"Life is an opportunity, benefit from it. Life is beauty, admire it. Life is bliss, taste it. Life is a dream, realize it. Life is a challenge, meet it. Life is a duty, complete it. Life is a game, play it. Life is a promise, fulfill it. Life is sorrow, overcome it. Life is a song, sing it. Life is a struggle, accept it. Life is a tragedy, confront it. Life is an adventure, dare it. Life is luck, make it. Life is too precious, do not destroy it. Life is life, fight for it" -- Mother Teresa

Monday, May 16, 2011


In your married life there comes a stage when couples hardly feel romantic and convey their inner feelings to one another. They start taking one another for granted and whatever they say or do they think that the idea behind it is implied and need not be conveyed in words to make out that they love one another. By this I mean that couples don't say words like 'I Love You' and 'I am Sorry' anymore and thus in a way the excitement in the relationship dies out with frustration creeping in. No matter how strong your relationship is it is very important to keep the marriage alive and exciting, that you have to feel more caring and loving towards your partner and express yourself through words. It's a fact that at the beginning of our relationships, we send cards describing our love and send flowers when we are sorry. Over time, not only do we forget to give our partners small gifts of affection, but sometimes, we forget to say how we feel. There are a few magic words that we must try to say to our loved ones every day or whenever appropriate.

I Love You

Saying these words will not only make you feel good but will give your partner a sense of security and happiness. Say these words before leaving for work and when you come home. Say, "I love you" before hanging up the phone or after a particularly inspiring conversation. Every marriage needs a daily dose of these three important words. Even if you are angry with your partner but saying these magic words will make you forget everything and make both of you happy.

You are beautiful/cute

You are beautiful/cute Or sweet, handsome, sexy - whichever words are appropriate. When we first start dating, we compliment our partner daily but after marriage we think that it is not required. But you are very much mistaken. It is always good to tell your partner how beautiful/handsome you think they are and how lucky you are that they are in your life. Women in particular need to be reminded, especially during pregnancy, after giving birth and on birthdays! Men also need to be told they are attractive, though they may not admit it! A compliment a day improves our intimate lives in ways we cannot even imagine.

I am sorry

Never feel ashamed or egoistic to say these words for just these three words can make a world of difference. But when you say it, mean it. Don't say it if you just want to make the other person keep quite. And avoid the word "but"! This can kill our apology. To our lover's ears, "I'm sorry but…" translates to "I'm not really sorry, and I am just saying I'm sorry to allow myself to give an excuse."

I need you

You need to tell your partner how important he/she is for you. We need to let our spouse know that we not only appreciate them, but we need them to be with us in our life and life without them is incomplete. Make it more romantic by sending them an e-mail describing how impossible it is to live without them or write them a note and slip it into their briefcase, lunch box or purse. Just like women need to hear they are still attractive, men particularly need to know their wives depend on them..

Thank You

Make it a point to thank your spouse for every nice thing that he does. Why do we thank the cashier at the super-market or the librarian or the liftman or our friends and never thank our partner. Thank your spouse for making dinner, washing dishes, helping the kids with studies and preparing the kids for school in the morning. Thank your partner for bringing home a paycheck, buying your favourite desert and coming home early. Be romantic and send your spouse an e-card or put a sticky note on the bathroom mirror thanking him for everything and for coming into your life.

Sunday, September 5, 2010

YoU ..


Whisper sounds
that comfort,
that soothe the soul
and float softly into my mind.

Your words
wrap around my heart
and sizzle into my nerves
warming my body.
It’s delicious.

contain my feelings
and slide them into their
own hearts.
We fly.

You hold me,
make your little humming noises
you tuck your face
between my neck and shoulder.
It’s warm.

You rock us,
back and forth,
back and forth…
Like dancing.

My heart reaches out,
to touch yours.
A hushed love
flows briefly.
Then you let go, to join the game.
I’m alone.

Before you leave,
you look at me.
Your eyes are crystals,
they sparkle as they
hold my gaze.
They’re beautiful.

You smile,
lifting my spirits and
warming me again.
My heart flips,
I love it.

