"Life is an opportunity, benefit from it. Life is beauty, admire it. Life is bliss, taste it. Life is a dream, realize it. Life is a challenge, meet it. Life is a duty, complete it. Life is a game, play it. Life is a promise, fulfill it. Life is sorrow, overcome it. Life is a song, sing it. Life is a struggle, accept it. Life is a tragedy, confront it. Life is an adventure, dare it. Life is luck, make it. Life is too precious, do not destroy it. Life is life, fight for it" -- Mother Teresa

Monday, October 19, 2009

At The Moment..

I have not posted for quite sometime due to my heavy workload. My job is a disaster & I am seriously into looking for another job. Reporting, SOP, KPI, Service Quality to name a few was the things I had been doing all the time. I feel that I gained valuable knowledge working on my own with minimum guidance, although some theoretical background knowledge (what I learned back in Univ) didn’t help me much. But the atmosphere is depressing. The people around me are sick & dumb. The system matches the brains of nattan’s in terms of the productivity & quality. Many times I have missed my breaks and eaten into my lunch time. But I get it done. That however is very seldom recognized nor appreciated by management.

Ever encountered someone who frustrates you so much that you feel like you want to pull your hair, jump around the room and just scream out loud? You're not alone. It seems like we never have enough time to do what we want, or need to get done. It seems like we are always getting sidetracked with something else coming up, and the to-do list at the end of the day is as long as it was at the start of the day. It isn't that we can't get anything done; it just seems as if the to-do list keeps growing during the day. As one thing gets done, a new task seems to pop up.

Over the years, I've encountered my fair share of difficult people. People who don't turn their work in as promised, people who don't show up for meetings, people who stick vehemently to their views and refuse to collaborate, people who push back on work that they're responsible for - and more.

Having said that, years ago, I used to get bothered and worked up over such situations. I'd think,

  • "Why are these people being so difficult?"

  • "These people are so irresponsible!"

  • "Just my luck to work with them!"

  • "I don't ever want to work with these people again!"

After a while, I learned that these people are everywhere. No matter where you go, you can never hide from them. Sure, it might be possible to avoid the 1st one or two difficult people, but how about the 3rd, 5th, 10th person you encounter? Hiding isn't a permanent solution. What's more, in the context of work, it's usually difficult to avoid or hide from someone, unless you quit from a job totally. Well - I don't know about you, but it doesn't seem feasible to quit every time someone has an opposing view or is being difficult.

So rather than turn to some drastic decisions each time, I have tried to equip myself with the skills to deal with them including planning my day (time management), think realistic, take deep breaths & whatever not in which end of the day, nothing seems to work out!!

Here's Nithz 9 tips which I've found to work in dealing with such people:

1.Never be calm?
Losing my temper and flaring out at the other person typically is the best way to get him/her to collaborate with myself in which I will start getting their attention.

2.Understand the person's intentions?
I'd like to believe that everyone is difficult for the sake of being difficult.

3.Let the person know where you are coming from.
One thing that has worked for me is to let the person know my intentions behind what I am doing.

4.Building a rapport?
Never in my life I want to build a so called ‘rapport’ with this borned to be dumb species.

5.Treat the person with respect?
Even if I treat them with respect or not, the outcome will still be the same. So, I rather treat them not fairly. As the golden rule says, "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." Nahhhhhhh..

I have already tried everything above and the person is still not being receptive, the best way might be to just ignore. After all, i have already done all that I can within my means.

Try out these 9 tips for the difficult people you face at your workplace and see how they work out for you :)

Something that I would like to share with you on how I used to be & how I am now..
1) PAST : She's an aggressive go-getter.
PRESENT: She's a ball-busting b_tch.

2) PAST : Perhaps I can work late.
PRESENT : And when the f___ do you expect me to do this?

3) PAST : I'm certain that isn't feasible.
PRESENT: No f______ way.

4) PAST : Perhaps you should check with...
PRESENT : Tell someone who gives a sh__.

5) PAST : I wasn't involved in the project.
PRESENT : It's not my f______ problem.

6) PAST : I'm not sure this can be implemented.
PRESENT : This sh__ won't work.

7) PAST : I'll try to schedule that.
PRESENT: Why the f____ didn't you tell me sooner?

8) PAST : Excuse me, sir?
PRESENT : Eat sh__ and die.

9) PAST : So you weren't happy with it?
PRESENT: Kiss my a__.

10) PAST : I love a challenge.
PRESENT : This job s_cks.

11) PAST : You want me to take care of that?
PRESENT : Who the h_ck died and made you boss?

My humble advice for under graduates:-

For those who are dreaming to be on of the successful bankers in the future, kindly think twice. Life will then be a battle for you. Thank you for reading.

Thursday, August 6, 2009

How to choose a bride, Malaysian style

A Mother was very concerned that her middle-aged son has not shownthe slightest indication of getting married. So one day she called himover to her house.The Son came home from work, grudgingly.

Upon arriving, he found that his mother had gathered a few beautiful ladies at the house for him to choose as his future bride.

The FIRST one was a well-endowed Telephonist-cum-Receptionist. He immediately commented: 'Aiyaa..... Mother, they always say..... PLEASE HOLD ON, HOLD ON.........'

The SECOND nominee was a leggy secretary. She was also rejected. Reason being: 'Aiyaa.... Mother, this one aaa..., Secretary always fond of saying 'PLEASE SLOW DOWN, SLOW DOWN........'

By this time, the mother is nearing frustration. She called a sweet but plain-looking Teacher. The Son suddenly agreed!!The Mother was surprised and asked: 'Why this one? The earlier two were a lot better looking!'He replied: 'Teachers aaa..... Teachers very good, very good, always say: PLEASE REPEAT, DO IT AGAIN, I want it done 10 times.... SOME MORE, SOME MORE.....!'

Her youngest son (10 years old), was listening quietly all this while at the other end of the room. Suddenly, he shouted: 'Brother..... Female mini bus Conductor much better laa.... they always say: 'NAIK CEPAT, NAIK CEPAT..... MASUK, MASUK...... MASUK LAGI, DALAM LAGI..... DALAM LAGI LAAAAH, MASUK BELAKANG..... BELAKANG LAGI, BELAKANG BANYAK KOSONG.....'

The mother fainted....

