time, BUT ask if they would please hold. Put them on your speaker phone while you continue to eat at your leisure. Smack your food loudly and continue with your dinner conversation. </div></li></ul><ul><li><div align="justify">Tell them that all business goes through your agent, and hand the phone to your five year old niece/child.</div></li></ul><ul><li><div align="justify">Tell them you are hard of hearing and that they need to speak up...louder...louder...louder!</div></li></ul><ul><li><div align="justify">Tell them to speak very slowly because you want to write every word down.</div></li></ul><ul><li><div align="justify">If they start out with, "How are you today?",say "I'm so glad you asked, because no one these days seems to care, and I have all these problems............" </div></li></ul><ul><li><div align="justify">Cry out in surprise, "Shree, is that you? I've been hoping you'd call! How is the family?" When they insist they are not Helen, tell them to stop joking. This works especially well if the telemarketer is really MALE. </div></li></ul><ul><li><div align="justify">Tell the HSBC telemarketer guy to call on your office number - and give him the Allianz Insurance call center number.</div></li></ul><ul><li><div align="justify">Tell the telemarketer that you’ll be with them in a second; you have a call on the other line. Then pretend to transfer, but don’t. Pretend to speak to another person and tell them you have some dumb telemarketer on the line. The telemarketer of course hears everything.</div></li></ul><br /><div align="justify"> </div><div align="justify">A funny conversation that i wish i can say (fyi, i never fooled/try to make fun of telemarketers till now. Please note the word 'i wish')..</div><div align="justify"> </div><div align="justify"><br /><span style="color:#993399;">Telemarketer: “How are you today?”</span> </div><div align="justify"><br /><span style="color:#6633ff;">Me : “Well, that’s so nice of you to ask. As a matter of fact, I’m a bit upset because my cat got the runs. And you know, just last night, I felt this twinge in my back as I was bending over to take care of a hangnail on my big toe. Have you ever had one of those? I hope not, because it’s as bad as an itchy scalp, and I’ve got that all the time. You just don’t know the pain I’m in..bla bla..</span> </div><div align="justify"> </div><div align="justify"><br />I am extremely sorry if i am trying to make a fun of you (if there's any telemarketers reading this post), but i do wish that there a better ways to reach your potential customers rather than calling all your customers number that you have in your database. Plan how you will respond to the objections you experience most frequently and be experimental with trying out different responses. Your attitude and emotional state is a vital part of telephone effectiveness. Clear your desk of everything except your prospect records and diary. If your immediate environment is uncluttered it helps free your mind so that you can focus on each call’s objectives. Visualise your prospect smiling warmly when they receive your call. This will help you access a positive state-of-mind. Your unconscious mind can’t tell the difference between a real and imagined event. This mentally rehearses you in feeling good about picking up the phone.</div><div align="justify"> </div><div align="justify"> </div><div align="justify">All that i can say is, if a telemarketer does manage to get you on the phone, never forget that you have the freedom to choose whether or not you participate in the call. Many people have a hard time saying no to someone, and these are the same people who consistently fall prey to telemarketing calls and tactics. </div><div align="justify"> </div><div align="justify"> </div><div align="justify">Cheers!!~<br /></div><p></p><br /><br /><br /><p></p>Nithzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15697318027346506274noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8297732527003035649.post-75361990533918283722009-05-24T20:23:00.000-07:002009-05-24T20:38:44.058-07:00Why Do Bad Boys Get The Good Girls?<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjWNLbBDKduFIAZfTdClMkTsTpVpn6k4Kp584IQqMz67TASATln7e8WjixivJ596RdXX6Xyc9vk0j-JdZgK3EMokK-rdWmCHOPV5A-VOtt9o3ypWxWno7068KQcCjUq8naXvagZv3MOskPN/s1600-h/bad-boys.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5339600204102566594" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 350px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 190px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjWNLbBDKduFIAZfTdClMkTsTpVpn6k4Kp584IQqMz67TASATln7e8WjixivJ596RdXX6Xyc9vk0j-JdZgK3EMokK-rdWmCHOPV5A-VOtt9o3ypWxWno7068KQcCjUq8naXvagZv3MOskPN/s320/bad-boys.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div><br /><br /><div><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">There’s a vast difference between the words “like” and “love”; if you know this then carry on reading this till the end. This is not a message to change the boys who are good, honest, and humane and are looking for love and relationship. Well all that I want to convey is significantly very clear from the title, “good girls like bad boys”. When I said this phrase to some of my female friends, I faced a huge resentment from them where they clearly stated me that “no! Never!”, “at the end the girl always desire for a good guy”. Hey! Wait a minute! Did I mention the word “end”?</span></div><br /><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">The word “Like” means to find something pleasant. So, I hope you got the difference in the simplest words. There has been a considerable change in the mindset on the current generation urban girl of the society. Now! If you imply the boundations on them then you can restrict them in four walls but not from watching MTV roadies or using internet. There has been a continues sway in terms of likes and dislikes, what we want to be in the long run and what we want to be currently are two very different things. There is something called an “x-factor”, which is present in many characteristics of boys that we categorize under the term bad.</span></div><br /><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5339599534598672146" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 341px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 435px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhHIodMNuQgPXwvxEODwySgyWdxrD4YIxwRYwXAzxB0RSNw6VjlKHnk0Oxphh8QYXUNR4D8fb9Qla8kQuSxA09JbNViSM91lYpWebleD2zQ2wQSQN3UxXDCXmlA0Dm-5fLcVvO7SK4P8hi5/s320/my_lovers.bmp" border="0" /><br /><br /><div align="justify"><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Well there is something called “interesting”, which is far more important than “smart”, “dependable” and “intelligent”, in the priority list of modern girl. They want to be free. There is a major portion of every girl that believes in the fact, she is a girl, and she is a good girl. When such girls comes across a guy who is just not the right kind of person to know, he flirts, sometimes he smokes, sometimes he is passionate, he is careless, he is ill mannered, he is disrespecting the elders, he seldom drinks, he rides bike breaking the rules, he takes too many risks, he teases people, he is naughty, he takes credits of his work, he blames other people for his failures, he speaks absurd words in between, he stares at his female friends yet he is there for them all the time. Fellow boys view this guy as just another spoiled brat; the back bencher extroverts enjoy his company and are just like him and the goody-goody boys maintains a safe distance from him. This guy is not a criminal, he is average or above average in studies, he is liked immensely by some people and most important is that he is bad but not cheat, he is what he is(not fake), he lies but don’t ditch, he is careless but cute, he is interesting and never boring to be with.</span></div><br /><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;color:#663366;">Loose Girl : Na ninaikiren avan rombe nalavan..</span></div><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;color:#cc33cc;">Girl 2: Dei, vendam..avaneh parthaleh vanthi tha varudhu..avenum avan munjiyum..</span></div><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;color:#663366;">Loose Girl : Apdi yelam solathey solithen. Na kadeppa agiduven..Yenaku yenamo avan tha “guy made for me” mathiri iruku..Altough he's bad, but something tells me he's a nice guy..</span></div><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"><span style="color:#cc33cc;">Girl 2 : Adeh loose, avan ranggi nu terinjum love paneh poriya? Urupeteh mathiritha..yepdiyavathu pongeh..ningela achi..ungeh kadhal achi</span>..</span></div><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;color:#663366;">Loose Girl : I think I am in love with him...Awwwwww!!</span></div><br /><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong>After 2 days..</strong></span></div><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;color:#663366;">Loose Girl : I am in love with you..</span></div><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;color:#cc33cc;">Bad boy : Amava? Apdiya? Cheri..yosichi soldren..</span></div><br /><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong>After another 2 days..</strong></span></div><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;color:#cc33cc;">Bad boy : I think I like you too..</span></div><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;color:#663366;">Loose Girl : Hughs the Bad Boy ..</span></div><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;color:#009900;"><strong>Song ....Vizhi Moodi Josithaal Anghaeyum Vanthaai Munnae Munnae..Thaniyaagha Pesidum Santhosam Thanthaai Pennae Pennae!..Adi ithu Pol Mazhai Kaalam En Vaazhvil Varuma? Mazhai Kiliyae..Mazhai Kiliyae..Un Kannai Kandaene..Vizhi Valiyae..Vizhi Valiyae..Naan Ennai Kandaene....Senthaenae…</strong></span></div><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;color:#663366;">Loose Girl : Ni rombe ranggi ah irunthalum na uneh rombe kadhalikiren..</span></div><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;color:#cc33cc;">Bad boy : I will do anything for you da..</span></div><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;color:#663366;">Loose Girl : Me too da..</span></div><br /><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">Both the loosengeh's academic results became Dham Dhoom..I always think to myself. Why do this people gave more priority to Love during the time they are supposed to excel in studies? Because the movies influenced them so much that Love has become a past time for them & they feel good if they can go through what they watch in movies? Isk isk..yevalo nalikitha ipdeh irukum...Minerungeh Tamilargaleh...Padingeh lahh..</span></div><br /><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">All of us among the boys have an instinct to be on top, if we play we want to win, if we give exam we want to pass, the current gen boys have a desire to succeed. All of us turn out to be with many similar traits in our persona. When in such a scenario, a girl comes across the guy mentioned in second paragraph then firstly she will try to be far away from him and hesitate to know him closely. This guy is different and in a time will surely catch her eye. She might even advice her friends never to talk with this guy but she will observe him and at the end of the day think about him. </span></div><br /><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">All girls are mothers from within and have immense love and affection in them. Once she is friendly with this guy, she will start giving him more space in his mind then other guys she knows. This guy needs me! There will be an instinct in her that he is not bad, no one is bad by birth. Why does he smoke sometimes? His bad habits are too small as compared to his pure heart. This guy can change! In such a quest she would enter his life in a stronger way. She will try to experiment all that she ever wanted to do, may be break a few rules and prove to all that even she can be with bad, for those who had never taken her seriously and always taken her for granted. She would defend him in front of her other friends. Perhaps she would be sure that he flirts with many girls but all that he likes is her company. Her love can change him, she will change him! In such a stronger effort she eventually likes him too much. The dedicated female beings give in emotions and care. Whether this liking turns to love or marriage or anything else is not what is my concern but this is a fact that good girls like bad boys, the following set sequence of thoughts are responsible for this phenomenon. As we advance in life, we learn the limits of our ability. Even if you completely disagree with me then too think about it!