To express the love she carries inside,
Why does a woman weep?
To express the injustice she sees,
Why does she fear?
To express gratitude she feels inside,
Why does she sob?
To express the sadness she feels,
Why does she bawl?
To express frustration pent inside,
Why does she sob?
To express the joy she feels inside,
Why does she tear?
To express the hurt she feels!!
Whether or not people cry as adults may have much to do with the way their society treats tears. In many societies, tears in men are only acceptable at a few occasions, perhaps a funeral. This is unfortunate indeed; especially when boy children are told not to cry regularly, and many men have felt cut off from expressing emotions of grief that could help them heal from emotional wounds. Instead anger becomes the preferred emotion because it is more “male,” and men may need to work very long and hard to access the grief behind anger.
Women, conversely, may cry more easily not simply because they release more prolactin, but because conventionally, their society accepts their crying. When people cry, especially women, they may be viewed as “emotional” as though this is a negative characteristic. On the other hand, most therapists will point out that crying is likely to be a great way to release an emotional response and restore the mind to a quieter place. The man who bottles his emotions may ultimately be more negatively emotional than the woman who lets her emotions out in the release of crying.
Despite these theories, no single answer exists as to why people cry from emotional and physical pain. Having the tear ducts well up with unshed tears is much more easily explained when something is bothering your eyes. There is suggestion though that there are both nature/nurture reasons for why people cry. Women may have more prolactin, but in some cultures men can be found weeping and sobbing just as openly as women. There may be evolutionary, cultural and physiological components all combined to explain our tears. Women cry not out of weakness, femininity, or the such of dreaded antiquated, terribly obsolete and clique thinking. Thinking that is sadly part and parcel of bygone eras that not only saw the oppression of not only many females, but males as well. Woman cry because they are more understanding, empathic and sympathetic to what is going around them. Many males tend to be pushed by ego, testoterone and don't show the same levels of empathy, sensitivity and understanding. With males, it may manifest in different ways-and yes, guys do cry. But woman tend to mature emotionally quicker than men, and therefore tend to have a higher level of emotional growth, which includes crying.
What is understood is that crying, especially in periods of grief or strong emotion, is often emotionally beneficial, as long as the person does not feel guilty for having displayed such emotion. So ladies, if you feel like crying, cry out & be yourself!!~
p/s : There's no harm in crying & it's a natural thingy so guys out there who thinks it's an irritating habit, place yourself in our shoes & understand our feelingz. Adioz!!~
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