Married..

In your married life there comes a stage when couples hardly feel romantic and convey their inner feelings to one another. They start taking one another for granted and whatever they say or do they think that the idea behind it is implied and need not be conveyed in words to make out that they love one another. By this I mean that couples don't say words like 'I Love You' and 'I am Sorry' anymore and thus in a way the excitement in the relationship dies out with frustration creeping in. No matter how strong your relationship is it is very important to keep the marriage alive and exciting, that you have to feel more caring and loving towards your partner and express yourself through words. It's a fact that at the beginning of our relationships, we send cards describing our love and send flowers when we are sorry. Over time, not only do we forget to give our partners small gifts of affection, but sometimes, we forget to say how we feel. There are a few magic words that we must try to say to our loved ones every day or whenever appropriate.

I Love You

Saying these words will not only make you feel good but will give your partner a sense of security and happiness. Say these words before leaving for work and when you come home. Say, "I love you" before hanging up the phone or after a particularly inspiring conversation. Every marriage needs a daily dose of these three important words. Even if you are angry with your partner but saying these magic words will make you forget everything and make both of you happy.

You are beautiful/cute

You are beautiful/cute Or sweet, handsome, sexy - whichever words are appropriate. When we first start dating, we compliment our partner daily but after marriage we think that it is not required. But you are very much mistaken. It is always good to tell your partner how beautiful/handsome you think they are and how lucky you are that they are in your life. Women in particular need to be reminded, especially during pregnancy, after giving birth and on birthdays! Men also need to be told they are attractive, though they may not admit it! A compliment a day improves our intimate lives in ways we cannot even imagine.

I am sorry

Never feel ashamed or egoistic to say these words for just these three words can make a world of difference. But when you say it, mean it. Don't say it if you just want to make the other person keep quite. And avoid the word "but"! This can kill our apology. To our lover's ears, "I'm sorry but…" translates to "I'm not really sorry, and I am just saying I'm sorry to allow myself to give an excuse."

I need you

You need to tell your partner how important he/she is for you. We need to let our spouse know that we not only appreciate them, but we need them to be with us in our life and life without them is incomplete. Make it more romantic by sending them an e-mail describing how impossible it is to live without them or write them a note and slip it into their briefcase, lunch box or purse. Just like women need to hear they are still attractive, men particularly need to know their wives depend on them..

Thank You

Make it a point to thank your spouse for every nice thing that he does. Why do we thank the cashier at the super-market or the librarian or the liftman or our friends and never thank our partner. Thank your spouse for making dinner, washing dishes, helping the kids with studies and preparing the kids for school in the morning. Thank your partner for bringing home a paycheck, buying your favourite desert and coming home early. Be romantic and send your spouse an e-card or put a sticky note on the bathroom mirror thanking him for everything and for coming into your life.

YoU ..

YOU..

Whisper sounds

that comfort,

that soothe the soul

and float softly into my mind.

Your words

wrap around my heart

and sizzle into my nerves

warming my body.

It’s delicious.

Arms

contain my feelings

and slide them into their

own hearts.

We fly.

You hold me,

make your little humming noises

you tuck your face

between my neck and shoulder.

It’s warm.

You rock us,

back and forth,

back and forth…

Like dancing.

My heart reaches out,

to touch yours.

A hushed love

flows briefly.

Then you let go, to join the game.

I’m alone.

Before you leave,

you look at me.

Your eyes are crystals,

they sparkle as they

hold my gaze.

They’re beautiful.

You smile,

lifting my spirits and

warming me again.

My heart flips,

I love it.

And as you stand

a few feet away,

I watch your movements.

I’m waiting for you to get out,

so you can

Hug Me Again!

Why Do Bad Boys Get The Good Girls?

There’s a vast difference between the words “like” and “love”; if you know this then carry on reading this till the end. This is not a message to change the boys who are good, honest, and humane and are looking for love and relationship. Well all that I want to convey is significantly very clear from the title, “good girls like bad boys”. When I said this phrase to some of my female friends, I faced a huge resentment from them where they clearly stated me that “no! Never!”, “at the end the girl always desire for a good guy”. Hey! Wait a minute! Did I mention the word “end”?