</span></div><br /><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">My priority with this article has been to tell them (the guys of today) my thoughts with clear small sentences and fast interesting format. At the end of the day they must leave the page with a mindset that I wanted to convey and I want “all good boys”, to never be confused that what is in this bad guy that is missing in him. As it’s not the ability of boy but the mindset of females that makes the difference!!!!</span></div><br /><br /><div align="justify">This post is based on the experience that i went through during my University time while observing people around me. Cerita ini ada kaitan dengan yang hidup @ mati tapi terpulang kepada anda untuk menerimanya ke @ tidak..</div><br /><br /><div align="justify">Nandri Vanakam...!!~</div></div></div>Nithzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15697318027346506274noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8297732527003035649.post-25922705401936381322009-05-24T19:26:00.000-07:002009-05-24T20:03:19.415-07:00Types of People At Working Place<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhDrqBOifYbAbnFIbjFNELihrFXJdL66l58U74EUVLKnTYwxll3yHVHuvsKd4irmxolaCD1FRZVJmTknvkRQd3FjuJLJNVpGZdd7b726wWuMHwm2DhP6cichBWrWNwQU_HVm8PSFGFJqyw-/s1600-h/121.gif"><span style="font-family:arial;"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5339586220243376802" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 244px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhDrqBOifYbAbnFIbjFNELihrFXJdL66l58U74EUVLKnTYwxll3yHVHuvsKd4irmxolaCD1FRZVJmTknvkRQd3FjuJLJNVpGZdd7b726wWuMHwm2DhP6cichBWrWNwQU_HVm8PSFGFJqyw-/s320/121.gif" border="0" /></span></a><span style="font-family:arial;"><br /></span><div><span style="font-family:arial;"><br />It doesn't matter how great the organization you work for is. It doesn't matter how fulfilling the work culture and atmosphere is. There will always be difficult people at work with a different agenda than helping with optimum work performance.</span></div><div><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">They come in various shades, and they have different styles and approaches to making their presence felt. To be fair, most of them may not even know how disruptive they can be ' then again, some do. In all cases, though, the sincere and focused employee suffers.</span></div><div><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">The following are various types of difficult people you can find during your career:</span></div><div><span style="font-family:Arial;"></span> </div><div><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><div><span style="font-family:Arial;"></span></div><p><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong>1. The Dumb Heads</strong></span></p><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">You have given the most perfect training anyone could imagine. You have coached them. Additional info’s on the issues/product’s are printed & given as a reading material plus distributed through email. But still, end of the day; they come after the ‘walking reference’ all the time. I wonder what are their brains made of? Kalli mannu? Even the senior’s who are good in talking (Zero in performance wise of coz) sometimes ends up being one of those dumb heads. I wish I am being paid for each additional session when these dumbs have any doubts.</span></p><p><span style="font-family:Arial;"></span> </p><p><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></p><p><span style="font-family:Arial;"></span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong>2. The Day Dreamers</strong> </span></p><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">This category of people tends to think something else while working. Staring on walls, pc monitor & those who looks at girl’s ass while they pass by them belongs to this category. These ‘God Gifted’ people are only awake for scenarios such as below:-</span></p><ul><li><span style="font-family:arial;">Watching porn’s in office. Most of them use Bluetooth & exchange in between them the latest porn videos through handphone. </span></li><li><span style="font-family:arial;">Day salary slip is issued</span></li><li><span style="font-family:arial;">Management decided for an outing for the Dept. </span></li></ul><p><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;">Rest of the days, they behave just like dead corpse that no one knows whether they are<br />Really working or engaged on something else.</span></p><p><span style="font-family:Arial;"></span> </p><p><span style="font-family:Arial;"></span></p><p><span style="font-family:Arial;"></span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong>3. The Blenders</strong> </span></p><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">If you open their workstation drawers, you will be surprised to see the amount of varieties of foods from beverages till snacks are all well arranged in tons. To name a few; sweets, snacks such as mamee, twisties, keropok, biscuits, Maggie mee, chocolates, lollipops & the list will go on. Meanwhile, you name anything that is free from a small ‘makan’, party organized by Dept – they will be the first to arrive. Besides that, food items that are ordered monthly basis which are kept in pantry section are mostly or shall I say 99.99% are finished by them within a few days. Can you imagine these blenders sometimes can drink Milo/Nescafe/Coffee nearly 3-4 times a day? That’s in the morning for breakfast, before lunch, after lunch & evening. Everytime you see them, they will be busy munching something while working. Now, that irritates me to the max. These people are best avoided during:-</span></p><ul><li><span style="font-family:arial;">Parties – as they prefer to focus on food served more than the activity organised</span></li><li><span style="font-family:arial;">Gathering – as they spend more time in putting all the food items in one plate rather than understanding the purpose of the gathering. And guess what, they love when people ask them to finish the left out items.<br /></span></li></ul><p><span style="font-family:Arial;"></span> </p><p><span style="font-family:Arial;"></span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong>4. The Mr.Right</strong> </span></p><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">You are assigned to coach the rest on the features of a newly launch products/compliance/management’s decision/etc. However this person behaves as if he was born with an Einstein brain & thinks he’s Right all the time. They will never refer anything on normal ordinary ranking officers/supervisors to consult on certain issues but prefer to be handled by high ranking officers. But then, if the high ranking officers are not around in the office, they tend to feel guilty @ low esteem by asking their immediate leader on the doubts. End of the day, Mr.Right Ass tends to fight over the facts after explanation given by immediate leaders & claims himself as Right all the time.</span></p><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;color:#663366;">Me : Well, the Management had decided to do include Shipping Guarantee under our Commercial Loan product. It’s also known as working capital be it secured or clean & it’s based on daily reducing balance.</span></p><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;color:#cc33cc;">Mr.Right : Wait a minute, I have a question. Why does it have to be in a daily reducing balance when the loan term is short?</span></p><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;color:#663366;">Me : The payment method is on monthly installment whreby the grace period is allowed to pay each payment due within 14 days from the due date. The availability time is within 6 months from the facility being accepted & extension allowed in 3 months up to a maximum of 12 from the date of LO.</span></p><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;color:#cc33cc;">Mr.Right : Hmmm.. (Interrupts). I think you didn’t get my question. You see…</span></p><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;color:#663366;">Me : Oh (period!!!!)</span></p><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;color:#cc33cc;">Mr.Right : Working capital is secured by commercial property/residential property whereby they can choose the repayment time.</span></p><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;color:#663366;">Me : I wish I can say this…Can you just shut your fucking explanation & listen to me? You are the leader or me? If you think you are hell of BIG, please come in front & explain A-Z on the features of the product right until on how to solve the delay in LC issuance. Now sit down or get hell out from this training room immediately!!</span></p><p><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#663366;"></span> </p><p><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#663366;"></span></p><p><span style="font-family:Arial;"></span></p><p><span style="font-family:Arial;"></span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong>5. The Losers</strong> </span></p><span style="font-family:Arial;"></span><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">They are good for nothing. In short, their value for the organization is “Zero”. If a task is given to them, they will only be able to finish the task 1-2weeks after the dateline (below satisfactory level of coz). The losers always thinks “Out of the box” (their Ass) when they have this assumption of doing work/tasks which is in line with their job descriptions. Other additional tasks given aren’t bothered to be done & prefer to curse the person who gave the task. Their favorite quotes “Why am I doing this? Why shall I do when I am not paid even a single cent? </span></p><p><span style="font-family:Arial;"></span> </p><p><span style="font-family:arial;"><br /></p></span><p><span style="font-family:arial;"></p></span><p><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong>6. The Hypocrite</strong></span></p><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">The real ‘Pambu’ or snake in the block watching you 24hours. In another word, backstabbers are listed under this category. “Nice to see, nice to talk, once you got hooked, you will be another crook”. A special team of FBI’s (Fucking Busybody Idiots) who are assigned to watch whatever you are doing & reporting the wrong doings to employers end of the day. Early of the month, without you noticing that someone have watched you, you are requested to have a private talk between you & the employer. The employer will then list all the things you have done for the past one month.</span></p><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;color:#663366;">FBI: J has been found talking to his working cgues over while attending to customers through phone. This has been happening nearly everyday.</span></p><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"><span style="color:#cc33cc;">Employer: This is strictly not allowed. Why is this happening? If there any coaching been done on J?</span> </span></p><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;color:#663366;">FBI: I am not sure on that but I think we should take immediate action on J.</span></p><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;color:#009900;"><strong>After 2 days…Employer invites J into discussion room.