And as you stand
a few feet away,
I watch your movements.
I’m waiting for you to get out,
so you can
Hug Me Again!

Tuesday, August 24, 2010

Rules in Office..

  1. Rule 1. - The Boss is always right.

  2. Rule 2. - If the Boss is wrong, see rule 1

  3. Those who work get more work. Others get pay, perks, and promotions.

  4. Ph.D. stands for "Pull Him Down". The more intelligent a person, the more hardworking a person, the more committed a person; the more number of persons are engaged in pulling that person down. If you are good, you will get all the work.

  5. If you are really good, you will get out of it.

  6. When the Bosses talk about improving productivity, they are never talking about themselves.

  7. It doesn't matter what you do, it only matters what you say you've done and what you are going to do.

  8. A pat on the back is only a few centimeters from a kick in the butt.

  9. Don't be irreplaceable. If you can't be replaced, you can't be promoted.

  10. The more crap you put up with, the more crap you are going to get.

  11. If at first you don't succeed, try again. Then quit. No use being a damn fool about it.

  12. When you don't know what to do, walk fast and look worried.

  13. Following the rules will not get the job done.

  14. If it weren't for the last minute, nothing would get done.

  15. Everything can be filed under "Miscellaneous".

  16. No matter how much you do, you never do enough.

  17. You can do any amount of work provided it isn't the work you are supposed to be doing.

  18. In order to get a promotion, you need not necessarily know your job.

  19. In order to get a promotion, you only need to pretend that you know your job.

  20. The last person that quit or was fired will be held responsible for everything that goes wrong.

Friday, July 9, 2010

8 Things Women Wish Men Knew..

Let's face it, men and women are different. Men and women are different physically as well as psychologically. Men and women are different but there is one thing, however, that they have in common and that is, that both are at a loss when it comes to understanding their opposite.

Sometimes our differences can cause problems in our relationships. Below are eight possible wishes that women wish men knew about which can help men relate to women. Because I cannot speak for all women, the wishes below are from my perspective as a woman.

1. Wish men knew how we operateMen, it would be great if you could relate to us on an emotional level because that's how we express ourselves. Feeling is at the core of our being. Everything affects us in a feeling kind of way, such as, people, places, things and experiences. Since we are moved by feelings, we will react and express ourselves based on our feelings. We feel all kinds of feelings throughout our day, such as, happiness, sadness, worry, fear and anger. One minute, you may see us cry and the next minute, you may see us laughing. A dreary environment can also affect our feeling, that’s why we go out of our way to beautify our homes. Since our environment affects our feelings, it would be wise for you to take us out to beautiful places.

2. Communication is important to us. We love to talk because it makes us feel connected. We need emotional connection and talking is how we get it. Talking also helps us to release our feelings. If we do not talk, we will become overwhelmed by feeling too many feelings. To connect with us, you need to communicate because silence to women, is a sign that something is wrong.

3. We love to feel cared for. We know how good it feels to be cared for from those we have cared for. Women love to be cared for. If a woman is sick, nurture her back to health, bring her some soup and help her with the chores that have been neglected. If a woman is upset, hold her and talk out her feelings with her, this will help her move on to happier feelings. Women also love to be touched in a non sexual way. They love holding hands and to be held and cuddled too.

4. We love appreciation. We show love for a man through our dedication. Women will do whatever it takes to give men all the comforts of home, such as, cooked meals, clean clothes, companionship, support, and keep the house clean. We work hard to provide you with the comforts of home and would love your appreciation. Please do not take our dedication for granted, please pick up after yourselves and put your dirty clothes in the hamper, otherwise we will feel like your mother instead of your wife, which will cause us act like your mother instead of your wife!

5. Loyalty and respect are important to us. We work so hard to get your loyalty and respect by providing you with intimacy, companionship, emotional support, clean clothes, cooked meals and a clean bed. In order to have a successful relationship, both partners must be loyal and dedicated to each other. Please do not give your loyalty and dedication to another woman while we are loyal and dedicated to you, as this would be the ultimate betrayal for the years we have spent caring for you..