The word “Like” means to find something pleasant. So, I hope you got the difference in the simplest words. There has been a considerable change in the mindset on the current generation urban girl of the society. Now! If you imply the boundations on them then you can restrict them in four walls but not from watching MTV roadies or using internet. There has been a continues sway in terms of likes and dislikes, what we want to be in the long run and what we want to be currently are two very different things. There is something called an “x-factor”, which is present in many characteristics of boys that we categorize under the term bad.

Well there is something called “interesting”, which is far more important than “smart”, “dependable” and “intelligent”, in the priority list of modern girl. They want to be free. There is a major portion of every girl that believes in the fact, she is a girl, and she is a good girl. When such girls comes across a guy who is just not the right kind of person to know, he flirts, sometimes he smokes, sometimes he is passionate, he is careless, he is ill mannered, he is disrespecting the elders, he seldom drinks, he rides bike breaking the rules, he takes too many risks, he teases people, he is naughty, he takes credits of his work, he blames other people for his failures, he speaks absurd words in between, he stares at his female friends yet he is there for them all the time. Fellow boys view this guy as just another spoiled brat; the back bencher extroverts enjoy his company and are just like him and the goody-goody boys maintains a safe distance from him. This guy is not a criminal, he is average or above average in studies, he is liked immensely by some people and most important is that he is bad but not cheat, he is what he is(not fake), he lies but don’t ditch, he is careless but cute, he is interesting and never boring to be with.

Loose Girl : Na ninaikiren avan rombe nalavan..

Girl 2: Dei, vendam..avaneh parthaleh vanthi tha varudhu..avenum avan munjiyum..

Loose Girl : Apdi yelam solathey solithen. Na kadeppa agiduven..Yenaku yenamo avan tha “guy made for me” mathiri iruku..Altough he's bad, but something tells me he's a nice guy..

Girl 2 : Adeh loose, avan ranggi nu terinjum love paneh poriya? Urupeteh mathiritha..yepdiyavathu pongeh..ningela achi..ungeh kadhal achi..

Loose Girl : I think I am in love with him...Awwwwww!!

After 2 days..

Loose Girl : I am in love with you..

Bad boy : Amava? Apdiya? Cheri..yosichi soldren..

After another 2 days..

Bad boy : I think I like you too..

Loose Girl : Hughs the Bad Boy ..

Song ....Vizhi Moodi Josithaal Anghaeyum Vanthaai Munnae Munnae..Thaniyaagha Pesidum Santhosam Thanthaai Pennae Pennae!..Adi ithu Pol Mazhai Kaalam En Vaazhvil Varuma? Mazhai Kiliyae..Mazhai Kiliyae..Un Kannai Kandaene..Vizhi Valiyae..Vizhi Valiyae..Naan Ennai Kandaene....Senthaenae…

Loose Girl : Ni rombe ranggi ah irunthalum na uneh rombe kadhalikiren..

Bad boy : I will do anything for you da..

Loose Girl : Me too da..

Both the loosengeh's academic results became Dham Dhoom..I always think to myself. Why do this people gave more priority to Love during the time they are supposed to excel in studies? Because the movies influenced them so much that Love has become a past time for them & they feel good if they can go through what they watch in movies? Isk isk..yevalo nalikitha ipdeh irukum...Minerungeh Tamilargaleh...Padingeh lahh..

All of us among the boys have an instinct to be on top, if we play we want to win, if we give exam we want to pass, the current gen boys have a desire to succeed. All of us turn out to be with many similar traits in our persona. When in such a scenario, a girl comes across the guy mentioned in second paragraph then firstly she will try to be far away from him and hesitate to know him closely. This guy is different and in a time will surely catch her eye. She might even advice her friends never to talk with this guy but she will observe him and at the end of the day think about him.

All girls are mothers from within and have immense love and affection in them. Once she is friendly with this guy, she will start giving him more space in his mind then other guys she knows. This guy needs me! There will be an instinct in her that he is not bad, no one is bad by birth. Why does he smoke sometimes? His bad habits are too small as compared to his pure heart. This guy can change! In such a quest she would enter his life in a stronger way. She will try to experiment all that she ever wanted to do, may be break a few rules and prove to all that even she can be with bad, for those who had never taken her seriously and always taken her for granted. She would defend him in front of her other friends. Perhaps she would be sure that he flirts with many girls but all that he likes is her company. Her love can change him, she will change him! In such a stronger effort she eventually likes him too much. The dedicated female beings give in emotions and care. Whether this liking turns to love or marriage or anything else is not what is my concern but this is a fact that good girls like bad boys, the following set sequence of thoughts are responsible for this phenomenon. As we advance in life, we learn the limits of our ability. Even if you completely disagree with me then too think about it!