Terrorism Quiz


  1. Which is the only country in the world to have dropped bombs on over twenty different countries since 1945?

  2. Which is the only country to have used nuclear weapons?

  3. Which country was responsible for a car bomb which killed 80 civilians in Beirut in 1985, in a botched assassination attempt, thereby making it the most lethal terrorist bombing in modern Middle East history?

  4. Which country's illegal bombing of Libya in 1986 was described by the UN Legal Committee as a "classic case" of terrorism?

  5. Which country rejected the order of the International Court of Justice (ICJ) to terminate its "unlawful use of force" against Nicaragua in 1986, and then vetoed a UN Security Council resolution calling on all states to observe international law?

  6. Which country was accused by a UN-sponsored truth commission of providing "direct and indirect support" for "acts of genocide" against the Mayan Indians in Guatemala during the 1980s?

  7. Which country unilaterally withdrew from the Anti-Ballistic Missile (ABM) Treaty in December 2001?

  8. Which country renounced the efforts to negotiate a verification process for the Biological Weapons Convention and brought an international conference on the matter to a halt in July 2001?

  9. Which country prevented the United Nations from curbing the gun trade at a small arms conference in July 2001?

  10. Aside from Somalia, which is the only other country in the world to have refused to ratify the UN Convention on the Rights of the Child?

  11. Which is the only Western country which allows the death penalty to be applied to children?

  12. Which is the only G7 country to have refused to sign the 1997 Mine Ban Treaty, forbidding the use of landmines?

  13. Which is the only G7 country to have voted against the creation of the International Criminal Court (ICC) in 1998?

  14. Which was the only other country to join with Israel in opposing a 1987 General Assembly resolution condemning international terrorism?

  15. Which country refuses to fully pay its debts to the United Nations yet reserves its right to veto United Nations resolutions?

Answer :

United States of America

Friday, July 24, 2009

My true friends are Back In Action!!

The one relationship considered as most chaste, true & fulfilling is that of friendship. It adds meaning & fun in life as sharing of feelings with friends helps in multiplying of laughter & sharing of sorrows. There are so many things that one can share with friends which we generally hesitates to share with anyone. Thus, having two friends adds value & meaning to life.

Living or non-living, they become our constant companions, who touch our life in a special way and get the right to peep into our secrets. But of course, when we talk about friends we generally picture a person. No matter how much we try to explain the value of a friend in our life, it’s always less. We may exaggerate at times that we can face life unaided but then we are not aware of the extent of torture we will go through while trekking our way through the rocks of life all alone. A friend makes the task a lot easier even if not smoother. Many a times we fail to live up to the expectations of our well wishers because they want us to act in a certain manner but friends are the only well wishers who don’t ridicule or question our actions but understands us and give us scope to be ourselves. Friends play a crucial role when we are going through the process of finding our own identity. As humans we seek an emotional support. Even a vindictive criminal needs a friend to make sure he’s not alone.

Today, I am not going to talk about the importance of friendship, etc. Without much dragging, I would like to touch some people who made a big impact in my life (who had returned back here & with me now); someone who played a huge role in molding what I am now. I am not saying that my parents weren’t supportive or helpful in my life. But when you are getting older, there’s some issues which you prefer to discuss with your friends rather than with your family members. As such, I am grateful to God for bringing me such a wonderful people to share during the process of finding our own identity. Below I would like to list a few people that I wish I can spend more time like how we used to be earlier.

Nirmala & Vani

I got to know these girls since Form 1 however we were in a different class. To tell you the truth, these 2 girls were among the only Indian girls that I used to talk & mix around. I was at some time categorized as ‘Anti Indian’ by some Indian community in the school when I tend to talk/mix with Chinese students more. I wasn’t a favorite among Indians although I happened to be the best Indian girl student. Egoistic, stubborn, eksyen, perasan, nenapu were among the words that they used to label me in school. I can’t blame them as I was too much mixing around with Chinese students (I could speak good Cantonese at that time & I was the only Indian girl in the class), be it from eating with them during recess time till going out for an outing. Now, come back to the topic. Nirmala being my ‘periya akka’ & Vani is being called as ‘loose’. I will never forget my first outing with Indian friends (which was surprisingly with them) to watch Alaipayudhey movie in GSC Mid Valley back in year 2000 when I was 17 years old!!!

Nirmala was closer to me as her home is only 300m away from my home & we both used to go to each other’s house more often. Meanwhile, Vani was staying about 1-2km from us. I had a good time with both of them even after school days. I even can’t forget Nirmala as she will do everything from organizing outing till buying food for me while I was studying in University (she was working that time & used to tell me that I can always treat her when I have got a job after completing my studies). Things went well & Vani flied to Australia meanwhile Nirmala flied to United Kingdom to continue her studies. And I was studying in a local University (sad oh sad). I managed to complete my studies with flying colors in 3 years & got a good job.

After 5 years, Nirmala just came back (Vani still in Australia, no idea when is she returning) & we had a good time going out together with my family members & not to forget with Y. Hope things will be back on track as she was having some difficulties after returning here (allergies, skin rashes, vomiting, unable to take the hot weather, bla bla). Looking forward for more outings with her!!


My advisor, friend, counselor, godfather & any relationship that can be best described when it comes to friendship. He was 5-6 years elderer to me but still he never failed to place himself as someone at my age. He is the first guy that I met who asked me to change my appearance from a conventional look Indian girl to a modern look girl(not bitchy type of look lah of coz). He often advice me the types of shirt, shoes, skirt, make up’s which best suits me. You won’t believe that I changed my hairstyle, my clothing’s & even started to apply make up whenever I go out after listening to his advices. One of the best people that I have met in my life & he will never fail to listen to my problems that I was going through. A person that I can never WIN by talking to him.

Logic, rational & amazing thinker. He used to pick me up from the house I was staying with my friend’s while studying in Univ early in the morning, go for breakfast, chit chat & will drop me off before he goes to work. I love spending my time with him as his maturity shows a person who knows everything. Just give him any topic & he will answer the questions well. He’s married now & his wife had just delivered to a baby girl (She is 73 days old TODAY). Not to forget, he has 2 beautiful babies, Xena (Rootweller) & Kiara (German Shepherd).

I did a mistake(I must blame on my ego) a year ago in which we had stopped talking with each other until 1 day I decided to text him through MSN. He was as humble as he is & never scold/blamed me for any reason. I was touched when he mentioned “You will always be my friend & I will never forget the days we used to hang out. No matter what, you can always trust me”.