</strong></span></p><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;color:#cc33cc;">Employer : J, I have heard that you have been talking to the rest while customers are on the line. I thought you have read out T&C that such action aren’t allowed under the compliance of bla bla bla..</span></p><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;color:#663366;">J : (shocked) Yes, I did. But that was only once 2days back when I was having some doubts. And that’s why I was referring to another cgue on the issue. Is that wrong?</span></p><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;color:#cc33cc;">Employer: Hmmmm.. I think there’s a miscommunication here..</span></p><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"><span style="color:#663366;">J : Wth??</span><br /></span><a name="main2"></a><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">A personal confidence that damages your professional image at the workplace is leaked to the authorities. The fact that you have under-performed or made a serious mistake is suddenly the talk of the office. Someone else gets the credit for a project that you slaved on. Amongst the difficult people at the workplace, these can be the most damaging. </span></p><span style="font-family:arial;"></span><br /><p><span style="font-family:arial;"></span> </p><p><span style="font-family:arial;"> </p><p><br /></p></span><p><span style="font-family:arial;"></p></span><p><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong>7. The Sleeper</strong> </span></p><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">You often see them neither walking in to the office in the morning with heavy eyes and to add hair nor combed or you notice that their office wear is not ironed. When asked, they will only answer you “I wish I am sleeping at home now”. Why so?</span></p><ul><li><span style="font-family:arial;">Clubbing the day before till next morning</span></li><li><span style="font-family:arial;">Watching soccer games all night</span></li><li><span style="font-family:arial;">Doing “some” activities with their partners in some unknown hotel/rumah tumpangan</span></li><li><span style="font-family:arial;">On drugs</span></li></ul><p><span style="font-family:Arial;"></span> </p><p><span style="font-family:Arial;"></span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></p><p><span style="font-family:Arial;"></span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong>8. Bootlickers</strong></span></p><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Bootlickers are also known as brown-nosers, and the inference is clear. Such difficult people at work feel the shortest way to the top is by fawning to the management. Apart from being a shortcut, this also seems to them to be the best way of saving on effort. Bootlickers are universally despised.</span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;">Bootlickers invariably see their tendencies in a very positive light.<br /></span></p><ul><li><span style="font-family:arial;">To them, it is uncommon and enviable dedication and devotion to those in charge. </span></li><li><span style="font-family:arial;">This presents a major problem ' they are very averse to being told the truth about their tactics. </span></li><li><span style="font-family:arial;">This state of denial ensures that the problem does not easily resolve itself.<br />Unfortunately, certain managers even encourage bootlickers because they derive a sense of importance from them. </span></li></ul><p><span style="font-family:arial;">If these kinds of individuals exist at your workplace, you will find them hard to ignore. You will feel insecure and angry most of the time.</span></p><p><span style="font-family:Arial;"></span></p><p></p><p> </p><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong>9. The Saboteurs</strong></span></p><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">These rank among the most difficult people at work. They disrupt the peace and harmony of the workplace with malicious intent or out of plain ignorance. In rare instances, it may be out of sheer ignorance. Whatever the case, their influence is extremely negative.</span></p><ul><li><span style="font-family:arial;">You may find that a critical document has been misplaced </span></li><li><span style="font-family:arial;">Your Internet connection may have been mysteriously disconnected. </span></li><li><span style="font-family:arial;">You may not receive the accounts you badly need even though the person responsible for giving them to you is aware of the urgency. </span></li><li><span style="font-family:arial;">A malicious piece of gossip affecting you may have been put in the ear of the supervisor.</span></li></ul><p> </p><p><span style="font-family:Arial;"></span></p><p><span style="font-family:Arial;"></span></p><p><span style="font-family:Arial;"></span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong>10. Wheeler Dealers</strong></span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;">To some people, the workplace is the venue for political intrigue or simple personal gain. Co-workers and even superiors exist solely to be manipulated. These extremely difficult people at work are usually power seekers who will stop at nothing. They may employ:</span></p><ul><li><span style="font-family:arial;">Blackmail to get a personal deal through </span></li><li><span style="font-family:arial;">Gossip to spread a self-serving rumor </span></li><li><span style="font-family:arial;">Spurious claims of personal connections to the management </span></li><li><span style="font-family:arial;">The ultimate objective of these wheeler-dealers is to gain a position of strength. This may then be employed for internal political advantage (promotions, raises etc) or for financial gain unrelated to office work.</span></li></ul><p><span style="font-family:Arial;">All the above listed re categorized as negative charactersin my office. But it doesnt mean that all the good peoples are dead in my office. I shall come up with a positive version in the near future. Hehehehe...I am not sure why i came up with such post in which not everyone will do, but in another way i feel good writting about this in my blog. I feel good...theoneo theoneoooo...</span></p><p>I Feellllllllllllllllllll Gooddddddddddddddd!!~</p><p></p><p></p>Nithzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15697318027346506274noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8297732527003035649.post-17271347992106756192009-05-03T19:44:00.000-07:002009-05-03T19:50:17.927-07:00The Female Rules<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi0zbS1wRoAIMz2MHc4VXDBT25zdKEGFIWe0RU2fpeXcAyNM8ptiquvxSrV-VLJJg3xeZJrbWkwmvGr3F8CQUNcImAU1JFX8Ks3TTymrG8GDsG28w-mkxVDc8JqnUZXdHMaABe5a6xO2WO1/s1600-h/smart-girls.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5331795084019330530" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 324px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi0zbS1wRoAIMz2MHc4VXDBT25zdKEGFIWe0RU2fpeXcAyNM8ptiquvxSrV-VLJJg3xeZJrbWkwmvGr3F8CQUNcImAU1JFX8Ks3TTymrG8GDsG28w-mkxVDc8JqnUZXdHMaABe5a6xO2WO1/s320/smart-girls.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><div></div><br /><br /><div></div><br /><br /><div></div><br /><br /><ol><br /><br /><li>The Female always makes THE RULES. </li><br /><br /><li>THE RULES are subject to change without notice. </li><br /><br /><li>No Male can possibly know all THE RULES. </li><br /><br /><li>If the Female suspects the Male knows all THE RULES, she must immediately change some of THE RULES. </li><br /><br /><li>The Female is never wrong. </li><br /><br /><li>If it appears the Female is wrong, it is because of a flagrant misunderstanding caused by something the Male did or said wrong. </li><br /><br /><li>If Rule #6 applies, the Male must apologize immediately for causing the misunderstanding.</li><br /><br /><li>The Female can change her mind at any time. </li><br /><br /><li>The Male must never change his mind without the express written consent of The Female.</li><br /><br /><li>The Female has every right to be angry or upset at any time. </li><br /><br /><li>The Male must remain calm at all times, unless the Female wants him to be angry or upset. </li><br /><br /><li>The Female must, under no circumstances, let the Male know whether she wants him to be angry or upset. </li><br /><br /><li>The Male is expected to read the mind of the Female at all times. </li><br /><br /><li>At all times, what is important is what the Female meant, not what she said. </li><br /><br /><li>If the Male doesn't abide by THE RULES, it is because he can't take the heat, lacks backbone, and is a wimp. </li><br /><br /><li>If the Female has PMS, all THE RULES are null and void and the Male must cater to her every whim. </li><br /><br /><li>If the Male, at any time, believes he is right, he must refer to Rule #5.</li><br /><br /><li>I am not saying i am right but in another word i could be RIGHT.</li><br /><br /><li>Th RULES should be abide by all Males if not our Life will be a Disaster.</li><br /><br /><li>Females represents Gaya, Mutu & Keunggulan..Our Motto for RULES Of The Day!!</li></ol>p/s: I hope the picture is not offensive..Cheers to al the females out there!!<br /><br /><p></p>Nithzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15697318027346506274noreply@blogger.com10tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8297732527003035649.post-67061133291569328912009-05-03T19:16:00.000-07:002009-05-03T19:23:49.575-07:00How to Identify an Indian<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiTHG8YcTf8PXAIFrT_ZK5p8t4M1xl3WQD74OyAFdfSszx-V0pBaU7BnUuxahuzXwgbBAGpl8Uv9QX50cy1m3mQT1NEzp39JZqYlY86h11FpeHxqrsw_EFJ07aqjGOCc3OUp2DJFH0UnWv8/s1600-h/family11.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5331788514867827714" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 263px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiTHG8YcTf8PXAIFrT_ZK5p8t4M1xl3WQD74OyAFdfSszx-V0pBaU7BnUuxahuzXwgbBAGpl8Uv9QX50cy1m3mQT1NEzp39JZqYlY86h11FpeHxqrsw_EFJ07aqjGOCc3OUp2DJFH0UnWv8/s320/family11.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong>Top Qualities of A Real Indian:</strong></span></div><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong><br /><ol><br /><li></strong>Everything you eat is savoured in spices,garlic, onion and tomatoes & no to forget "mollagai thullu" (curry powder)</li><br /><li>You try and reuse gift wrappers, gift boxes, and of course aluminium foil. </li><br /><li>You are Always standing next to the two largest size suitcases at the Airport. </li><br /><li>You arrive one or two hours late to a party - and think it's normal. </li><br /><li>You peel the stamps off letters that the Postal Service missed to stamp. </li><br /><li>You recycle Wedding Gifts , Birthday Gifts and Anniversary Gifts. </li><br /><li>You name your children in rhythms (example, Sita & Gita, Ram & Shyam, Kamini & Shamini.) </li><br /><li>All your children have pet names, which sound nowhere close to their real names. </li><br /><li>You take Indian snacks anywhere it says "No Food Allowed" </li><br /><li>You talk for an hour at the front door when leaving someone's house. </li><br /><li>You load up the family car with as many people as possible. </li><br /><li>You use plastic to cover anything new in your house whether it's the remote control, VCR, carpet or new couch. </li><br /><li>Your parents tell you not to care what your friends think, but they won't let you do certain things because of what the other "Uncles and Aunties" will think. </li><br /><li>You buy and display crockery, which is never used , as it is for special occasions, which never happen. </li><br /><li>You have a vinyl tablecloth on your kitchen table. </li><br /><li>You use grocery bags to hold garbage. </li><br /><li>You keep leftover food in your fridge in as many numbers of bowls as possible. </li><br /><li>Your kitchen shelf is full of jars, varieties of bowls and plastic utensils (got free with purchase of other stuff) </li><br /><li>You carry a stash of your own food whenever you travel (and travel means any car ride longer than 15 minutes). </li><br /><li>You own a rice cooker or a pressure cooker. </li><br /><li>You fight over who pays the dinner bill. </li><br /><li>You live with your parents and you are 40 years old. (And they prefer it that way). </li><br /><li>You don't use measuring cups when cooking. </li><br /><li>You never learnt how to stand in a queue. </li><br /><li>You can only travel if there are 5 persons at least to see you off or receive you whether you are travelling by bus, train or plane. </li><br /><li>If she is NOT your daughter, you always take interest in knowing whose daughter has run with whose son and feel proud to spread it at the velocity of more than the speed of light. </li><br /><li>You only make long distance calls after 11 p.m. </li><br /><li>If you don't live at home, when your parents call, they ask if you've eaten, even if it's midnight.