6. We don't like being controlled. Some men think that the only way they can feel powerful is by taking away the power of another. The problem with controlling men is that they use their power to benefit themselves at the expense of women. What good is the power of men if they are the only ones who benefit from it? Men, if you want to feel powerful, why not share your power with us so that we can benefit from it. You will feel more empowered by our appreciation!

7. Why we love to shop. Women are gatherers. We shop to get things that are necessary to maintain the household, such as food, bath items, linens, cleaning supplies and clothing. Sometimes we go shopping with our friends just to socialize and keep up with the latest trends. If we spend money on ourselves, it is most likely because we want to beautify ourselves for you.

8. We need men. We may not say it as often as we should but we really do need you. You possess gifts that we do not have. Because of your physical power, you have built us a home and a car to drive. Because of your physical power, you can move furniture to places we cannot and carry in more grocery bags from the car than we can. Because we lack physical power, we look to you for protection. Your physical power makes us feel safe.

We not only witnessed your physical power by watching you build houses and lift heavy equipment, but we also experienced it, when you picked us up and carried us off to bed on our wedding night. The gifts that you possess are truly a gift to us.

Thursday, May 20, 2010

Cell phones..

Call me jealous. I don't have a job that keeps me in demand 24 hours a day. I don't know how to look terribly important with a lap top in the airport lounge. I am too self conscious to want my phone ringing on the train. I don't have a huge circle of friends who loves to be on phone all the while. So I apologize in advance if one detects in the following rant a hint of sarcasm and bitterness. It's just: people who cannot leave their phone switched off or their lap tops closed in any situation and prefer to get on their fellow shoppers/ travellers/ workers nerves get on my nerves! I know, I know...you wear a trendy suit and tie, your shoes are polished to a perfect shine and you need to be in touch because you are such a VIP in your company. Deadlines to meet. New designs to forward. Ideas to share. If you want to be promoted, you need to be available, reachable, in touch. Be ready to jump at any time. I get it.And then you, Sir. I overheard this very important conversation between you and supposedly your wife. You were standing - if I recall correctly- at the mutton counter in the supermarket. Actually, this is precisely what you said: 'I am standing at the mutton counter. Which mutton shall I get? How many kg? And here is a special offer - lamb shoulder. Shall I get some?'

What happened to good old fashioned shopping lists and a little initiative and on-the-spot decision making ability? Do you ring your husband from the toilet upstairs and tell him you've run out of paper?And then you, young man! You sat opposite of me on the train . Your phone rang and at first you spoke in hushed tones. But very soon you forgot you were on a train with people around you who could hear every bit of cringe worthy schmaltz that came out of your mouth. Your girlfriend is such a lucky woman, by the sound of it! I feel I know you and her quite intimately already!There are few places one is safe from people in constant need of making themselves known.

Until very recently planes offered some respite, but now a few airlines have allowed the use of mobile phones during flights, apart from takeoff and landing. Can't wait for my next long haul flight. Not sure my nerves could stretch for 13 hours cross Atlantic if I had to sit next to TomCruise. The only forgivable situation in which I would personally allow phone use on a plane is if it was on heading down; nose first, at high speed. And that really would be the exception! How about a quiet crossword to occupy your time? A book? A magazine? Or just be with yourself for a while. That seems scary, I understand. The phone is off, you are out of touch. There are people who may have been trying to ring and you don't even know. There could be the most important message ever sitting in your inbox. The one that could have changed your life...

But sarcasm and humor aside, I am truly concerned that 'we', as people growing up with technology, have forgotten to just be by ourselves. To rest, to inhale, to feel the need to be alone, to revel in our own company at times. To see peace and quiet as a chance to replenish our energies just like sleep would. A constant need to be in touch and feeling lost without a constant technological connection is not healthy. Not for the person in constant, uninterrupted communication, nor for those who have no choice but listen. Just turn the damn thing off for a while!!

Btw, I am given a new phone for myself - a gift from my Love...Lots of features tapi tak tahu guna :p