Better known as my best buddy. The first thing people will ask us when they see both of us are:-

  • Are you guys lovers?

  • Jovial & happy go lucky all the time. Don’t you guys have problems in life? (duh’

  • Hardworking, punctual & are great jokers

  • Tall & well dressed

  • Doesn’t ask question much in class but scores well in exam

I would say he’s another gift from God for bringing him in to my life. A guy with no bad habits – NO alcohols, NO smoking, NO clubbing & NO flirting with girls. We knew each other since Form 6 (different class) & we bumped into each other when we got the same course in one of the University. We were together with our group of friends for the first 2 semesters until he found his lady love while studying. Then, we only talk whenever time permits or whenever we met in class. Things changed after a year plus when his lady love dumped him for another rich guy. I came into to his life again when his studies were badly affected due his love life. So called an angel to rescue a guy from falling, I was there for him whenever he needs a friend to share his feelings, to help him with studies, assignments & even to share the pain and tears he was going through. It was his first love, a pure & sincere one which was not appreciated by the girl that he has loved so much in his life.

We used to hang out a lot after that & became very close. We graduated together & his aspiration to become an ASP was turned down by some doink Malay officer’s during his interview. Currently he’s working in an oil & petroleum company in Miri wearing those yellow color Digi costumes with safety helmet. He’s scheduled to join another company in Brunei under the same industry in Nov09. Not interested with any relationship for the time being as he is too busy saving money for his future. Wakakaakaka. Miss him a lot & he promised to give me a BIG treat in one of the 5 star hotel in KL once he’s back to hometown for leave.

And guess what? He’s back for leave & I am eagerly waiting to see him!!

Friends are like an escape or a diversion from the stress that the superficial life of today imposes upon us. Nowadays we would hardly notice two people sitting together and enjoying nature or crying their hearts off but we would find a group of people enjoying together by a river shore or in a cafe.

May be ‘friend’ and ‘friendship’ are the same terms they were three to four decades ago, may be they haven’t still changed their meaning but the people’s approach to these two terms have really tainted in the course of time. Individuality is at its peak and in this epoch we can’t expect people to revere and love these two words as they did earlier. Of course, there are rare cases of good friendships even today but I think people have really lost track of the word ‘friend’. Now and then an associate is termed as a ‘friend’ and a ‘friend’ as an associate. So, we can deduce in general sense that the word ’friend’ has lost its specialty.

And i am lucky to have such wonderful people around me.. (to be continued..)

Friday, June 26, 2009

Something About Telemarketers...

A telemarketer is usually a person (though sometimes an automated voice called a robocaller), who calls your home or place of business in order to accomplish one or more of the following tasks:

1. Gather information for survey purposes

2. Sell you a product or service

3. Have you make an appointment with a salesperson, in person, on the telephone, or sometimes through Internet conferencing.

4. Get you to donate to a charity

5. Get you to vote a specific way, or in a specific election

6. Get you as a preexisting customer to purchase new products or services.

Telemarketers may also take calls that are generated via advertising or promotions and then attempts any of the above. The telemarketer may work at a call center, an office, or from home, and some are particularly relentless in calling during family time or the dinner hour, or calling much later in the evening than you would wish. You certainly do not have to wait to listen to the whole pitch of telemarketers, and with caller id, you also have the choice of not answering phone calls from unknown sources. Alternately, you can let your voicemail pick up calls from telemarketers, so you can avoid calls you simply don’t want to answer.

It’s important to understand the function of the telemarketer, and also a little bit about their jobs, so you can meet these people with polite refusal when you are not interested in their services. First, telemarketers in the main tend to be working on either a commission basis, or at minimum wage. Some people really enjoy the work, while others do it because they have to. Most are employing the practice of cold calling, which means they are going to get a rude response from many. There is no need to be rude with these folks; just be direct.

Well, i do understand that they are calling people, selling this & that as a part of their job in earning salary end of the month. I also do understand that its part to meet their monthly target to meet their performance standard. However, lately i have been receiving lotsssss of calls from some unknown telemarketing companies. I did wonder/ponder to myself how the hell they got my details & so on. At one time, i got so fed up with one repeated incoming call from some unknown insurance company. So, that night i kept thinking on ways to avoid such calls (please take note they can be soo irritating at one stage trying to persuade you with the products/services offered by them)...And i came up with a list of funniest ways to stop these "calls"!!!

Nithz funniest ways to stop telemarketers/junk calls :

  • After the telemarketer finishes speaking, ask him/her to marry you.
  • Ask them to repeat everything they say, several times.
  • Tell them it is dinner time, BUT ask if they would please hold. Put them on your speaker phone while you continue to eat at your leisure. Smack your food loudly and continue with your dinner conversation.
  • Tell them that all business goes through your agent, and hand the phone to your five year old niece/child.
  • Tell them you are hard of hearing and that they need to speak up...louder...louder...louder!
  • Tell them to speak very slowly because you want to write every word down.
  • If they start out with, "How are you today?",say "I'm so glad you asked, because no one these days seems to care, and I have all these problems............"
  • Cry out in surprise, "Shree, is that you? I've been hoping you'd call! How is the family?" When they insist they are not Helen, tell them to stop joking. This works especially well if the telemarketer is really MALE.
  • Tell the HSBC telemarketer guy to call on your office number - and give him the Allianz Insurance call center number.
  • Tell the telemarketer that you’ll be with them in a second; you have a call on the other line. Then pretend to transfer, but don’t. Pretend to speak to another person and tell them you have some dumb telemarketer on the line. The telemarketer of course hears everything.

A funny conversation that i wish i can say (fyi, i never fooled/try to make fun of telemarketers till now. Please note the word 'i wish')..

Telemarketer: “How are you today?”

Me : “Well, that’s so nice of you to ask. As a matter of fact, I’m a bit upset because my cat got the runs. And you know, just last night, I felt this twinge in my back as I was bending over to take care of a hangnail on my big toe. Have you ever had one of those? I hope not, because it’s as bad as an itchy scalp, and I’ve got that all the time. You just don’t know the pain I’m in..bla bla..