</li><br /><li>You call an older person you never met before Uncle or Aunty." </li><br /><li>When your parents meet strangers and talk for a few minutes, you discover you're talking to a distant cousin. </li><br /><li>Your parents don't realize phone connections to foreign countries have improved in the last two decades, and still scream at the top of their lungs when making foreign calls. </li><br /><li>You have bed sheets on your sofas so as to keep them from getting dirty. </li><br /><li>It's embarrassing if your wedding has less than 600 people. </li><br /><li>All your Tupperware is stained with food color. </li><br /><li>You have drinking glasses made of steel. </li><br /><li>You have mastered the art of bargaining in shopping. </li><br /><li>I have more than 30 qualities that i have listed above</li><br /><li>I know i am nuts</li><br /><li>I have no idea why i came up with such a post</li><br /><li>I wish the list can go longer but my mind isnt functioning well at this point of time :p</li></ol><p></span></p>Nithzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15697318027346506274noreply@blogger.com8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8297732527003035649.post-62466938029803443302009-05-03T19:00:00.000-07:002009-05-03T19:16:07.705-07:00Lack of Motivation and Enthusiasm<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhhAm_tdKojA1hPRlKowcmK3aTnpAhGUy06ei0TS6J3cAC_NeM3V1Hn4bioi0d-H3dtxmDNUiV8Y9aM0LcBDGJLSuaUhhyWMTDo0D5J7R8aoq-6H52zl8YGFmTZx-8VXVusqbgIbXTtH3dp/s1600-h/fck.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5331786407913600658" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 321px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 393px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhhAm_tdKojA1hPRlKowcmK3aTnpAhGUy06ei0TS6J3cAC_NeM3V1Hn4bioi0d-H3dtxmDNUiV8Y9aM0LcBDGJLSuaUhhyWMTDo0D5J7R8aoq-6H52zl8YGFmTZx-8VXVusqbgIbXTtH3dp/s320/fck.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><br /><div><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong>Motivation</strong> and enthusiasm manifest as desire and interest, and as a driving force that pushes to take action and pursue goals. Lack of motivation and enthusiasm denotes absence or deficiency in desire, interest and driving force.</span></div><br /><br /><div><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><br /><div><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Lack of motivation and lack of enthusiasm are two of the main reasons for failure and of living a mediocre life. People lacking in motivation and enthusiasm are usually passive, blame everything and everyone for their circumstances, and often come up with many excuses why they shouldn't and cannot do this or that, while a motivated person will take initiative, try and not give up, and will not even think about such excuses.</span></div><br /><br /><div><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><br /><div><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Lack of motivation and enthusiasm can manifest everywhere, at home, at work, in relationships, in pursuing goals and in everything else. This often brings indifference, unhappiness and dissatisfaction.</span></div><br /><br /><div><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><br /><p><strong><span style="font-family:arial;">What are the reasons for lack of motivation and enthusiasm?</span></strong></p><br /><br /><ol><br /><br /><li><span style="font-family:arial;">Lack of faith in one's abilities.</span></li><br /><br /><li><span style="font-family:arial;">Fear of failure, due to failure in the past.</span></li><br /><br /><li><span style="font-family:arial;">Low self-esteem.</span></li><br /><br /><li><span style="font-family:arial;">Lack of enough interest.</span></li><br /><br /><li><span style="font-family:arial;">Fear of what others might say.</span></li><br /><br /><li><span style="font-family:arial;">The habit of procrastination.</span></li><br /><br /><li><span style="font-family:arial;">Laziness.</span></li><br /><br /><li><span style="font-family:arial;">No awareness of the importance and usefulness of the subject or goal.</span></li><br /><br /><li><span style="font-family:arial;">The feeling or belief that there are other more important things to do.</span></li><br /><br /><li><span style="font-family:arial;">Not having the time to delve into the subject or goal.</span></li><br /><br /><li><span style="font-family:arial;">Being too stressed or nervous.</span></li><br /><br /><li><span style="font-family:arial;">Absence of enough stimuli or incentives.</span></li></ol><br /><br /><p><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></p><br /><br /><p><span style="font-family:arial;">The above reasons stifle motivation and enthusiasm, and are only excuses for not acting. However, you learn to overcome and disregard them, by becoming aware of them, acknowledging them, and understanding that you can change the programming of your mind.<br />Sometimes, people show short bursts of motivation or enthusiasm. They start doing something enthusiastically, but lose interest and motivation after a while, because they find it hard to sustain them.</span></p><br /><br /><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">If you wish to improve your life, you need to awaken motivation and enthusiasm. You need to realize how much you lose by their absence, and how much you gain by having them.<br />If you are overweight, and you don't have enough inner strength to exercise your body or follow a diet, you should consider strengthening your motivation to lose weight.</span></p><br /><br /><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">If you are a student, and are too lazy to study, you need to strengthen your desire to invest more attention, time and energy in your studies.</span></p><br /><br /><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">If you are lonely and gloomy, but wish to have love and happiness in your life, you need to kindle your desire and enthusiasm to find love. You need to awaken the desire and willingness to put time and effort into searching for someone to share your life with.</span></p><br /><br /><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">You need incentive and drive to follow your big dreams, and also for the performance of minor daily tasks and chores, otherwise laziness and absence of energy will set in procrastination. Instead of suffering, feeling uncomfortable and passive, it would be much better to awaken enough motivation to take action and do things. This will make you feel much better, happy and satisfied.</span></p><br /><br /><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Procrastination, laziness, indifference and passivity bring unhappiness, weakness and lack of satisfaction, but being enthusiastic, motivated and active bring a sense of joy, strength and power. By getting motivated, you act, do things, take your mind off problems and difficulties and focus on finding solutions and achieving success.</span></p><br /><br /><p><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></p>Nithzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15697318027346506274noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8297732527003035649.post-27266264986164427892009-05-03T18:51:00.000-07:002009-05-03T19:00:03.433-07:00Twenty Funny Truths<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjnRALa4AaugO_F7aPZl3rGDTDOFXR5Cb9fQS8gH6Ryu6CMBgXovuuplKsN91QpOWH1mKW7HdAVL5jtdrQUviHIKja6XcQUM7GYa0zDZ-Ak0DH6kKzot7lHln_MycUw7XZPoMN4HCnrXImc/s1600-h/aps6.gif"><span style="font-family:arial;"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5331782041552826114" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 358px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 283px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjnRALa4AaugO_F7aPZl3rGDTDOFXR5Cb9fQS8gH6Ryu6CMBgXovuuplKsN91QpOWH1mKW7HdAVL5jtdrQUviHIKja6XcQUM7GYa0zDZ-Ak0DH6kKzot7lHln_MycUw7XZPoMN4HCnrXImc/s320/aps6.gif" border="0" /></span></a><span style="font-family:arial;"><br /><br /></span><div></div><br /><br /><p><span style="font-family:arial;">1.Regular naps prevent old age... especially if you take them while driving. </span></p><br /><br /><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">2.Having one child makes you a parent; having two makes you a referee.</span></p><br /><br /><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">3.Marriage is a relationship in which one person is always right and the other is the husband!</span></p><br /><br /><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">4.They said we should all pay our tax with a smile. I tried- but they wanted cash.</span></p><br /><br /><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">5A child's greatest period of growth is the month after you've purchased new school uniforms.</span></p><br /><br /><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">6.Don't feel bad. A lot of people have no talent.</span></p><br /><br /><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">7.Don't marry the person you want to live with, marry the one you cannot live without... but whatever you do, you'll regret it later. </span></p><br /><br /><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">8.You can't buy love. . But you pay heavily for it. </span></p><br /><br /><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">9.True friends stab you in the front.</span></p><br /><br /><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">10.Forgiveness is giving up my right to hate you for hurting me.</span></p><br /><br /><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">11.Bad officials are elected by good citizens who do not vote.</span></p><br /><br /><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">12.Laziness is nothing more than the habit of resting before you get tired. </span></p><br /><br /><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">13.Those who can't laugh at themselves leave the job to others. </span></p><br /><br /><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">14.Ladies first. Pretty ladies sooner.</span></p><br /><br /><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">15.It doesn't matter how often a married man changes his job, he still ends up with the same boss.</span></p><br /><br /><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">16.They call our language the mother tongue because the father seldom gets to speak. </span></p><br /><br /><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">17.Saving is the best thing. Especially when your parents have done it for you.</span></p><br /><br /><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">18.Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools talk because they have to say something.</span></p><br /><br /><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">19.Real friends are the ones who survive transitions between address books.</span></p><br /><br /><p><span style="font-family:arial;">20.Sometimes it is better to be alone than being in a relationship as it reminds me of daughter in law & mother in law sense of relationship.....