My priority with this article has been to tell them (the guys of today) my thoughts with clear small sentences and fast interesting format. At the end of the day they must leave the page with a mindset that I wanted to convey and I want “all good boys”, to never be confused that what is in this bad guy that is missing in him. As it’s not the ability of boy but the mindset of females that makes the difference!!!!

This post is based on the experience that i went through during my University time while observing people around me. Cerita ini ada kaitan dengan yang hidup @ mati tapi terpulang kepada anda untuk menerimanya ke @ tidak..

Nandri Vanakam...!!~

A Malayalam Guy's Proposal Letter...

A south Indian Guys Proposal Letter.. Hilarious.. Crazy!!!?

CAUTION: MAKE SURE YOU ARE NOT EATING OR DRINKING WHEN READING THIS! I WAS DRINKING TEA AND SPURTED AND SPIFFED TEA ALL OVER MY KEYBOARD AND HAD TO *&%$ CLEAN UP!!!

Madam:I am an olden young uncle living only with myself in Thiruvananthapuram. Having seen your advertisement for marriage purposes, I decided to press myself on you and hope you will take me nicely.I am a soiled son from inside Kerala. I am nice and big, six foot tall and six inches long. My body is filled with hardness, as because I am working hardly. I am playing hardly also. Especially I like cricket and I am a good batter and I am fast baller. Whenever I come running in for balling, other batters start running. Everybody is scared of my rapid balls that bounce a lot.

I am very nice man. I am always laughing loudly at everyone. I am a jolly gay . Especially ladies, they are saying I am nice and soft. I am always giving respect to the ladies. I am always allowing ladies to get on top.That is how nice I am.

I am not having any bad habits. I am not drinking and I am not sucking tobacco or anything else. Every morning I am going to the gym and I am pumping like anything. Daily I am pumping and pumping. If you want you can come and see how much I am pumping the dumb belles in the gym.

I am having a lot of money in my pants and my pants is always open for you. I am such a nice man, but still I am living with myself only. What to do? So I am taking things into my own hands everyday. That is why I am pressing myself on you, so that you will come in my house and take my things into your hand.

If you are marrying me madam, I am telling you, I will be loving you very hard every day. In fact, I will stop pumping dumb belles in the gym.If you are not marrying me madam and not coming to me, I will press you and press you until you come. So I am placing my head between your nicely smelling feet and looking up with lots of hope. I am waiting very badly for your reply and I am stiff with anticipation

Expecting soon,





Yours and only yours Kutty

~Advantages Of Not Having A Lover~

10 advantages of not having a "LOVER"..

 

1.Save time.

 

2.Can sleep well.

 

3.Don't have to bother about missed calls..

 

4.Don't have to worry about how u look..

 

5.Can eat in any restaurant..

 

6.No boring sms in the middle of the night..

 

7.Can go/talk with all gals/boys..

 

8.You won't hear "aaw.. U r dull today"..

 

9.No fight without reasons..

 

10.Don't have to listen same old crap jokes..

BONUS:- You will live a long life 

~Revenge On LoverS~

The best way to revenge someone who you love and who has deeply hurt your innermost feelings is to give them as good as they gave you...

1.     This means you don't have to fly into a mad rage and hurt your lying or cheating wife, husband, girlfriend, boyfriend or lover physically e.g Uneh vichikithu yenaku paitiyameh pudichirum inum kunjom nalhu leh..

2.     You do not turn abusive and start attacking or berating him/her verbally inflicting emotionally or psychologically abuse e.g Un mandaiyileh ammi kalhu pothereven ni tungumbothu..

3.     You do not fly into a crazed fit and kill your spouse , partner or lover. Yes I said do not kill. For I know several cases where the urge for revenge got so all consuming that it led to murder for the victim and of course jails, lawsuits and even death sentences for the avenger e.g Uneh kolameh na videh mathen da..

4.     Nor do you play silly pranks like subscribing them to all kinds of porn or junk mail... I mean this is too predictable and immature. This will not take away your hurt nor will it drastically hurt the cheating party.