I am extremely sorry if i am trying to make a fun of you (if there's any telemarketers reading this post), but i do wish that there a better ways to reach your potential customers rather than calling all your customers number that you have in your database. Plan how you will respond to the objections you experience most frequently and be experimental with trying out different responses. Your attitude and emotional state is a vital part of telephone effectiveness. Clear your desk of everything except your prospect records and diary. If your immediate environment is uncluttered it helps free your mind so that you can focus on each call’s objectives. Visualise your prospect smiling warmly when they receive your call. This will help you access a positive state-of-mind. Your unconscious mind can’t tell the difference between a real and imagined event. This mentally rehearses you in feeling good about picking up the phone.
All that i can say is, if a telemarketer does manage to get you on the phone, never forget that you have the freedom to choose whether or not you participate in the call. Many people have a hard time saying no to someone, and these are the same people who consistently fall prey to telemarketing calls and tactics.

Sunday, May 24, 2009

Why Do Bad Boys Get The Good Girls?

There’s a vast difference between the words “like” and “love”; if you know this then carry on reading this till the end. This is not a message to change the boys who are good, honest, and humane and are looking for love and relationship. Well all that I want to convey is significantly very clear from the title, “good girls like bad boys”. When I said this phrase to some of my female friends, I faced a huge resentment from them where they clearly stated me that “no! Never!”, “at the end the girl always desire for a good guy”. Hey! Wait a minute! Did I mention the word “end”?

The word “Like” means to find something pleasant. So, I hope you got the difference in the simplest words. There has been a considerable change in the mindset on the current generation urban girl of the society. Now! If you imply the boundations on them then you can restrict them in four walls but not from watching MTV roadies or using internet. There has been a continues sway in terms of likes and dislikes, what we want to be in the long run and what we want to be currently are two very different things. There is something called an “x-factor”, which is present in many characteristics of boys that we categorize under the term bad.

Well there is something called “interesting”, which is far more important than “smart”, “dependable” and “intelligent”, in the priority list of modern girl. They want to be free. There is a major portion of every girl that believes in the fact, she is a girl, and she is a good girl. When such girls comes across a guy who is just not the right kind of person to know, he flirts, sometimes he smokes, sometimes he is passionate, he is careless, he is ill mannered, he is disrespecting the elders, he seldom drinks, he rides bike breaking the rules, he takes too many risks, he teases people, he is naughty, he takes credits of his work, he blames other people for his failures, he speaks absurd words in between, he stares at his female friends yet he is there for them all the time. Fellow boys view this guy as just another spoiled brat; the back bencher extroverts enjoy his company and are just like him and the goody-goody boys maintains a safe distance from him. This guy is not a criminal, he is average or above average in studies, he is liked immensely by some people and most important is that he is bad but not cheat, he is what he is(not fake), he lies but don’t ditch, he is careless but cute, he is interesting and never boring to be with.

Loose Girl : Na ninaikiren avan rombe nalavan..

Girl 2: Dei, vendam..avaneh parthaleh vanthi tha varudhu..avenum avan munjiyum..

Loose Girl : Apdi yelam solathey solithen. Na kadeppa agiduven..Yenaku yenamo avan tha “guy made for me” mathiri iruku..Altough he's bad, but something tells me he's a nice guy..

Girl 2 : Adeh loose, avan ranggi nu terinjum love paneh poriya? Urupeteh mathiritha..yepdiyavathu pongeh..ningela achi..ungeh kadhal achi..

Loose Girl : I think I am in love with him...Awwwwww!!

After 2 days..

Loose Girl : I am in love with you..

Bad boy : Amava? Apdiya? Cheri..yosichi soldren..

After another 2 days..

Bad boy : I think I like you too..

Loose Girl : Hughs the Bad Boy ..

Song ....Vizhi Moodi Josithaal Anghaeyum Vanthaai Munnae Munnae..Thaniyaagha Pesidum Santhosam Thanthaai Pennae Pennae!..Adi ithu Pol Mazhai Kaalam En Vaazhvil Varuma? Mazhai Kiliyae..Mazhai Kiliyae..Un Kannai Kandaene..Vizhi Valiyae..Vizhi Valiyae..Naan Ennai Kandaene....Senthaenae…

Loose Girl : Ni rombe ranggi ah irunthalum na uneh rombe kadhalikiren..

Bad boy : I will do anything for you da..

Loose Girl : Me too da..

Both the loosengeh's academic results became Dham Dhoom..I always think to myself. Why do this people gave more priority to Love during the time they are supposed to excel in studies? Because the movies influenced them so much that Love has become a past time for them & they feel good if they can go through what they watch in movies? Isk isk..yevalo nalikitha ipdeh irukum...Minerungeh Tamilargaleh...Padingeh lahh..

All of us among the boys have an instinct to be on top, if we play we want to win, if we give exam we want to pass, the current gen boys have a desire to succeed. All of us turn out to be with many similar traits in our persona. When in such a scenario, a girl comes across the guy mentioned in second paragraph then firstly she will try to be far away from him and hesitate to know him closely. This guy is different and in a time will surely catch her eye. She might even advice her friends never to talk with this guy but she will observe him and at the end of the day think about him.

All girls are mothers from within and have immense love and affection in them. Once she is friendly with this guy, she will start giving him more space in his mind then other guys she knows. This guy needs me! There will be an instinct in her that he is not bad, no one is bad by birth. Why does he smoke sometimes? His bad habits are too small as compared to his pure heart. This guy can change! In such a quest she would enter his life in a stronger way. She will try to experiment all that she ever wanted to do, may be break a few rules and prove to all that even she can be with bad, for those who had never taken her seriously and always taken her for granted. She would defend him in front of her other friends. Perhaps she would be sure that he flirts with many girls but all that he likes is her company. Her love can change him, she will change him! In such a stronger effort she eventually likes him too much. The dedicated female beings give in emotions and care. Whether this liking turns to love or marriage or anything else is not what is my concern but this is a fact that good girls like bad boys, the following set sequence of thoughts are responsible for this phenomenon. As we advance in life, we learn the limits of our ability. Even if you completely disagree with me then too think about it!

My priority with this article has been to tell them (the guys of today) my thoughts with clear small sentences and fast interesting format. At the end of the day they must leave the page with a mindset that I wanted to convey and I want “all good boys”, to never be confused that what is in this bad guy that is missing in him. As it’s not the ability of boy but the mindset of females that makes the difference!!!!