</span></p><p> </p>Nithzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15697318027346506274noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8297732527003035649.post-66603527522610521232009-05-03T18:36:00.000-07:002009-05-03T18:45:19.972-07:007 Destructive Habits of Unsuccessful People<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgaB8u7iMENBk3S7qiKFQwVKKkXY3X4u5kFQrTw8MjyyGbhQ_ojkoDcmY3ZsOnCb665bWAHoBEJ5PFJBBjA4RMoYt7t2qTntbcFl0YhVfJ70q3SZ4rbr6Q7WcawPrZbNZ5AWUJbohPivKQx/s1600-h/fit00.gif"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5331778104380238610" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 298px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 402px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgaB8u7iMENBk3S7qiKFQwVKKkXY3X4u5kFQrTw8MjyyGbhQ_ojkoDcmY3ZsOnCb665bWAHoBEJ5PFJBBjA4RMoYt7t2qTntbcFl0YhVfJ70q3SZ4rbr6Q7WcawPrZbNZ5AWUJbohPivKQx/s320/fit00.gif" border="0" /></a><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong><span style="color:#cc33cc;">WARNING! If you want to have a fantastic life, never engage yourself in these 7 deadly habits that incompetent people do.</span></strong> </span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong>Number 1 - They Think, Say, & Do Negative Things.</strong> </span></div><br /><div align="justify"><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Yup. They see problems in every opportunity. They complain that the sun is too hot. They cursed the rain for ruining their plans for the day. They blame the wind for ruining their hair. They think that everyone is against them. They see the problems but never the solutions. Every little bit of difficulty is exaggerated to the point of tragedy. They regard failures as catastrophes. They become discouraged easily instead of learning from their mistakes. They never seem to move forward because they're always afraid to come out of their comfort zones. </span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong>Number 2 - They Act Before They Think.</strong> </span></div><br /><div align="justify"><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">They move based on instinst or impulse. If they see something they like, they buy at once without any second thought. Then they see something better. They regret & curse for not able to take advantage of the bargain. Then they spend & spend again until nothing's left. They don't think about the future. What they're after is the pleasure they will experience at present. They don't think about the consequenses. Those who engage in unsafe sex, criminality, and the like are included in this group. </span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong>Number 3 - They Talk Much More Than They Listen</strong> </span></div><br /><div align="justify"><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">They want to be the star of the show. So they always engage in talks that would make them heroes, even to the point of lying. Oftentimes they are not aware that what they're saying is not sensible anymore. When other people advise them, they close their ears because they're too proud to admit their mistakes. In their mind they're always correct. They reject suggestions because that will make them feel inferior. </span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong>Number 4 - They Give Up Easily</strong> </span></div><br /><div align="justify"><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Successful people treat failures as stepping stones to success. Incompetent ones call it quits upon recognizing the first signs of failure. At first, they may be excited to start an endeavor. But then they lose interest fairly quickly, especially when they encounter errors. Then they go & search for a new one. Same story & same results. Incompetent people don't have the persistence to go on and fulfill their dreams. </span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong>Number 5 - They Try to Bring Others Down To Their Level</strong> </span></div><br /><div align="justify"><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Incompetent people envy other successful individuals. Instead of working hard to be like them, these incompetent ones spread rumors and try every dirty trick to bring them down. They could've asked these successful ones nicely. But no, they're too proud. They don't want to ask advise. Moreover, they're too negative to accomplish anything. </span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong>Number 6 - They Waste Their Time</strong> </span></div><br /><div align="justify"><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">They don't know what to do next. They may just be contented on eating, getting drunk, watching TV, or worse, staring at the blank wall with no thoughts whatsoever to improve their lives. It's perfectly fine to enjoy once in a while. But time should be managed efficiently in order to succeed. There should be a proper balance between work & pleasure. </span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong>Number 7 - They Take the Easy Way Out</strong></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">If there are two roads to choose from, incompetent people would choose the wider road with less rewards than the narrower road with much better rewards at the end. They don't want any suffering or hardship. They want a good life. What these people don't know is that what you reap is what you sow. Efforts & action will not go unnoticed. If only they would be willing to sacrifice a little, they would be much better off. Successful people made it through trials & error. They never give up. They are willing to do everything necessary to achieve what they aspire for in life.</span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div>Nithzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15697318027346506274noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8297732527003035649.post-16655343382972626842009-04-17T22:34:00.001-07:002009-04-17T22:41:39.779-07:00Cute..<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhVjnVpy-t9c3R1pkYLXWhmBDQcpEPXAxIhy-LgZBU2MJabnNINF_ujxzDTo9gouaH8d-YDKwa7HfU2HQ64JkTdK1EGydm4m1znnnPoZ2DeDwbRhbun-kVUehoJ7vN0RW_9HLtuPfjtTg7N/s1600-h/vladstudio_proud_200x150.jpg"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 206px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 150px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5325901642288191378" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhVjnVpy-t9c3R1pkYLXWhmBDQcpEPXAxIhy-LgZBU2MJabnNINF_ujxzDTo9gouaH8d-YDKwa7HfU2HQ64JkTdK1EGydm4m1znnnPoZ2DeDwbRhbun-kVUehoJ7vN0RW_9HLtuPfjtTg7N/s320/vladstudio_proud_200x150.jpg" /></a><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEggP0DXBkw0NShxmXlEJeBCYsBd7MExy1z2-BNTsq_eYcGky8fzIcZeAHBnkCaOr9ag7F9dmljfaR_DCA0xZf8MYN2NxWpkOvrwrGMclrlo2gKtp1BAEgv2Z-tdiCYy_1EU8i3TdbQzk66a/s1600-h/vladstudio_snail_racing_200x150.jpg"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 209px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 175px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5325901637875421778" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEggP0DXBkw0NShxmXlEJeBCYsBd7MExy1z2-BNTsq_eYcGky8fzIcZeAHBnkCaOr9ag7F9dmljfaR_DCA0xZf8MYN2NxWpkOvrwrGMclrlo2gKtp1BAEgv2Z-tdiCYy_1EU8i3TdbQzk66a/s320/vladstudio_snail_racing_200x150.jpg" /></a><br /><br /><div><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgf_cSGvzTX7-QhRzLS0J2SghCRDi8l2vRM9jXAeRvolLjFpsd-K_AGZcAKvQNmJqVxUnZKklKSze5d7L3lkbJQwwmUuFVrJ1FI5mhHuKP26MSFo_vZJ60jpnk7730rJEbOfrHddmLfsYhj/s1600-h/puluvu.jpg"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 205px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 131px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5325901638455094786" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgf_cSGvzTX7-QhRzLS0J2SghCRDi8l2vRM9jXAeRvolLjFpsd-K_AGZcAKvQNmJqVxUnZKklKSze5d7L3lkbJQwwmUuFVrJ1FI5mhHuKP26MSFo_vZJ60jpnk7730rJEbOfrHddmLfsYhj/s320/puluvu.jpg" /></a> <img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 200px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 150px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5325901639637933394" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiTZj0eZp0CRX_TzXUvvkRWgV9ty0nCEDKrH_K8H5aBfGAnKjQ0iduE77xDkyt_PJh2qc04ydpX0HtJpm64fFWhP671YH3DDrtt6v4rdwHLOp-7B0fMFiaFH1i__o8dEHCQl1PuODAlf3Cb/s320/toucan.jpg" /><br /><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgQ7ahyQdWLKUE3AzC1gqSbve_R-vUwO5CpEI7I1q1A82rr4o0cRTHG_Wu2FZCAQrwayNZzdHFA473NyQ6nlccN5xfCKotz_HMNGV7LcECF-gH0zZ4sh6CE5wid7hhk9NVQN4nJi9235SY_/s1600-h/horse.jpg"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 192px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 125px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5325901133616716770" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgQ7ahyQdWLKUE3AzC1gqSbve_R-vUwO5CpEI7I1q1A82rr4o0cRTHG_Wu2FZCAQrwayNZzdHFA473NyQ6nlccN5xfCKotz_HMNGV7LcECF-gH0zZ4sh6CE5wid7hhk9NVQN4nJi9235SY_/s320/horse.jpg" /></a><br /><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg6QhpMxtteRbdajt7NUmraw54MJryCWtlgDOLUBoG9d8_mYTy-TsrRjvUjZdO2nJZkwf7Ni64M2hvoHpjOIaKCpDZJM0YtL5q2321TfFK3wnhFkJ_15E-C5yqn1dmLKg6NlVqxYAhqBGsk/s1600-h/elephant+n+giraffe.jpg"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 190px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 150px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5325901128166640434" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg6QhpMxtteRbdajt7NUmraw54MJryCWtlgDOLUBoG9d8_mYTy-TsrRjvUjZdO2nJZkwf7Ni64M2hvoHpjOIaKCpDZJM0YtL5q2321TfFK3wnhFkJ_15E-C5yqn1dmLKg6NlVqxYAhqBGsk/s320/elephant+n+giraffe.jpg" /></a><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhDb6kO8sNvE3Q0lVKHzCu6zlX7OiiCkCT_0VPPm-NbmKhyixEHO_K5WZXmJJwsfe9yoIj9Xo8kVvZA_cvIF5zDylQhjP8pf6y0bbVcc29x4XL8MQUl_Mg8fJh_cikbYtNjPRl7ZNLqsQvO/s1600-h/2+elephant.jpg"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 195px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 153px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5325901127935295378" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhDb6kO8sNvE3Q0lVKHzCu6zlX7OiiCkCT_0VPPm-NbmKhyixEHO_K5WZXmJJwsfe9yoIj9Xo8kVvZA_cvIF5zDylQhjP8pf6y0bbVcc29x4XL8MQUl_Mg8fJh_cikbYtNjPRl7ZNLqsQvO/s320/2+elephant.jpg" /></a><br /><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg6VpZE01euuT1SSvAglm_DcM8Br9f4DWYRFaFQdxBeEgJiNdK0NB6R0laPsSyRZp93U6NsV-WerZymd7d2LoNoLuhB5zpEqQ8K0IW0nGLxsR9yj1Gbk0pouM_DVnNBcZWnm8pg3Xse4tmq/s1600-h/anglerfish.jpg"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 200px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 150px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5325901127583486274" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg6VpZE01euuT1SSvAglm_DcM8Br9f4DWYRFaFQdxBeEgJiNdK0NB6R0laPsSyRZp93U6NsV-WerZymd7d2LoNoLuhB5zpEqQ8K0IW0nGLxsR9yj1Gbk0pouM_DVnNBcZWnm8pg3Xse4tmq/s320/anglerfish.jpg" /></a><br /><br /><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiyWPQUYOFWwLN5ZHbA1oF8mLqpsYz7ZVj6Yu5LQlfRlUAkUjAvmdq5fxnIDKl3Gx6RmHi-ZU0ryAzSc7xwc7aORJrrssdt9LuXhc_vh8JzZ4FdumKhu5q4uCwyMTnuLmhIoVK2q94uoTgU/s1600-h/snail_and_chameleon_.jpg"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 200px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 150px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5325901122432319410" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiyWPQUYOFWwLN5ZHbA1oF8mLqpsYz7ZVj6Yu5LQlfRlUAkUjAvmdq5fxnIDKl3Gx6RmHi-ZU0ryAzSc7xwc7aORJrrssdt9LuXhc_vh8JzZ4FdumKhu5q4uCwyMTnuLmhIoVK2q94uoTgU/s320/snail_and_chameleon_.jpg" /></a><br /><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhxk-QsP_k6rEm0UKoDM_arD7UHZvUrCeryLgsaPoJZ__MwhV3lyq6zbLdVP9IPyMFY4egK6FulQCBPavf4ODtSl432W7uKMvGTv7kLK5BTIjhWR6Jb-wCFXMOejHrhvp3wK4dJGVQ5uyeu/s1600-h/alien_and_chameleon.jpg"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 200px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 150px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5325900662725616930" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhxk-QsP_k6rEm0UKoDM_arD7UHZvUrCeryLgsaPoJZ__MwhV3lyq6zbLdVP9IPyMFY4egK6FulQCBPavf4ODtSl432W7uKMvGTv7kLK5BTIjhWR6Jb-wCFXMOejHrhvp3wK4dJGVQ5uyeu/s320/alien_and_chameleon.jpg" /></a><br /><br /><br /><div><strong><span style="font-family:arial;">Something cute...