In fact if your urge for revenge borders near any of the above choices than your cheating wife, partner, girlfriend, boyfriend or lover may have their point proven even before you launch yourself on the path of avenging. Yes, they have won with their hands down. Why ...

Machan cheated a girl & the conversation goes like this…

Girl : Uneh na chumma videh mathen da. Suthi suthi vanthu unaku appu vipen. Ni nimathiyaveh irukeh mateh. Idhu sathiyam…!!

Machan : Amava? Unode appu kannuku teriyuma? Ni yethu venalum paniko, I don’t give a damn!!

Girl : Yeneh ni yematheneh mathiri matheh girls eh yemateh na udeh mathen..

Machan : Whatever, try your best (laughs)..

And the girl will come up with her own revenge plan (yethu panalum plan pani panenum), trying her level best to make sure the guy who had cheated her will come back to her arms.

**I cant come up with a script for 10-15page as this is not a movie, thus I have shortened it**

After a few months;

Machan : Sayang, I am very sorry for what I have done to you. Please do not make my life miserable. I am ready to accept you & will never do it again. Idhu un meleh sathiyam da. Na thiruntithen, yeneh nambu. Na senjeh tappu yelam na onarthuthen. Ni ilahmeh yenaku valkai yeh ileh!!

Girl : (Laughs).Na intheh nimishuthu kageh tha waiting. Uneh mathiri ambalaiyengeh thiruntheveh mathingeh. Na yena chipsmore ah ‘now you see, now you don’t’? Venumbothu yen kiteh varuveh, ana vendam nu bothu, vithuthu poireveh. Marungeh lah, uneh mathiri ambalaingeh yelam doesn’t deserve a girl like me..

Machan : Please da..forgive me for whatever sin that I have done to you..

Girl walked away from the guy & continues with her revenge plan. And there, born a ‘Manmadhi – Only God can judge her’ !!

Your urges bordering on the negative prove beyond doubt that you ...

·         Do not care about the well being of your cheating partner.

·         You have no scruples about physically hurting anyone, hence you are psychologically dis-balanced and may be in drastic need of psychological, emotional and or medical counseling.

·         You want to control and assert yourself, without care about your partners feelings or welfare.

·         Your relationship has not been based on mutual sharing and caring but rather been held by selfish needs.

·         As soon as you feel yourself threatened, your selfish ego takes over and you stop thinking rationally.

So your cheating partner or lover feels justified in their infidelous actions and are reinforced in the belief that it was your own negative attitude that drove them towards cheating or infidelity.

So what will you do? How will you revenge the hurt caused by your wife's/husband's/lover's cheating? Will you resort to cheating too, just to prove to your partner what it feels like, and make them experience the pain and trauma that you have had to go through? 

Lets take a trip to imagination land a bit… Imagine…

You have just completed a revenge strategy on your lover… Say you have hurt your lover just as much as she /he may have tortured you through conjugal infidelity… Say your lover is right now in a state of shock, or pain , unbelievable pain, unable to comprehend your actions… What is your reaction…

·         Are you gloating in happiness?

·         Have you attained peace of mind and heart?

·         Have you proven your point?

·         Have you got the upper hand?

·         Have you achieved what you thought you will achieve by taking revenge?

·         Has this established your supremacy in your lovers eyes?

·         Has this satisfied your innermost ego?

·          Are you satisfied with your actions?

·         What next... So what are you going to do now that revenge is over?

Hey stop,  do you really want to get revenge?

Questions you need to ask yourself:

1.     Why revenge:

2.     Why do you need to inflict pain on your lover

3.     To what extent are you willing to go for revenge:

·         Simply commit the same act that your lover has been secretly doing… just to prove to your lover how hurtful can it be

·         Or are you one of those who will hurt, maim or kill your lover in a crazed fit , and then spend the rest of your life trying to prove to the authorities that you were innocent or crazed into mental illness by your lovers actions.

Please note that revenge is solely for the highly selfish or even mentally unbalanced people… if you are seeking revenge it is merely to satisfy your hurt ego. And you will not attain the satisfaction that you are looking for even after revenge. But then lets see if you want to hurt your lover do you really love him/her?

Your need to get revenge is simply an indication of your wounded ego, it is an indication that you do not really love your beloved husband/wife but want to control them… your actions are more the results of a misguided ego.