This post is based on the experience that i went through during my University time while observing people around me. Cerita ini ada kaitan dengan yang hidup @ mati tapi terpulang kepada anda untuk menerimanya ke @ tidak..

Nandri Vanakam...!!~

Types of People At Working Place

It doesn't matter how great the organization you work for is. It doesn't matter how fulfilling the work culture and atmosphere is. There will always be difficult people at work with a different agenda than helping with optimum work performance.

They come in various shades, and they have different styles and approaches to making their presence felt. To be fair, most of them may not even know how disruptive they can be ' then again, some do. In all cases, though, the sincere and focused employee suffers.

The following are various types of difficult people you can find during your career:

1. The Dumb Heads

You have given the most perfect training anyone could imagine. You have coached them. Additional info’s on the issues/product’s are printed & given as a reading material plus distributed through email. But still, end of the day; they come after the ‘walking reference’ all the time. I wonder what are their brains made of? Kalli mannu? Even the senior’s who are good in talking (Zero in performance wise of coz) sometimes ends up being one of those dumb heads. I wish I am being paid for each additional session when these dumbs have any doubts.

2. The Day Dreamers

This category of people tends to think something else while working. Staring on walls, pc monitor & those who looks at girl’s ass while they pass by them belongs to this category. These ‘God Gifted’ people are only awake for scenarios such as below:-

  • Watching porn’s in office. Most of them use Bluetooth & exchange in between them the latest porn videos through handphone.
  • Day salary slip is issued
  • Management decided for an outing for the Dept.

Rest of the days, they behave just like dead corpse that no one knows whether they are
Really working or engaged on something else.

3. The Blenders

If you open their workstation drawers, you will be surprised to see the amount of varieties of foods from beverages till snacks are all well arranged in tons. To name a few; sweets, snacks such as mamee, twisties, keropok, biscuits, Maggie mee, chocolates, lollipops & the list will go on. Meanwhile, you name anything that is free from a small ‘makan’, party organized by Dept – they will be the first to arrive. Besides that, food items that are ordered monthly basis which are kept in pantry section are mostly or shall I say 99.99% are finished by them within a few days. Can you imagine these blenders sometimes can drink Milo/Nescafe/Coffee nearly 3-4 times a day? That’s in the morning for breakfast, before lunch, after lunch & evening. Everytime you see them, they will be busy munching something while working. Now, that irritates me to the max. These people are best avoided during:-

  • Parties – as they prefer to focus on food served more than the activity organised
  • Gathering – as they spend more time in putting all the food items in one plate rather than understanding the purpose of the gathering. And guess what, they love when people ask them to finish the left out items.

4. The Mr.Right

You are assigned to coach the rest on the features of a newly launch products/compliance/management’s decision/etc. However this person behaves as if he was born with an Einstein brain & thinks he’s Right all the time. They will never refer anything on normal ordinary ranking officers/supervisors to consult on certain issues but prefer to be handled by high ranking officers. But then, if the high ranking officers are not around in the office, they tend to feel guilty @ low esteem by asking their immediate leader on the doubts. End of the day, Mr.Right Ass tends to fight over the facts after explanation given by immediate leaders & claims himself as Right all the time.

Me : Well, the Management had decided to do include Shipping Guarantee under our Commercial Loan product. It’s also known as working capital be it secured or clean & it’s based on daily reducing balance.

Mr.Right : Wait a minute, I have a question. Why does it have to be in a daily reducing balance when the loan term is short?

Me : The payment method is on monthly installment whreby the grace period is allowed to pay each payment due within 14 days from the due date. The availability time is within 6 months from the facility being accepted & extension allowed in 3 months up to a maximum of 12 from the date of LO.

Mr.Right : Hmmm.. (Interrupts). I think you didn’t get my question. You see…

Me : Oh (period!!!!)

Mr.Right : Working capital is secured by commercial property/residential property whereby they can choose the repayment time.

Me : I wish I can say this…Can you just shut your fucking explanation & listen to me? You are the leader or me? If you think you are hell of BIG, please come in front & explain A-Z on the features of the product right until on how to solve the delay in LC issuance. Now sit down or get hell out from this training room immediately!!

5. The Losers

They are good for nothing. In short, their value for the organization is “Zero”. If a task is given to them, they will only be able to finish the task 1-2weeks after the dateline (below satisfactory level of coz). The losers always thinks “Out of the box” (their Ass) when they have this assumption of doing work/tasks which is in line with their job descriptions. Other additional tasks given aren’t bothered to be done & prefer to curse the person who gave the task. Their favorite quotes “Why am I doing this? Why shall I do when I am not paid even a single cent?

6. The Hypocrite

The real ‘Pambu’ or snake in the block watching you 24hours. In another word, backstabbers are listed under this category. “Nice to see, nice to talk, once you got hooked, you will be another crook”. A special team of FBI’s (Fucking Busybody Idiots) who are assigned to watch whatever you are doing & reporting the wrong doings to employers end of the day. Early of the month, without you noticing that someone have watched you, you are requested to have a private talk between you & the employer. The employer will then list all the things you have done for the past one month.

FBI: J has been found talking to his working cgues over while attending to customers through phone. This has been happening nearly everyday.

Employer: This is strictly not allowed. Why is this happening? If there any coaching been done on J?

FBI: I am not sure on that but I think we should take immediate action on J.

After 2 days…Employer invites J into discussion room.

Employer : J, I have heard that you have been talking to the rest while customers are on the line. I thought you have read out T&C that such action aren’t allowed under the compliance of bla bla bla..

J : (shocked) Yes, I did. But that was only once 2days back when I was having some doubts. And that’s why I was referring to another cgue on the issue. Is that wrong?

Employer: Hmmmm.. I think there’s a miscommunication here..

J : Wth??

A personal confidence that damages your professional image at the workplace is leaked to the authorities. The fact that you have under-performed or made a serious mistake is suddenly the talk of the office. Someone else gets the credit for a project that you slaved on. Amongst the difficult people at the workplace, these can be the most damaging.

7. The Sleeper

You often see them neither walking in to the office in the morning with heavy eyes and to add hair nor combed or you notice that their office wear is not ironed. When asked, they will only answer you “I wish I am sleeping at home now”. Why so?