</span></strong><br /></div><div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div>Nithzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15697318027346506274noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8297732527003035649.post-56394955491212381622009-04-17T21:55:00.000-07:002009-04-17T22:30:44.021-07:00Do Hindus believe in reincarnation?<div><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 329px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 320px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5325891646360808978" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi0OS4lSJma0ogiD5VQnBfHNmziT6FXeFxVPqG8uQ20iL8-kCqz-REqNqd70VOxQ7nB0Qc_Don4yMcsa2jMCh7CycJptnbTHQIHCYuSGwFIVGK0w_q942UVlqSRwE0bYi-WBhnKnWZVpUSK/s320/dharmawheel.jpg" /><span style="font-family:arial;"><br /></span>(pic above shows Dharmawheel is a symbol representing Dharma,the Buddha's teaching of the path to enlightement)<br /><div style="BORDER-BOTTOM: windowtext 1pt solid; BORDER-LEFT: medium none; PADDING-BOTTOM: 1pt; PADDING-LEFT: 0cm; PADDING-RIGHT: 0cm; BORDER-TOP: medium none; BORDER-RIGHT: medium none; PADDING-TOP: 0cm; mso-element: para-border-div; mso-border-bottom-alt: solid windowtext .75pt"><br /><p style="BORDER-BOTTOM: medium none; TEXT-ALIGN: justify; BORDER-LEFT: medium none; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0cm; PADDING-LEFT: 0cm; PADDING-RIGHT: 0cm; BORDER-TOP: medium none; BORDER-RIGHT: medium none; PADDING-TOP: 0cm; mso-border-bottom-alt: solid windowtext .75pt; mso-padding-alt: 0cm 0cm 1.0pt 0cm"><b><span lang="EN-US"><span style="font-family:arial;color:#330033;">Do Hindus believe in reincarnation?</span></span></b></p><br /><p style="BORDER-BOTTOM: medium none; TEXT-ALIGN: justify; BORDER-LEFT: medium none; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0cm; PADDING-LEFT: 0cm; PADDING-RIGHT: 0cm; BORDER-TOP: medium none; BORDER-RIGHT: medium none; PADDING-TOP: 0cm; mso-border-bottom-alt: solid windowtext .75pt; mso-padding-alt: 0cm 0cm 1.0pt 0cm"><b><span lang="EN-US"></span></b></p><br /><p style="BORDER-BOTTOM: medium none; TEXT-ALIGN: justify; BORDER-LEFT: medium none; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0cm; PADDING-LEFT: 0cm; PADDING-RIGHT: 0cm; BORDER-TOP: medium none; BORDER-RIGHT: medium none; PADDING-TOP: 0cm; mso-border-bottom-alt: solid windowtext .75pt; mso-padding-alt: 0cm 0cm 1.0pt 0cm"><b><span lang="EN-US"></span></b><b><span lang="EN-US"><span style="font-family:arial;">A:</span></span></b><span lang="EN-US"><span style="font-family:arial;"> Yes, we believe the soul is immortal and takes birth time and time again. Through this process, we have experiences, learn lessons and evolve spiritually. Finally we graduate from physical birth.<br /></p></span></span><span lang="EN-US"><span style="font-family:arial;"><br /><p style="BORDER-BOTTOM: medium none; TEXT-ALIGN: justify; BORDER-LEFT: medium none; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0cm; PADDING-LEFT: 0cm; PADDING-RIGHT: 0cm; BORDER-TOP: medium none; BORDER-RIGHT: medium none; PADDING-TOP: 0cm; mso-border-bottom-alt: solid windowtext .75pt; mso-padding-alt: 0cm 0cm 1.0pt 0cm"><br /><b>Longer answer:</b> Carnate means "of flesh," and reincarnate means to "reenter the flesh." Yes, Hindus believe in reincarnation. To us, it explains the natural way the soul evolves from immaturity to spiritual illumination. Life and death are realities for all of us. Hinduism believes that the soul is immortal, that it never dies, but inhabits one body after another on the Earth during its evolutionary journey. Like the caterpillar's transformation into a butterfly, physical death is a most natural transition for the soul, which survives and, guided by karma, continues its long pilgrimage until it is one with God.<br /><br /></p><br /><p style="BORDER-BOTTOM: medium none; TEXT-ALIGN: justify; BORDER-LEFT: medium none; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0cm; PADDING-LEFT: 0cm; PADDING-RIGHT: 0cm; BORDER-TOP: medium none; BORDER-RIGHT: medium none; PADDING-TOP: 0cm; mso-border-bottom-alt: solid windowtext .75pt; mso-padding-alt: 0cm 0cm 1.0pt 0cm">I myself have had many lives before this one and expect to have more. Finally, when I have it all worked out and all the lessons have been learned, I will attain enlightenment and moksha, liberation. This means I will still exist, but will no longer be pulled back to be born in a physical body.<br /><br /></p><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 321px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 270px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5325897012456359858" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgHK0xn7ix06tO46vwsA8U9Cb9MEGqJcEtlRQ79A1GfOUe3gdCH2mcZ59yokhuvRHQ_RBBfvc1oUOLLFnOqBXUbD_vTw40xESST6nm2ydAjQ0gbkD8LBnpDMXjvPiZxciXreaVXiDcklJ9p/s320/ravanan.jpg" /><br /><p style="BORDER-BOTTOM: medium none; TEXT-ALIGN: justify; BORDER-LEFT: medium none; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0cm; PADDING-LEFT: 0cm; PADDING-RIGHT: 0cm; BORDER-TOP: medium none; BORDER-RIGHT: medium none; PADDING-TOP: 0cm; mso-border-bottom-alt: solid windowtext .75pt; mso-padding-alt: 0cm 0cm 1.0pt 0cm"> </p><p style="BORDER-BOTTOM: medium none; TEXT-ALIGN: justify; BORDER-LEFT: medium none; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0cm; PADDING-LEFT: 0cm; PADDING-RIGHT: 0cm; BORDER-TOP: medium none; BORDER-RIGHT: medium none; PADDING-TOP: 0cm; mso-border-bottom-alt: solid windowtext .75pt; mso-padding-alt: 0cm 0cm 1.0pt 0cm">Even modern science is discovering reincarnation. There have been many cases of individuals" remembering their past lives. These have been researched by scientists, psychiatrists and parapsychologists during the past decades and documented in good books and videos. Young children speak of vivid past-life memories, which fade as they grow older, as the veils of individuality shroud the soul's intuitive understanding. Great mystics speak of their past lives as well. So do our ancient scriptures, the Vedas, reveal the reality of reincarnation. Reincarnation is believed in by the Jains and the Sikhs, by the Indians of the <?xml:namespace prefix = st1 ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:smarttags" /><st1:country-region st="on"><st1:place st="on">Americas</st1:place></st1:country-region>, and by the Buddhists, certain Jewish sects, the Pagans and the many indigenous faiths. Even Christianity originally taught reincarnation, but formally renounced it in the twelfth century. It is, in fact, one of the widest held articles of faith on planet Earth.<br /><br /><b></b></p><br /><p style="BORDER-BOTTOM: medium none; TEXT-ALIGN: justify; BORDER-LEFT: medium none; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0cm; PADDING-LEFT: 0cm; PADDING-RIGHT: 0cm; BORDER-TOP: medium none; BORDER-RIGHT: medium none; PADDING-TOP: 0cm; mso-border-bottom-alt: solid windowtext .75pt; mso-padding-alt: 0cm 0cm 1.0pt 0cm"><b>Elaboration:</b> At death the soul leaves the physical body. But the soul does not die. It lives on in a subtle body called the astral body. The astral body exists in the nonphysical dimension called the astral plane, which is also the world we are in during our dreams at night when we sleep. Here we continue to have experiences until we are reborn again in another physical body as a baby. Each reincarnating soul chooses a home and a family which can best fulfill its next step of learning and maturation. After many lifetimes of following dharma, the soul is fully matured in love, wisdom and knowledge of God. There is no longer a need for physical birth, for all lessons have been learned, all karmas fulfilled. That soul is then liberated, freed from the cycle of birth, death and rebirth. Evolution then continues in the more refined spiritual worlds. Similarly, after we graduate from elementary school we never have to go back to the fifth grade. We have gone beyond that level in understanding. Thus, life's ultimate goal is not money, not clothes, not sex, not power, not food or any other of the instinctive needs. These are natural pursuits, but our real purpose on this Earth is to know, to love and to serve God and the Gods. That leads to the rare and priceless objects of life: enlightenment and liberation. This Hindu view of the soul's evolution answers many otherwise bewildering questions, removing the fear of death while giving assurance that each soul is evolving toward the same spiritual destiny, for the Hindu believes that karma and reincarnation are leading every single soul to God Realization. </p><br /><p style="BORDER-BOTTOM: medium none; TEXT-ALIGN: justify; BORDER-LEFT: medium none; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0cm; PADDING-LEFT: 0cm; PADDING-RIGHT: 0cm; BORDER-TOP: medium none; BORDER-RIGHT: medium none; PADDING-TOP: 0cm; mso-border-bottom-alt: solid windowtext .75pt; mso-padding-alt: 0cm 0cm 1.0pt 0cm"></span></span></p><br /></div><br /><div><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><br /><div><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><br /><br /><div><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div></div>Nithzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15697318027346506274noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8297732527003035649.post-70944852061679071112009-04-17T20:31:00.000-07:002009-04-17T21:04:04.298-07:00Live Life With No Regrets<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEitiRjxMWrDdZzMYCd8ugxLnDnDNZVTHHT5lGl0H6bHCraevCJrQ5auvV8vfwp1mPqN4fqB8RfCJ-p3xntuZh0AWxQxggnMrMS_Tkem1NopMhGy2_Qy01pJPoeEuQQNHDAYqBySjFKl3Lpy/s1600-h/916b6abfb276e2ba.jpg"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 393px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 269px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5325876760869822914" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEitiRjxMWrDdZzMYCd8ugxLnDnDNZVTHHT5lGl0H6bHCraevCJrQ5auvV8vfwp1mPqN4fqB8RfCJ-p3xntuZh0AWxQxggnMrMS_Tkem1NopMhGy2_Qy01pJPoeEuQQNHDAYqBySjFKl3Lpy/s320/916b6abfb276e2ba.jpg" /></a><br /><div></div><div><p><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family:arial;">How often have you thought, "I wish I knew then what I know now?" So many of us have those times when we sit around, gazing into the recesses of our souls, scrutinizing our past in an effort to better understand where we are now. More often than not, this journey of reflection illuminates opportunities lost, and people left behind.