And you will never attain the peace of mind or self satisfaction that you are aiming for..

Best advice to you is…

Stop wasting your energies on planning revenge instead focus on the what next…

Do you really love your spouse or  partner ?  Do you want to continue living with him/her ? If Yes, then handle the situation from and loving /understanding angle. Try any of the following...

• Move From A Stalemate to Soulmate
• Save Your Relationship Today

But if you really don’t care about your lover/husband / wife, then stop wasting your energies and time and life on revenge…!!~

~Flirting VS Cheating~

I constantly struggle with the definitions of 'Flirting' and 'Cheating' because there seems to be such a fine line between the two. I often find myself pondering over these questions - Is flirting really just another word for cheating? Now it’s so common to see both sex/genders cheating each other by using the name of Love. End of the day, one of them will just leave the opposite sex after getting what they want in life e.g money, property, accessories, sex or for the of time pass. Why is this happening anyway? Why do people have to cheat/flirt to get what they want? 

Can a person harmlessly flirt with someone of the opposite sex without cheating on his/her partner? Do the rules change if you're married v/s when you were just dating someone?

The first thing that I did to try and end the confusion once and for all was to look up the meaning of flirting. Interestingly, I found two definitions, which seem to be contrary to one another. The first definition said; flirting is ''to behave tenderly without serious intention, to show superficial or casual interest.'' The other definition was, ''playful conduct intended to arouse sexual interest.''

Personally, I didn't have a problem with the first definition. After all, all of us are known to behave in a friendly manner with people of the opposite sex without having any serious intentions. So if that is flirting, well… it isn't cheating. However, the second definition really fuelled a fire in my mind. Any kind of behavior (playful or otherwise) that is indulged in to arouse sexual interest; well… that is definitely cheating in my book!

 

Conversation during cheating:-

 

Machan : Sayang, yenaku ni na rombe uyir da…

Girl: Me too sayang. I love you a lot da..Ningeh tha yenaku yelameh..

Machan : Apdi ni soldrethu unmaiya iruntha..na onnu kephen, taruviya?

Girl : Soluda sayang, ni yena venalum na kudekeh tayarah iruken..Ningeh keteh RM2000 tha aniki ungeh account leh bank in panitheneh..vereh yena venum? Solungeh..

Machan : Love you da..Hmmm..Yenaku ni tha venum. Mulusa venum, taruviya? Yenode gf kudeh yenaku nimadhi yeh ileh. Yepo parhu sandeh tha, yen valkai yeh pochi..

Girl : Unakageh na yenaiyeh yelekeh na tayaru da..

(Guy started to arouse the girl & jeng jeng jeng Girl jadi mangsa)

After 2 days;

Girl : Sayang, why da you avoiding me? Did I do anything wrong?

Machan : Tho parhu, unakum yenakum yenteh relationship vum ileh. Stop calling me.

Girl : Apo aniki nambe rendu perum sernthu…

Machan : Adhu nambe jalli & happy ah irunthum, so athodeh mudinchi..Inimeleh ni yaro nan yaroo..

Then the normal tamil cinema dialog will come, idhu kethu kethu pulichi pochi..shabaaaaaaaaa..

  The way I see it, as long as you're not emotionally involved, it is possible to indulge in harmless flirting. Here are some differences between flirting and cheating:

·         If you're comfortable teasing or playfully bantering with another person in front of your partner and your partner is comfortable too, then it is harmless flirting. However, if you feel the need to hide your actions from your partner, then you are emotionally involved on some level and that is cheating.

·         If your playful innuendos are not sexual in nature, then it's flirting. But, if the person you're supposedly flirting with gets the wrong signals from your actions, then you have crossed the line into cheating.

·         If you flirt with someone and that person starts calling you at home or tries to meet you often, then you may have unknowingly crossed the line. If your flirting partner starts to develop an emotional bond towards you, then you have gone too far. Even if nothing physical may have happened, emotional infidelity amounts to cheating too.

Flirting v/s cheating is definitely not a clear cut or black and white issue. There are many shades of grey here. What one partner may see as harmless flirting may be considered as cheating by the other partner. So, to ensure that your relationship does not suffer from the issue of flirting, it is best to talk to your partner so that you both are on the same page as far as flirting and cheating go. It is when partners have a different sense of the terms that problems occur – Sandeh sandeh sandehhhhh !!~