  • Clubbing the day before till next morning
  • Watching soccer games all night
  • Doing “some” activities with their partners in some unknown hotel/rumah tumpangan
  • On drugs

8. Bootlickers

Bootlickers are also known as brown-nosers, and the inference is clear. Such difficult people at work feel the shortest way to the top is by fawning to the management. Apart from being a shortcut, this also seems to them to be the best way of saving on effort. Bootlickers are universally despised.

Bootlickers invariably see their tendencies in a very positive light.

  • To them, it is uncommon and enviable dedication and devotion to those in charge.
  • This presents a major problem ' they are very averse to being told the truth about their tactics.
  • This state of denial ensures that the problem does not easily resolve itself.
    Unfortunately, certain managers even encourage bootlickers because they derive a sense of importance from them.

If these kinds of individuals exist at your workplace, you will find them hard to ignore. You will feel insecure and angry most of the time.

9. The Saboteurs

These rank among the most difficult people at work. They disrupt the peace and harmony of the workplace with malicious intent or out of plain ignorance. In rare instances, it may be out of sheer ignorance. Whatever the case, their influence is extremely negative.

  • You may find that a critical document has been misplaced
  • Your Internet connection may have been mysteriously disconnected.
  • You may not receive the accounts you badly need even though the person responsible for giving them to you is aware of the urgency.
  • A malicious piece of gossip affecting you may have been put in the ear of the supervisor.

10. Wheeler Dealers

To some people, the workplace is the venue for political intrigue or simple personal gain. Co-workers and even superiors exist solely to be manipulated. These extremely difficult people at work are usually power seekers who will stop at nothing. They may employ:

  • Blackmail to get a personal deal through
  • Gossip to spread a self-serving rumor
  • Spurious claims of personal connections to the management
  • The ultimate objective of these wheeler-dealers is to gain a position of strength. This may then be employed for internal political advantage (promotions, raises etc) or for financial gain unrelated to office work.

All the above listed re categorized as negative charactersin my office. But it doesnt mean that all the good peoples are dead in my office. I shall come up with a positive version in the near future. Hehehehe...I am not sure why i came up with such post in which not everyone will do, but in another way i feel good writting about this in my blog. I feel good...theoneo theoneoooo...

I Feellllllllllllllllllll Gooddddddddddddddd!!~

Sunday, May 3, 2009

The Female Rules

  1. The Female always makes THE RULES.

  2. THE RULES are subject to change without notice.

  3. No Male can possibly know all THE RULES.

  4. If the Female suspects the Male knows all THE RULES, she must immediately change some of THE RULES.

  5. The Female is never wrong.

  6. If it appears the Female is wrong, it is because of a flagrant misunderstanding caused by something the Male did or said wrong.

  7. If Rule #6 applies, the Male must apologize immediately for causing the misunderstanding.

  8. The Female can change her mind at any time.

  9. The Male must never change his mind without the express written consent of The Female.

  10. The Female has every right to be angry or upset at any time.

  11. The Male must remain calm at all times, unless the Female wants him to be angry or upset.

  12. The Female must, under no circumstances, let the Male know whether she wants him to be angry or upset.

  13. The Male is expected to read the mind of the Female at all times.

  14. At all times, what is important is what the Female meant, not what she said.

  15. If the Male doesn't abide by THE RULES, it is because he can't take the heat, lacks backbone, and is a wimp.

  16. If the Female has PMS, all THE RULES are null and void and the Male must cater to her every whim.

  17. If the Male, at any time, believes he is right, he must refer to Rule #5.

  18. I am not saying i am right but in another word i could be RIGHT.

  19. Th RULES should be abide by all Males if not our Life will be a Disaster.

  20. Females represents Gaya, Mutu & Keunggulan..Our Motto for RULES Of The Day!!
p/s: I hope the picture is not offensive..Cheers to al the females out there!!

How to Identify an Indian

Top Qualities of A Real Indian:

  1. Everything you eat is savoured in spices,garlic, onion and tomatoes & no to forget "mollagai thullu" (curry powder)

  2. You try and reuse gift wrappers, gift boxes, and of course aluminium foil.

  3. You are Always standing next to the two largest size suitcases at the Airport.

  4. You arrive one or two hours late to a party - and think it's normal.

  5. You peel the stamps off letters that the Postal Service missed to stamp.

  6. You recycle Wedding Gifts , Birthday Gifts and Anniversary Gifts.

  7. You name your children in rhythms (example, Sita & Gita, Ram & Shyam, Kamini & Shamini.)

  8. All your children have pet names, which sound nowhere close to their real names.

  9. You take Indian snacks anywhere it says "No Food Allowed"

  10. You talk for an hour at the front door when leaving someone's house.

  11. You load up the family car with as many people as possible.

  12. You use plastic to cover anything new in your house whether it's the remote control, VCR, carpet or new couch.

  13. Your parents tell you not to care what your friends think, but they won't let you do certain things because of what the other "Uncles and Aunties" will think.

  14. You buy and display crockery, which is never used , as it is for special occasions, which never happen.

  15. You have a vinyl tablecloth on your kitchen table.

  16. You use grocery bags to hold garbage.

  17. You keep leftover food in your fridge in as many numbers of bowls as possible.

  18. Your kitchen shelf is full of jars, varieties of bowls and plastic utensils (got free with purchase of other stuff)

  19. You carry a stash of your own food whenever you travel (and travel means any car ride longer than 15 minutes).

  20. You own a rice cooker or a pressure cooker.

  21. You fight over who pays the dinner bill.

  22. You live with your parents and you are 40 years old. (And they prefer it that way).

  23. You don't use measuring cups when cooking.

  24. You never learnt how to stand in a queue.

  25. You can only travel if there are 5 persons at least to see you off or receive you whether you are travelling by bus, train or plane.

  26. If she is NOT your daughter, you always take interest in knowing whose daughter has run with whose son and feel proud to spread it at the velocity of more than the speed of light.

  27. You only make long distance calls after 11 p.m.

  28. If you don't live at home, when your parents call, they ask if you've eaten, even if it's midnight.

  29. You call an older person you never met before Uncle or Aunty."

  30. When your parents meet strangers and talk for a few minutes, you discover you're talking to a distant cousin.

  31. Your parents don't realize phone connections to foreign countries have improved in the last two decades, and still scream at the top of their lungs when making foreign calls.