</span></p><br /><p><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family:arial;"></span></p><br /><p><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family:arial;">When you look back over your life, the odds say there are going to be at least a few things that you would have done differently back in the? </span></p><br /><p><strong><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family:arial;"></span></strong></p><br /><p><strong><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family:arial;">If only…</span></strong></p><br /><p><strong><span lang="EN-US"></span></strong><b><span lang="EN-US"><br /></span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family:arial;">Most of us have a list of, "coulda, shoulda, woulda"… and we all know for certain from that list that our life would not be the same had we done things differently. What we don't know, is if we had made different decisions, exactly where we would be. Hindsight is always 20/20. Navigating through life is as much about looking forward as it is about looking back. The thing is, until time passes, you just don't know how things are going to unfold. </span></p><br /><p><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family:arial;"></span></p><br /><p><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family:arial;">It's easy to look back and see where you may have made mistakes, where you may not have used the best judgment or considered all of the possible outcomes. After living through the consequences of your decisions, you have achieved something that can never be achieved any other way - experience. For good or ill, it is those choices and those experiences resulting from those choices that have shaped you and brought you to where you are now. </span></p><br /><p><strong><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family:arial;"></span></strong></p><br /><p><strong><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family:arial;">There's always tomorrow</span></strong><b><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family:arial;"><br /></span></b><span lang="EN-US"></span></p><br /><p><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family:arial;">Just because you can't go back and change the past doesn't mean that all opportunities are lost forever. In fact, it is quite the opposite. By accepting things as they are and understanding how they came to be, you are more likely to recognize or create even greater opportunity. And, chances are good, life has brought you to the place and circumstances in which you are supposed to be. </span></p><br /><p><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family:arial;"></span></p><br /><p><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family:arial;">The choices you made, you made for a reason. Whether they seem right or wrong now really has no bearing, because they were apparently right for you at that moment in time, and the experiences that followed were necessary to your soul's development. You can beat yourself up and regret your path by indulging in "coulda, shoulda, woulda" fantasy or you can embrace your unmet desires and find a way to make them a reality. </span></p><br /><p><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family:arial;"></span></p><br /><p><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family:arial;">There is more than one possible outcome for every decision we make. When we look back with regret, we tend to believe that our lives would be better if we had done things differently. It's possible, but it could also be that what we see as a better choice then, could have been a fatal mistake.</span></p><br /><p><strong><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family:arial;"></span></strong></p><br /><p><strong><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family:arial;">No regrets</span></strong><b><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family:arial;"><br /></span></b><span lang="EN-US"></span></p><br /><p><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family:arial;">The geek with the family may be a person you could never love, no matter how much they loved you. Not landing the job you thought was your perfect fit may have sent you down a path that may have caused you to excel much further in a slightly different career. Your European expedition changed the way you look at life - and the memories are something that will lift your spirits until you have one foot in the grave. You may not have your formal education now, but it is never too late. Colleges are everywhere, and now you know what your major really should be. </span></p><br /><div style="BORDER-BOTTOM: windowtext 1pt solid; BORDER-LEFT: medium none; PADDING-BOTTOM: 1pt; PADDING-LEFT: 0cm; PADDING-RIGHT: 0cm; BORDER-TOP: medium none; BORDER-RIGHT: medium none; PADDING-TOP: 0cm; mso-element: para-border-div; mso-border-bottom-alt: solid windowtext .75pt"><br /><p style="BORDER-BOTTOM: medium none; BORDER-LEFT: medium none; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0cm; PADDING-LEFT: 0cm; PADDING-RIGHT: 0cm; BORDER-TOP: medium none; BORDER-RIGHT: medium none; PADDING-TOP: 0cm; mso-border-bottom-alt: solid windowtext .75pt; mso-padding-alt: 0cm 0cm 1.0pt 0cm"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family:arial;"></span></p><br /><p style="BORDER-BOTTOM: medium none; BORDER-LEFT: medium none; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0cm; PADDING-LEFT: 0cm; PADDING-RIGHT: 0cm; BORDER-TOP: medium none; BORDER-RIGHT: medium none; PADDING-TOP: 0cm; mso-border-bottom-alt: solid windowtext .75pt; mso-padding-alt: 0cm 0cm 1.0pt 0cm"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family:arial;">What you did or didn't do doesn't dictate what you can do or are capable of doing in the future, it only highlights how to recognize what will bring you fulfillment. So, forge ahead with anticipation! Some of your biggest mistakes are most likely your most valued blessings.</span></p><p style="BORDER-BOTTOM: medium none; BORDER-LEFT: medium none; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0cm; PADDING-LEFT: 0cm; PADDING-RIGHT: 0cm; BORDER-TOP: medium none; BORDER-RIGHT: medium none; PADDING-TOP: 0cm; mso-border-bottom-alt: solid windowtext .75pt; mso-padding-alt: 0cm 0cm 1.0pt 0cm"></p></div></div>Nithzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15697318027346506274noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8297732527003035649.post-61846546211043704532009-04-10T20:57:00.000-07:002009-04-17T22:42:58.404-07:00The Difference Between Women & Men<img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 321px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 240px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5325878709625496834" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgEJnCT9S5JFKvkJV1CHnLtqn5ZVdeVmYDpSKOkgTk7ndAgl0nlM2jXul0ZOQk-KawVk5GQ3Qxf95iodMqkDql43hKxTYzrTOJGnCo1f7ogh0P_G5Qcpnt01imEsLHVwKIOxMQTt2wqalnr/s320/manwomandifferences2.jpg" /><br /><br /><div><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"><span style="font-size:130%;">For</span> centuries, the differences between men and women were socially defined and distorted through a lens of sexism in which men assumed superiority over women and maintained it through domination. As the goal of equality between men and women now grows closer we are also losing our awareness of important differences. In some circles of society, politically correct thinking is obliterating important discussion as well as our awareness of the similarities and differences between men and women. The vision of equality between the sexes has narrowed the possibilities for discovery of what truly exists within a man and within a woman. The world is less interesting when everything is same. </span></div><br /><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">It is my position that men and women are equal but different. When I say equal, I mean that men and women have a right to equal opportunity and protection under the law. The fact that people in this country are assured these rights does not negate my observation that men and women are at least as different psychologically as they are physically.</span></div><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:Arial;"></span></div><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 217px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5325878922479806786" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgKvxRWP4lM877SmMi4M5hyp_nnEfQquDXlrTNxVlFeu7OM4tBoWpkeG1hVbns9BHXaGYTEEMlmaV1irlb6LFVdNp81d0pRV_RpLtF3pYt_Pw-88cbKBgb5eDT_awvUs2Y_Z1Ko01lJ_TxW/s320/manwomandifferences.jpg" /><br /><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">None of us would argue the fact that men and women are physically different. The physical differences are rather obvious and most of these can be seen and easily measured. Weight, shape, size and anatomy are not political opinions but rather tangible and easily measured. The physical differences between men and women provide functional advantages and have survival value. Men usually have greater upper body strength, build muscle easily, have thicker skin, bruise less easily and have a lower threshold of awareness of injuries to their extremities. Men are essentially built for physical confrontation and the use of force. Their joints are well suited for throwing objects. A man’s skull is almost always thicker and stronger than a women’s. The stereotype that men are more "thick-headed" than women is not far fetched. A man’s "thick headedness", and other anatomical differences have been associated with a uniquely male attraction to high speed activities and reckless behavior that usually involve collisions with other males or automobiles. Men invented the game "chicken", not women. Men, and a number of other male species of animal seem to charge and crash into each other a great deal in their spare time. </span></div><br /><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">Women on the other hand have four times as many brain cells (neurons) connecting the right and left side of their brain. This latter finding provides physical evidence that supports the observation that men rely easily and more heavily on their left brain to solve one problem one step at a time. Women have more efficient access to both sides of their brain and therefore greater use of their right brain. Women can focus on more than one problem at one time and frequently prefer to solve problems through multiple activities at a time. Nearly every parent has observed how young girls find the conversations of young boys "boring". Young boys express confusion and would rather play sports than participate actively in a conversation between 5 girls who are discussing as many as three subjects at once! </span></div><br /><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">The psychological differences between man and women are less obvious. They can be difficult to describe. Yet these differences can profoundly influence how we form and maintain relationships that can range from work and friendships to marriage and parenting. </span></div><br /><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">Recognizing, understanding, discussing as well as acting skillfully in light of the differences between men and women can be difficult. Our failure to recognize and appreciate these differences can become a life long source of disappointment, frustration, tension and eventually our downfall in a relationship. Not only can these differences destroy a promising relationship, but most people will grudgingly accept or learn to live with the consequences. Eventually they find some compromise or way to cope. Few people ever work past these difficulties. People tend to accept what they don’t understand when they feel powerless to change it. </span></div><br /><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">Relationships between men and women are not impossible or necessarily difficult. Problsimply arise when we expect or assume the opposite sex should think, feel or act the way we do. It’s not that men and women live in completely different realities. Rather, our lack of knowledge and mutual experience gives rise to our difficulties. </span></div><br /><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">Despite great strides in this country toward equality, modern society hasn’t made relationships between men and women any easier. Today’s society has taught us and has imposed on us the expectation that men and women should live together continuously, in communion, and in harmony. These expectations are not only unrealistic but ultimately they leave people feeling unloved, inadequate, cynical, apathetic or ashamed. </span></div><br /><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">The challenge facing men and women is to become aware of their identities, to accept their differences, and to live their lives fully and as skillfully as possible. To do this we must first understand in what ways we are different. We must avoid trying to change others to suit our needs. The following illustrates some important differences between men and women. These differences are not absolute. They describe how men and women are in most situations most of the time....