  32. You have bed sheets on your sofas so as to keep them from getting dirty.

  33. It's embarrassing if your wedding has less than 600 people.

  34. All your Tupperware is stained with food color.

  35. You have drinking glasses made of steel.

  36. You have mastered the art of bargaining in shopping.

  37. I have more than 30 qualities that i have listed above

  38. I know i am nuts

  39. I have no idea why i came up with such a post

  40. I wish the list can go longer but my mind isnt functioning well at this point of time :p

Lack of Motivation and Enthusiasm

Motivation and enthusiasm manifest as desire and interest, and as a driving force that pushes to take action and pursue goals. Lack of motivation and enthusiasm denotes absence or deficiency in desire, interest and driving force.

Lack of motivation and lack of enthusiasm are two of the main reasons for failure and of living a mediocre life. People lacking in motivation and enthusiasm are usually passive, blame everything and everyone for their circumstances, and often come up with many excuses why they shouldn't and cannot do this or that, while a motivated person will take initiative, try and not give up, and will not even think about such excuses.

Lack of motivation and enthusiasm can manifest everywhere, at home, at work, in relationships, in pursuing goals and in everything else. This often brings indifference, unhappiness and dissatisfaction.

What are the reasons for lack of motivation and enthusiasm?

  1. Lack of faith in one's abilities.

  2. Fear of failure, due to failure in the past.

  3. Low self-esteem.

  4. Lack of enough interest.

  5. Fear of what others might say.

  6. The habit of procrastination.

  7. Laziness.

  8. No awareness of the importance and usefulness of the subject or goal.

  9. The feeling or belief that there are other more important things to do.

  10. Not having the time to delve into the subject or goal.

  11. Being too stressed or nervous.

  12. Absence of enough stimuli or incentives.

The above reasons stifle motivation and enthusiasm, and are only excuses for not acting. However, you learn to overcome and disregard them, by becoming aware of them, acknowledging them, and understanding that you can change the programming of your mind.
Sometimes, people show short bursts of motivation or enthusiasm. They start doing something enthusiastically, but lose interest and motivation after a while, because they find it hard to sustain them.

If you wish to improve your life, you need to awaken motivation and enthusiasm. You need to realize how much you lose by their absence, and how much you gain by having them.
If you are overweight, and you don't have enough inner strength to exercise your body or follow a diet, you should consider strengthening your motivation to lose weight.

If you are a student, and are too lazy to study, you need to strengthen your desire to invest more attention, time and energy in your studies.

If you are lonely and gloomy, but wish to have love and happiness in your life, you need to kindle your desire and enthusiasm to find love. You need to awaken the desire and willingness to put time and effort into searching for someone to share your life with.

You need incentive and drive to follow your big dreams, and also for the performance of minor daily tasks and chores, otherwise laziness and absence of energy will set in procrastination. Instead of suffering, feeling uncomfortable and passive, it would be much better to awaken enough motivation to take action and do things. This will make you feel much better, happy and satisfied.

Procrastination, laziness, indifference and passivity bring unhappiness, weakness and lack of satisfaction, but being enthusiastic, motivated and active bring a sense of joy, strength and power. By getting motivated, you act, do things, take your mind off problems and difficulties and focus on finding solutions and achieving success.

Twenty Funny Truths

1.Regular naps prevent old age... especially if you take them while driving.

2.Having one child makes you a parent; having two makes you a referee.

3.Marriage is a relationship in which one person is always right and the other is the husband!

4.They said we should all pay our tax with a smile. I tried- but they wanted cash.

5A child's greatest period of growth is the month after you've purchased new school uniforms.

6.Don't feel bad. A lot of people have no talent.

7.Don't marry the person you want to live with, marry the one you cannot live without... but whatever you do, you'll regret it later.

8.You can't buy love. . But you pay heavily for it.

9.True friends stab you in the front.

10.Forgiveness is giving up my right to hate you for hurting me.

11.Bad officials are elected by good citizens who do not vote.

12.Laziness is nothing more than the habit of resting before you get tired.

13.Those who can't laugh at themselves leave the job to others.

14.Ladies first. Pretty ladies sooner.

15.It doesn't matter how often a married man changes his job, he still ends up with the same boss.

16.They call our language the mother tongue because the father seldom gets to speak.

17.Saving is the best thing. Especially when your parents have done it for you.

18.Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools talk because they have to say something.

19.Real friends are the ones who survive transitions between address books.

20.Sometimes it is better to be alone than being in a relationship as it reminds me of daughter in law & mother in law sense of relationship.....

7 Destructive Habits of Unsuccessful People

WARNING! If you want to have a fantastic life, never engage yourself in these 7 deadly habits that incompetent people do.

Number 1 - They Think, Say, & Do Negative Things.

Yup. They see problems in every opportunity. They complain that the sun is too hot. They cursed the rain for ruining their plans for the day. They blame the wind for ruining their hair. They think that everyone is against them. They see the problems but never the solutions. Every little bit of difficulty is exaggerated to the point of tragedy. They regard failures as catastrophes. They become discouraged easily instead of learning from their mistakes. They never seem to move forward because they're always afraid to come out of their comfort zones.

Number 2 - They Act Before They Think.

They move based on instinst or impulse. If they see something they like, they buy at once without any second thought. Then they see something better. They regret & curse for not able to take advantage of the bargain. Then they spend & spend again until nothing's left. They don't think about the future. What they're after is the pleasure they will experience at present. They don't think about the consequenses. Those who engage in unsafe sex, criminality, and the like are included in this group.

Number 3 - They Talk Much More Than They Listen

They want to be the star of the show. So they always engage in talks that would make them heroes, even to the point of lying. Oftentimes they are not aware that what they're saying is not sensible anymore. When other people advise them, they close their ears because they're too proud to admit their mistakes. In their mind they're always correct. They reject suggestions because that will make them feel inferior.

Number 4 - They Give Up Easily

Successful people treat failures as stepping stones to success. Incompetent ones call it quits upon recognizing the first signs of failure. At first, they may be excited to start an endeavor. But then they lose interest fairly quickly, especially when they encounter errors. Then they go & search for a new one. Same story & same results. Incompetent people don't have the persistence to go on and fulfill their dreams.

Number 5 - They Try to Bring Others Down To Their Level

Incompetent people envy other successful individuals. Instead of working hard to be like them, these incompetent ones spread rumors and try every dirty trick to bring them down. They could've asked these successful ones nicely. But no, they're too proud. They don't want to ask advise. Moreover, they're too negative to accomplish anything.

Number 6 - They Waste Their Time

They don't know what to do next. They may just be contented on eating, getting drunk, watching TV, or worse, staring at the blank wall with no thoughts whatsoever to improve their lives. It's perfectly fine to enjoy once in a while. But time should be managed efficiently in order to succeed. There should be a proper balance between work & pleasure.

Number 7 - They Take the Easy Way Out

If there are two roads to choose from, incompetent people would choose the wider road with less rewards than the narrower road with much better rewards at the end. They don't want any suffering or hardship. They want a good life. What these people don't know is that what you reap is what you sow. Efforts & action will not go unnoticed. If only they would be willing to sacrifice a little, they would be much better off. Successful people made it through trials & error. They never give up. They are willing to do everything necessary to achieve what they aspire for in life.

Friday, April 17, 2009


Something cute...

Do Hindus believe in reincarnation?

(pic above shows Dharmawheel is a symbol representing Dharma,the Buddha's teaching of the path to enlightement)

Do Hindus believe in reincarnation?

A: Yes, we believe the soul is immortal and takes birth time and time again. Through this process, we have experiences, learn lessons and evolve spiritually. Finally we graduate from physical birth.

Longer answer: Carnate means "of flesh," and reincarnate means to "reenter the flesh." Yes, Hindus believe in reincarnation. To us, it explains the natural way the soul evolves from immaturity to spiritual illumination. Life and death are realities for all of us. Hinduism believes that the soul is immortal, that it never dies, but inhabits one body after another on the Earth during its evolutionary journey. Like the caterpillar's transformation into a butterfly, physical death is a most natural transition for the soul, which survives and, guided by karma, continues its long pilgrimage until it is one with God.

I myself have had many lives before this one and expect to have more. Finally, when I have it all worked out and all the lessons have been learned, I will attain enlightenment and moksha, liberation. This means I will still exist, but will no longer be pulled back to be born in a physical body.

Even modern science is discovering reincarnation. There have been many cases of individuals" remembering their past lives. These have been researched by scientists, psychiatrists and parapsychologists during the past decades and documented in good books and videos. Young children speak of vivid past-life memories, which fade as they grow older, as the veils of individuality shroud the soul's intuitive understanding. Great mystics speak of their past lives as well. So do our ancient scriptures, the Vedas, reveal the reality of reincarnation. Reincarnation is believed in by the Jains and the Sikhs, by the Indians of the Americas, and by the Buddhists, certain Jewish sects, the Pagans and the many indigenous faiths. Even Christianity originally taught reincarnation, but formally renounced it in the twelfth century. It is, in fact, one of the widest held articles of faith on planet Earth.

Elaboration: At death the soul leaves the physical body. But the soul does not die. It lives on in a subtle body called the astral body. The astral body exists in the nonphysical dimension called the astral plane, which is also the world we are in during our dreams at night when we sleep. Here we continue to have experiences until we are reborn again in another physical body as a baby. Each reincarnating soul chooses a home and a family which can best fulfill its next step of learning and maturation. After many lifetimes of following dharma, the soul is fully matured in love, wisdom and knowledge of God. There is no longer a need for physical birth, for all lessons have been learned, all karmas fulfilled. That soul is then liberated, freed from the cycle of birth, death and rebirth. Evolution then continues in the more refined spiritual worlds. Similarly, after we graduate from elementary school we never have to go back to the fifth grade. We have gone beyond that level in understanding. Thus, life's ultimate goal is not money, not clothes, not sex, not power, not food or any other of the instinctive needs. These are natural pursuits, but our real purpose on this Earth is to know, to love and to serve God and the Gods. That leads to the rare and priceless objects of life: enlightenment and liberation. This Hindu view of the soul's evolution answers many otherwise bewildering questions, removing the fear of death while giving assurance that each soul is evolving toward the same spiritual destiny, for the Hindu believes that karma and reincarnation are leading every single soul to God Realization.

Live Life With No Regrets

How often have you thought, "I wish I knew then what I know now?" So many of us have those times when we sit around, gazing into the recesses of our souls, scrutinizing our past in an effort to better understand where we are now. More often than not, this journey of reflection illuminates opportunities lost, and people left behind.

When you look back over your life, the odds say there are going to be at least a few things that you would have done differently back in the?

If only…

Most of us have a list of, "coulda, shoulda, woulda"… and we all know for certain from that list that our life would not be the same had we done things differently. What we don't know, is if we had made different decisions, exactly where we would be. Hindsight is always 20/20. Navigating through life is as much about looking forward as it is about looking back. The thing is, until time passes, you just don't know how things are going to unfold.

It's easy to look back and see where you may have made mistakes, where you may not have used the best judgment or considered all of the possible outcomes. After living through the consequences of your decisions, you have achieved something that can never be achieved any other way - experience. For good or ill, it is those choices and those experiences resulting from those choices that have shaped you and brought you to where you are now.

There's always tomorrow

Just because you can't go back and change the past doesn't mean that all opportunities are lost forever. In fact, it is quite the opposite. By accepting things as they are and understanding how they came to be, you are more likely to recognize or create even greater opportunity. And, chances are good, life has brought you to the place and circumstances in which you are supposed to be.

The choices you made, you made for a reason. Whether they seem right or wrong now really has no bearing, because they were apparently right for you at that moment in time, and the experiences that followed were necessary to your soul's development. You can beat yourself up and regret your path by indulging in "coulda, shoulda, woulda" fantasy or you can embrace your unmet desires and find a way to make them a reality.

There is more than one possible outcome for every decision we make. When we look back with regret, we tend to believe that our lives would be better if we had done things differently. It's possible, but it could also be that what we see as a better choice then, could have been a fatal mistake.

No regrets

The geek with the family may be a person you could never love, no matter how much they loved you. Not landing the job you thought was your perfect fit may have sent you down a path that may have caused you to excel much further in a slightly different career. Your European expedition changed the way you look at life - and the memories are something that will lift your spirits until you have one foot in the grave. You may not have your formal education now, but it is never too late. Colleges are everywhere, and now you know what your major really should be.

What you did or didn't do doesn't dictate what you can do or are capable of doing in the future, it only highlights how to recognize what will bring you fulfillment. So, forge ahead with anticipation! Some of your biggest mistakes are most likely your most valued blessings.