</span></div><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:Arial;"></span></div><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:Arial;"></span></div><div align="justify"></div>Nithzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15697318027346506274noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8297732527003035649.post-57342144749582448842009-04-10T20:34:00.000-07:002009-04-10T20:56:17.203-07:00Overtime..<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgM_PVMxYfNI7YQIIu3-PorAfHQfym7gIXDOhBCvcztROVP5pFuwe8rE7stuhIFEQwMXFY9Sl-q6q-2DFtZ8wp6P2elEiyGChQjeLDWRw8cL2hLipT8hUzjMnwhaJVW9F6KmzzZYuo1TH1w/s1600-h/time+mgt.gif"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5323275410554913906" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 249px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgM_PVMxYfNI7YQIIu3-PorAfHQfym7gIXDOhBCvcztROVP5pFuwe8rE7stuhIFEQwMXFY9Sl-q6q-2DFtZ8wp6P2elEiyGChQjeLDWRw8cL2hLipT8hUzjMnwhaJVW9F6KmzzZYuo1TH1w/s320/time+mgt.gif" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><br /><br /><div><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong>Doing Overtime..<br /></strong><br /><br />Forty hours a week isn't much time to accomplish your mound of endless tasks at work, making the need for overtime a reality for most. You head into the office early, you stay late, you check e-mail on weekends, and in many cases, you do it because it’s part of your job. But if putting in these extra hours isn’t helping you whittle down your to-do list or moving you in the direction of that raise or promotion, it may be time to reevaluate the situation.Before burning the midnight oil again, learn how to work overtime strategically by following our tips.<br /></span></div><br /><br /><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong>Work overtime on occasion</strong><br /></div></span><br /><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">If you’re always the first to arrive and the last to leave each day, you may have set your own standard. Yes, your commitment to the organization is noticed, but now your extra hours are expected rather than appreciated. To work overtime strategically, your best approach is to show willingness to go the extra mile and put in the additional hours, but not to let this willingness to work overtime be anticipated or taken for granted. In the long-term, you will gain respect from your managers. Furthermore, you’ll likely get more recognition and rewards when you eagerly commit yourself to working overtime when there are deadlines and the chips are down.<br /></span></div><br /><br /><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong>Make sure your overtime is acknowledged</strong><br /></span></div><br /><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">More often than not, you may be putting in the extra hours without anyone noticing. While it’s not a good idea to blatantly announce your daily arrival and departure times, you can work overtime strategically by ensuring that those around you take notice of your efforts. After all, part of your commitment to staying late is motivated by the desire for rewards, right? Discreet tactics, such as sending e-mails from your work late at night or on your days off, provide a time stamp and are noticed. Managers always tend to smile when one of their employees responds to an e-mail while on a personal day.<br /></span></div><br /><br /><br /><br /><div align="justify"><strong><span style="font-family:arial;">Track your overtime<br /></span></div></strong><br /><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">Regardless of whether your overtime is sporadic or an everyday reality, you can work overtime strategically by keeping a detailed account of the extra hours you’ve put in. If you’re habitually working overtime, this log will help identify your level of productivity. Frequently, those who claim that they are swamped and don’t have a minute to spare get far less done than those who wonder if they’re bringing enough to the table. Work overtime strategically by taking stock of what additional tasks you are effectively completing during those extra hours. Additionally, having a detailed account of these hours helps your cause come review time; it’s easier to get credit for something you can back up with evidence.<br /></span></div><br /><br /><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong>L</strong></span><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong>everage your overtime</strong><br /></div></span><br /><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">Now that you’re keeping records of your overtime, you need to put those hours to work for you. The basis of these hours makes a strong case for you come salary negotiation or vacation time. For instance, if you are denied a raise, you can easily say you’re working 20% more than you should be. Your longer hours should never be used in a threatening manner, but with the right documentation and approach, you should be able to use them as the basis for negotiation. In some ways, this means tooting your own horn; if you’re putting in the hours and not bringing it up and not getting the rewards you deserve, you can only blame yourself for not speaking up.<br /></span></div><br /><br /><br /><div align="justify"><strong><span style="font-family:arial;">Doin’ time<br /></span></div></strong><br /><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">If putting in overtime hours is something you do on a regular basis, you’re defeating the purpose of these extra hours, both from a productivity and advancement standpoint. Work overtime strategically by monitoring your overtime efforts and using them to your advantage to effectively complete more work and derive some benefits.</span></div><br /><br /><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:Arial;"></span></div><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5323274755041459554" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 253px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiWVyncEcUg5CVhl3Gla9C70RNtW72O0A8WAABO2znI0HoIeFQMuBmGF-YahYZ2KYs1374CNW8mlPaayErKq2Ex6yLMbVkA9cPfskLaflyyF_yOhsr7FVIUYWX-FYnpdSzxjXURKbPank7m/s320/books.gif" border="0" /><br /><br /><br /><p align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">p/s: The reason i came up with this post is because i HATE doing overtime especially when i am assigned with an urgent task/project when i have packed my things to go back home. Well, without much to say, i still have to stay late night to finish it anyway. It will be reflected in my yearly KPI, reporting, projects, assessments, bla bla...I HATE early of the month!! Reason being, my dateline to prepare MIS reporting for my doink Head of Retail Banking. Note: I will be spending 1week or less to prepare it but end of the day, the first page of the presentation has a special indication which states my Manager's name & NOT MINE. Real bugger's, don't you think so? You are spending days to complete the most crucial report for the Dept but your name won't be there at any pages of the reporting presentation. Haihs..No value for AM like me as the credit will still go to my Manager anyway...My situation is best decribed as "Lembu punya susu,sapi dapat nama" by my working cgues. My AIM is to become one of the Managers in 2-3years to come...!!!</span></p><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><div><span style="font-family:arial;"><br /></span></div></div>Nithzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15697318027346506274noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8297732527003035649.post-45565435603178880502009-04-10T20:24:00.000-07:002009-04-10T20:30:37.559-07:00Failure!!<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi6yJgqakjGur1Wu4vj4NOiuW9R7Ga4i3aH7UNfd9b_cAZMR5yXkEAFp0nReEhKJbh8ynYrDMGaUy0v-xxfcbX4oyZSRc0-fh3o4ZQ7E9ncbhM5NTtCz_SrO6a9ybJT5ghOsI5xPpe2hkNQ/s1600-h/failure.gif"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5323269898275541138" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 202px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi6yJgqakjGur1Wu4vj4NOiuW9R7Ga4i3aH7UNfd9b_cAZMR5yXkEAFp0nReEhKJbh8ynYrDMGaUy0v-xxfcbX4oyZSRc0-fh3o4ZQ7E9ncbhM5NTtCz_SrO6a9ybJT5ghOsI5xPpe2hkNQ/s320/failure.gif" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><br /><div></div><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong>Failure!<br /></strong></span></div><br /><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">Just the word “failure” can send shivers down our spine. If you’re like me and many of my clients, you’re probably not a big fan of failing. However, if you think about some of your biggest failures in life, haven’t they taught you a great deal and been extremely valuable to your growth, your development, and even your happiness in hindsight?<br /></span></div><br /><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">Failure itself isn’t the real issue; it’s our relationship to and our fear of failure that causes us pain and frustration. Think of what your life, your relationships, and your career would be like if you were not afraid to fail? For most of us, this would make things very different.<br />Failure is essential …<br /></span></div><br /><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">No risk, no reward! Michael Jordan said, “I missed 100% of the shots that I didn’t take.” We rarely regret what we do. We mostly regret the things we don’t do; especially the ones we are scared to do.<br /></span></div><br /><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">On our path of life, growth, and success, we all encounter failure. Some of the most successful people who have ever walked the planet have failed miserably, publicly, and in ways that many of us would not be able to recover from.<br />What if we actually appreciated failing? Remember, appreciating something doesn’t necessarily mean we like or enjoy it. Appreciation means that we recognize the value of something and are grateful for it.<br /></span></div><br /><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">Things we can appreciate about failing:<br />- Failure often gives us important feedback about where we are<br />- Failure gives us contrast and can make success that much more meaningful<br />- Failure usually involves taking a risk, which is something we can acknowledge ourselves for and be proud of<br />- Failure is usually a great opportunity for learning, growth, and improvement<br />- Failure gives us an opportunity to love ourselves, even when we don’t do or get what we want<br /></span></div><br /><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">By learning to appreciate ourselves when we fail and appreciate the failure itself, we take our power back from situations, circumstances, and the opinions of other people in our lives. </span><span style="font-family:arial;">Our ability to appreciate failure, learn from it, and use it to our advantage, gives us an important insight into how to create success in a conscious and deliberate way. Appreciating failure is a key to success and fulfillment.<br /></div></span><br /><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong>Change your perspective …</strong><br /></span></div><br /><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">Make a list of some of the biggest failures in your life – things from the past or things that are currently happening. What can you appreciate about each of these failures? What did you learn? What feedback did you get? How did failing in this way enhance your life? </span><span style="font-family:arial;">If you look for it, you’ll be able to find many things to appreciate about your failures. Appreciating your failures will allow you alter your relationship to failing, let go of some of the fear you have about it, and ultimately create more success in your life!</span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:Arial;"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:Arial;"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"></div>Nithzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15697318027346506274noreply@blogger.com2